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bamboozler1 1 point ago +1 / -0

Yeah, it's fine. But that's all it is. Fine. Dull. Beige. "Adequate". Perfect if you don't care about never fitting in (I tried. Really damn hard), or having decent bars, or good (beyond average) cuisine...

But I can honestly say that it's no mystery to me why most expats (from other Western countries) hate it here...

Did your friends go up North? Because I believe that's where most of the more exciting, "authentic" experiences are to be found.

Stockholm is just meh. Overpriced, over-competitive meh.

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bamboozler1 -2 points ago +1 / -3

Hard disagree.

Sontag was also a childless lesbian (sort of. She swung both ways). I disagree with her (and Orwell) on many things. That absolutely does not mean discounting them on things when they are generally right.

Both her and Orwell's observations were extremely on point. Just because they don't align with your personal prejudices against certain groups doesn't invalidate their opinions here.

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bamboozler1 3 points ago +3 / -0

Yeah, I guess. But I would personally argue that bottling up almost all emotions like they do here is not particularly healthy…

Hence the extremely high suicide rates. And the related fact that so many of them live alone, and die alone (there’s a documentary on this, the Swedish Theory of Love, and it is revealing)… And the alcoholism, and the domestic violence. It’s just not healthy, whatever moral superiority complex people here may claim…

It also results in extreme conformity and compliance, to the point where I could easily see how an authoritarian leader, of whatever political persuasion, could win here, and convince the population to do bad things, “for the greater good”…

They’re not very rebellious (anymore). They’re not particularly brave (men are so cowardly that they just… Don't even talk to women, here. So thus I stand out, and that’s despite my usually being piss-poor at that). The main objective seems to be “Don’t stand out. Don’t do anything flashy. I don’t matter and neither do you. And you should never think you’re special.”

I just… Don’t find all that particularly healthy. And neither has any foreigner I have met (or dated) while here.

I’m not sure how much of that translates to your family in Minnesota, though, and I certainly don’t mean any offence.

I’ve dated a number of Swedish girls. I obviously chose to move here. But I just… I see a lot of problems with the culture, post-1970s, here. And I think it’s important to point them out (just as I do with Aus), because no one here does that. And someone damn well needs to…

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bamboozler1 1 point ago +1 / -0

I’m here right now. I’ve been here for almost exactly six months.

It’s… Ok. That is the best I can say about it.

The national bird (possible even animal) is a blackbird. The weather is, for six months of the year, solidly beige, if not outright grey. I would describe their “national character” as also beige.

It’s just… Meh. Like a giant suburb.

Yes, the average woman here is more attractive than in Anglo countries. And yes, it’s fairly safe (depending where you are), and pay is fairly good. But it’s expensive, accommodation is shit, and culturally it’s just… A bit off.

As I have discussed extensively with other foreigners here (mostly English-speakers, but also French et al), it’s just… Very “cold” culturally, and very… Reserved. Exactly as Sontag described it. And they judge you fairly openly. And they fucking love staring…

You know what I would say to really piss Swedes off..? I preferred Denmark. And it’s true. I did. I also preferred Finland, for that matter…

But I’m glad your friends had a great time. I don’t… Hate it here, but if, for some reason, I decided to come back again, long-term, I don’t think I would live in Stockholm.

Quite literally everywhere else I have been in Sweden, with the exception of the village I lived in for three months, has been better than the capital…

Stockholm just… Doesn’t work, for me. I’m not sure why, but it doesn’t.

Unlike Gothenburg or Malmö, that is.

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bamboozler1 10 points ago +11 / -1

My favourite bit, I think:

"One of the great hatchet jobs of modern American letters, Sontag’s 16-page Letter from Sweden, published in the July 1969 issue of Ramparts magazine, spared few sections of Swedish society. Swedes were obsessively obedient of petty rules: “Old ladies glare at you when you cross an empty street against the light”. But when things go wrong “hardly anyone gets fired”: Sontag saw Swedes as so pathologically frightened of conflict that they turn a blind eye to incompetence and failure. Southern European immigrants told Sontag they found Swedes “unbearably cold, stiff and priggish”, and Sontag agreed.

Superficially, Sontag considered Sweden to be much like the US or West Germany – “six-lane highways, suburban shopping centres… refined and partly detoxified by the condition of advanced ‘welfare state enlightenment’”. But on closer examination she found Sweden full of meanness and pedantry. Swedes split restaurant and taxi bills to the last cent, were notoriously shifty about planning social engagements, and – worst of all – continually smoked Sontag’s cigarettes without returning the favour."

If anything, these habitws seem to have gotten worse, not better, since this country's open embrace of high-level low-skill immigration, feminism and "socialism". It's been 55 years, but I still see those pathologies every day, here, lol...

It's painfully accurate. No wonder people here get so prickly about that letter she wrote, lol.

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bamboozler1 2 points ago +2 / -0

Or, in the case of female PhDs, they never actually struggled that much for “popularity”, but are still insecure, so have decided they are “smort”, and deserve academic recognition for their weird niche pursuits…

I know someone who is pursuing a PhD in “musicology”. She’s really not a nice person to be around, but then again, she’s thought the sun shines out of her own arse for at least a decade, so… Yeah.

Ironically was quite a nice person when we were younger, but then something changed (I never figured out exactly what, so I can only guess), and her whole personality did a 180, and she developed an ever-bigger ego. Not the only girl I know who that happened to (all academic “high achievers”, not coincidentally), but I try not to think about it too much…

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bamboozler1 1 point ago +1 / -0

Nah, I hate them too, dude. It’s just cringe, to me…

But I’ve been hanging out with Zoomers a bit, and it is all they do, at parties/when out unfortunately…

Going to a (depressingly, sober) “rave” with said Zoomers was made thoroughly less enjoyable by this fact.

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bamboozler1 1 point ago +1 / -0

I’ve asked this before, but what is with liberals and drag..? They even force it into completely unrelated shit, like advertising for phone companies, or the lottery, now. I just don’t get it.

It genuinely makes my skin crawl. But it’s fucking everywhere, in almost every Western country (except France, which was nice) I’ve been to in the last few years…

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bamboozler1 1 point ago +1 / -0

It’s also because higher degrees have become so devalued…

Masters is the new Bachelors. PhD is the new Masters. And yet the number of actually useful things one can do a PhD in has remained largely the same. Hence the utter devaluation of the qualification…

I went to a PhD information session where I was essentially told that if you wanted funding, and to “do well”, you would pick from this list of topics your (woke) faculty had pre-ordained, and take whatever supervisor they recommended you…

Higher level academia was never meant to work like that. That’s a recipe for disaster…

But, gotta keep churning out those grads, I guess!

It was… Disappointing, to say the least.

I hate to think how bad it must be in the Humanities, now…

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bamboozler1 1 point ago +1 / -0

I know you meant “chose history and anthropology”, but I had a few fun moments picturing you somehow studying the history of the garden hose, and its relationship to anthropology, lol…

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bamboozler1 2 points ago +2 / -0

One positive thing I will say, though, is that people massively exaggerate how bad winter is, here (at least in Svealand and south of here. I haven't been particularly far north, sadly).

Like, if this country just embraced Winter more, and didn't attempt to hide from it/close everything for most of the day (lol at 11:00 to 16:00 opening hours), then it really wouldn't be that bad.

The weather is not the problem, IMHO... It's the weird fear of winter that is more "problematic", I feel. At least once you get used to the early sunset, which took me... Maybe one month, to adjust?

But yeah, maybe the "winter is coming" fear made sense for a culture of agrarian people, but not when you live in a city of a few hundred thousand, lol.

I will admit that it was incredibly depressing living out in "proper" rural Sweden for a while, when it started to get dark and cold. So I get that bit I guess. That sucked.

And so I left there, ahaha...

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bamboozler1 2 points ago +2 / -0

Slight rant, but I hate the communal laundry system... It is the dumbest, most open-to-abuse thing I have seen in a long time...

Allows for ridiculous shit like the bitch from yesterday booking out six hours over the course of two days, and then deliberately only using half the laundry for a brief time, but still complaining that someone impinged upon "her booking" (because again, I got there first, and I was finishing up when she arrived), and then to still fuck with everyone else (like she did with my washing), and keep her stuff in the dryer all afternoon...

Because unfortunately that's the reality of human interaction, and a system like this (plus not knowing your neighbours, because Sweden) opens the whole thing up to obvious abuse...

It feels, no offence, but very Swedish, to me. To just assume that a system like this will work, because "people respect each other" and "that's just how it is". And then to sweep it under the carpet when the "system" breaks down, ugh...

I had an ex who lived in an apartment building with the same system, in Sydney, but that was probably only 20-30 people sharing, so it was slightly less crazy. But yeah, even that experience, of staying with her, was enough to put me off the whole idea, lol.

I really don't understand why the garbage room is locked up, but the laundry is just open to the whole building like that. That's bizarre, to me.

It's kind of more like the opposite, in Aus, for the most part, tbh.

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bamboozler1 1 point ago +1 / -0

Sounds like camping in Australia, in about six months of the year...

Almost literally impossible to sleep past 6:30am, ha. Great if you want to get up for a hike - not so good if you've been drinking around the campfire, or you're at a festival, from extensive experience, lol.

But yeah, we don't generally build with East-facing windows, for exactly this reason.

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bamboozler1 21 points ago +23 / -2

I mean, Korra got pretty "woke" towards the end there, with the alphabet soup shit, so this is not that surprising, unfortunately...

As a fan of the OG series, the first few Korra seasons were ok, but man did it really fall off a quality cliff/jump the shark, storyline-wise, there (much like GOT, I guess)...

But yeah, this is much, much more blatant, obviously, lol...

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bamboozler1 13 points ago +13 / -0

Also, for the non-Nordic people out there, like me...

Sweden doesn't really have personal/private laundries, like is the expected norm in most Western countries. Unless you're very wealthy, you just don't.

Living in a house, rather than an apartment, is unusual. Even in small towns. Therefore everyone is relying on these shitty communal laundries in their apartment buildings, and fighting over one or two machines for hundreds of people.

Because laundries are seen as "luxury items". As are cars. As are houses. As are fucking enclosed showers (i.e. not just a wet room).

But no public laundromats either. Because that would mean a) cash, and b) having to potentially talk to strangers, both of which are anathema to the "Swedish condition", in modernity...

This is a very fucking strange place, I gotta say. Like, fuck, you think Western Europe is "foreign"..? Try living here.

The 1970s (when "socialism" first came here, and the government began seizing property and demolishing private houses) have so much to answer for, in this stupid country...

Any country where windowless bedrooms (technically illegal in pretty much all Anglo countries, including the US) are not just legal, but encouraged, is no "socialist utopia", whatever the propaganda may say...

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bamboozler1 8 points ago +8 / -0

Update to this: This is a communal laundry situation (unfortunately).

Bitch followed up by taking my wet, not-yet-fully-washed clothes out of the washing machine, dumping them, and writing me a passive-aggressive note saying that next time she would throw my clothes away, for "disrespecting her", which she left on top of the clothes...

Amazing. Extraordinary levels of entitlement. And this was after I tried to help, this morning, by warning her that one of the dryers in said communal laundry wasn't working properly...

Actual definition of "nasty woman". What no sex and 50 years of hardcore feminism disguised as "equality" does to a mofo, I suppose.

But still, wow...

You just don't usually experience that level of sheer pettiness in similar situations in Aus. In general. That's a cultural thing, and it's nasty...

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bamboozler1 4 points ago +4 / -0

The left's determination to connect everything and everyone they don't like really has reached new levels of desperation, hasn't it..?

And this isn't even some obscure far left group/nobody, this is the fucking Rolling Stone (apparently)...

Madness.

Appreciation of beauty makes you a fascist sympathizer now. Because of course it does (in their minds)...

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bamboozler1 8 points ago +8 / -0

I briefly considered going to "Design School". Went to an Open Day, saw the type of shit that students were producing for their final projects, and had a similar visceral reaction...

Though at least "Industrial Design" has the potential to be useful, arguably...

Pity that the type of students attracted to it are busy wanting to "change the world", rather than actually doing shit better or more efficiently, but still...

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bamboozler1 11 points ago +11 / -0

Lol, I just had a Swedish girl this morning try the “because I’m a woman” approach to demanding first dibs on something (not important what. We both paid for it), even though I was there first…

I just laughed and walked away. She just sighed and moaned.

Not middle-aged, but looked exactly like the type of girl you would expect to do that (glasses, bullring). Just thought it was rather amusing…

I ain’t giving you priority just coz you’ve got tits, love. 🖕🏻

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bamboozler1 5 points ago +5 / -0

This is a pretty weird way to cover for the fact that Gemini fucked up those historical images this week, lol…

If this is an attempt at “covering arse”, it’s a pretty poor one, to say the least

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bamboozler1 7 points ago +7 / -0

Yeah, I know. Guess I should have tagged it as “Old”.

I think he left in 2022, though. Like halfway through the season or some shit…

But yeah, 10 seasons, though it stops being actually watchable without becoming pure cringe around… Season 6, or 7. After that it… Never recovered.

Should really have ended when the grandfather died (IRL, George Segal of course), but anyway…

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bamboozler1 6 points ago +6 / -0

As the other comment says, probably "post-wall women" in general...

She genuinely seems like a nasty piece of work. She always has. And extremely thin-skinned, too. Anytime anyone would say anything even remotely critical of that show on, say, Twitter, she would be out attacking them and even threatening legal action...

Also odd that she went from "star" of said show to one of the head writers, by the end, so perhaps she got rid of Garlin as some sort of "rival" or "threat" to her star power...

Who fucking knows, honestly.

Oh, they're both Jews, btw, for the people in the back. At least, I believe so. I mean, it's "The Goldbergs". I think that's pretty much a given, at this point...

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bamboozler1 8 points ago +8 / -0

Side note: "Hollywood" ruined this poor girl (and her family, by the sounds. There are three sisters - all actresses), from said show.

This is the before (although she's already had some work done here, including teeth and completely changing her hair - colour, style, et al (RIP redheads) - https://archive.is/kU1gf

The site is trash, yes, but it's surprisingly hard to find before pictures...

Aaand this is her now, specifically her Instagram, which I would archive, but you can't: https://www.instagram.com/natalynlind/

Just another cyborgian freakazoid narcissist with too much money, and too little sense. She's had everything done, now. Like Dove Cameron, or Erin Moriarty, or any of these other generic "washed out' blonde lookalikes. There's clearly something in the water at DC Films, unfortunately (all three have acted in DC series)...

Sad, IMHO. She was damn cute, before.

I believe that when they brought her back for a guest appearance on said shit show, they almost had to completely rewrite her character, because she bears virtually no resemblance whatsoever to her former self, lol. It was rather uncanny...

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bamboozler1 2 points ago +3 / -1

If the Conservatives somehow manage to win the next election, I will attempt to eat a hat (apparently people have tried before, though I'm not sure I even own a leather hat).

There's historical precedent, of course (mostly from the 90s, in the UK and Australia), but it seems... Almost failingly unlikely.

I expect, and hope, much like you do, that they get absolutely obliterated...

I fucking hate Starmer (slimy fuck), but at least he doesn't pretend to be the exact opposite of what he really is, is actually able to string a speech together (or, ya know, read from the teleprompter) and not look like a fucking clone, and, finally, doesn't have an inherited net worth higher than the GDP of several countries, like fucking Sunak and wife (definition of "Brahmin nepo babies", if ever I saw one).

Sunak makes my skin crawl. Somehow even more than Starmer does...

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bamboozler1 5 points ago +5 / -0

I feel like even then, you would have the issue of regionalism in bureaucracy... Like, even if they did that, the current system means that all of the constituent parts of the UK apart from England would still maintain their parliaments, public service, etc.

And you've presumably heard of how dysfunctional Stormont (Norn Iron) and Holyrood (Scotland) already are..? I don't know enough about Wales, but I think it may be similar, too (politics there is even fucking weirder, in my understanding)...

With Norn there's almost no chance of overcoming the sectarianism there enough to get one of the not-explicitly-sectarian parties over the line (also power sharing, which is a nightmare), and with Scotland... There's not really much of an "opposition" to the SNP apart from Labour (they hate the Conservatives up there, with a passion)...

There's also the fact that "the North" only really voted Con because the Cons promised to deliver on Brexit, and then utterly, utterly failed to do anything of substance beyond that. There is almost zero chance of the North not voting Labour again this time around, and that's a huge chunk of the population right there...

So while I like your idea, I'd go so far as to say that it's more than just extreme - it's almost functionally impossible, sadly.

But also yes. That would be the only hope. But I just don't see it happening, like, at all...

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