Growing up, my best friend’s oldest sister was a brilliant girl, but totally susceptible to social pressure. She dated a goth, next week she had a bullring in her nose. Dated a hippie, next week she stopped using deodorant and grew out her armpit hair. Dated an indie rocker guy, became obsessed with small indie bands. After that she dated a girl and became a huge pride advocate. Then she tried to commit suicide, dropped out of school for a year, later went off to college, I lost track of her after that. HUGE leftwinger the entire time.
Caught up with her a year or two ago. She’s now in her 40s, works for Amazon, has a husband, a cat and dog (no kids), lives in suburbia, and is … normal. Actually seemed happy tho, which she never did before.
I get this/feel it on a spiritual level, lol. Though I'm not female. And would never, ever do anything even remotely... "Queer". But yeah, look, I fucking get it.
I wish I didn't, though.
And beyond that, I've seen the "phenomenon" you describe so many times that it is no longer funny. In the Anglosphere and beyond.
So yeah, this holds, very clearly, with my anecdotal experience...
I new exactly what this article was going to say before I even clicked the link.
Women shift from hetero towards bi / gay and they suffer “psychological distress.” OBVIOUSLY it’s because of societal pressure, internalized and external homophobia, etc. The solution—more homosexuality.
Interesting that this only mentions women’s shifting identities. Presumably because men, straight, bi, gay, whatever, are actually that thing, as opposed to be totally influenced by peers and social media.
The sexualities of young women today in particular are less binary and more fluid than ever before.
Attention whores, you mean. Some women would fuck a tent stake if it meant they would get money and praise.
Important note for the assholes: she's not talking about lesbians as a group, she's clearly states they are very real. This is about the attention whores who pretend to be anything than what they are for attention.
lol its kinda hilarious, they say men will fuck anything. but.. based on hours of porn, it is women that will fuck ANYTHING. bed posts, dog shaped dildos, sake bottles, fists, feet, eels.. like ANYTHING lol.
It likely isn't. There's been plenty of studies on spousal abuse, and they're pretty much all in consensus that the fewer men in the relationship, the more likely it is to be abusive. M-M gay couples have the least abuse, M-F couples mid, and F-F couples have an overwhelming lead, when polled. Who am I to argue with TheScience?
Being in an abusive relationship is going to cause psychological distress. And your identity doesn't change until you act upon it, meaning they're more and more flirting with the abusive coupling category.
Well it makes sense, doesn't it? More women means less parties that understand the concepts of agency and responsibility. If no one in the relationship is to take responsibility they can only blame each other which builds up resentment which leads to abusive behaviour. Since the abusive behaviour is also 'not their fault' it remains unchecked and escalates.
men dont like you? must be men's fault.. lets double down on traits that most guys dont like. being masculine, being fat, not shaving, all tatted and pierced, being a whore, having kids as a single mother...
and even if there are guys okay with that, those guys are in short supply.
Oh you're miserable? Blame men. Change your "sexual identity" so that you can tell men you're not attracted to them anymore. That'll show 'em!
Oh, that made you even more miserable? Well that's clearly also men's fault. You'll be less miserable if you keep blaming men.
What's that? You want kids but it's too late? Blame men. That will definitely make you less miserable this time.
The final 🤡: Become a man. That'll show em.
♫ It's blaming men, hallelujah it's blaming men. ♫
♫ It's blaming men.... Amen! (AND AWOMAN!) ♫
This is a problem in reddit mental health advice as a whole. Every solution involves scapegoating, nobody ever tells them to look inward.
Well of course. That's "victim blaming."
become a man. It's still a man's fault. It's your fault!
That's basically all that Taoism is, but that simple message gets lost in all kinds of wanky bullshit.
The modern world distilled to a single phrase.
Good. Make them even more miserable. Merely a drop in the ocean to what men suffered.
In other words, women discover what men already know; bitches be crazy.
However, because women lack the powers of reason and responsibility, they blame this, somehow, on men.
When mental illness becomes trendy, misery follows.
Growing up, my best friend’s oldest sister was a brilliant girl, but totally susceptible to social pressure. She dated a goth, next week she had a bullring in her nose. Dated a hippie, next week she stopped using deodorant and grew out her armpit hair. Dated an indie rocker guy, became obsessed with small indie bands. After that she dated a girl and became a huge pride advocate. Then she tried to commit suicide, dropped out of school for a year, later went off to college, I lost track of her after that. HUGE leftwinger the entire time.
Caught up with her a year or two ago. She’s now in her 40s, works for Amazon, has a husband, a cat and dog (no kids), lives in suburbia, and is … normal. Actually seemed happy tho, which she never did before.
(Still a huge leftwinger)
Fuck, there is hope for us all, then...
I get this/feel it on a spiritual level, lol. Though I'm not female. And would never, ever do anything even remotely... "Queer". But yeah, look, I fucking get it.
I wish I didn't, though.
And beyond that, I've seen the "phenomenon" you describe so many times that it is no longer funny. In the Anglosphere and beyond.
So yeah, this holds, very clearly, with my anecdotal experience...
I new exactly what this article was going to say before I even clicked the link.
Women shift from hetero towards bi / gay and they suffer “psychological distress.” OBVIOUSLY it’s because of societal pressure, internalized and external homophobia, etc. The solution—more homosexuality.
Interesting that this only mentions women’s shifting identities. Presumably because men, straight, bi, gay, whatever, are actually that thing, as opposed to be totally influenced by peers and social media.
Attention whores, you mean. Some women would fuck a tent stake if it meant they would get money and praise.
Important note for the assholes: she's not talking about lesbians as a group, she's clearly states they are very real. This is about the attention whores who pretend to be anything than what they are for attention.
lol its kinda hilarious, they say men will fuck anything. but.. based on hours of porn, it is women that will fuck ANYTHING. bed posts, dog shaped dildos, sake bottles, fists, feet, eels.. like ANYTHING lol.
Thank you for doing the research.
Haven't read TFA, but I already know "It's ThePatriarchy!!!!".
It likely isn't. There's been plenty of studies on spousal abuse, and they're pretty much all in consensus that the fewer men in the relationship, the more likely it is to be abusive. M-M gay couples have the least abuse, M-F couples mid, and F-F couples have an overwhelming lead, when polled. Who am I to argue with TheScience?
Being in an abusive relationship is going to cause psychological distress. And your identity doesn't change until you act upon it, meaning they're more and more flirting with the abusive coupling category.
Well it makes sense, doesn't it? More women means less parties that understand the concepts of agency and responsibility. If no one in the relationship is to take responsibility they can only blame each other which builds up resentment which leads to abusive behaviour. Since the abusive behaviour is also 'not their fault' it remains unchecked and escalates.
Whatever happened to self-reflection? Do they still teach that?
men dont like you? must be men's fault.. lets double down on traits that most guys dont like. being masculine, being fat, not shaving, all tatted and pierced, being a whore, having kids as a single mother...
and even if there are guys okay with that, those guys are in short supply.