I am getting a new coworker that I will likely need to work closely with, and it’s a “they/them”. Haven’t seen this person or a picture yet, so not sure if it’s a female or male at this point.
What are some tips for dealing with this? Should I just completely ignore the issue and make on as if it isn’t “a thing”, just avoiding the use of pronouns? I want to keep my job, but I don’t want to betray reality and my principles.
This one is easy: never use pronouns when referring to this person. Simply use his/her proper name in every context.
Pronouns are meant to be useful and convenient shorthand for the speaker, not an ideological purity test to validate the worldview of the subject.
This and they use them to force others to comply with their fantasy. You do not use pronouns when speaking about someone present. That is considered rude. It’s an attempt to control your thought when the individual is not around
This is the way.
Also, start looking for a new job right fucking now. Even if they aren't planning to destroy you, the woke will take hold and the time to exit is now, while they're still profitable enough to hire people.
If it's a woman then you are fucked. If you interact to little she will report you, if you interact with her to much she will report you.
If it's a dude just minimize your interactions. Also talk about your kids, I noticed that that immediately stops any non-work related interactions.
The thing about pronouns is that they never get brought up. When you talk to someone you do not use he/him.
Somewhat funny story, since I work in tech and teams tend to be multi-national, there was a lot of confusion about who was going to do some tasks. It was along the lines "them are going to do the tasks" - "ok, who is going to do the tasks" - "Gomez is" - "Gomez and who?" - break to explain that he identifies as "they/them" and what that means - very awkward silence after.
The westerners underestimate how alien the use of "they/them" is for the rest of the world.
Sure come at church on Sunday and you can see them after service.
Well, your kids are.
Or just lie. "Oh yeah, I'd love for you to meet my family! But we're super busy these next few weeks, maybe we can figure something out some other time?" And repeat every time you're asked. What are they gonna do, question you?
A couple of sharp knives, a few buddies with shovels, and you can do the world a favor one heart at a time.
Another good one to shut down conversation is when asked something like “how are you?” Actually go into detail about how you are doing. It’s used as a polite greeting but most people really aren’t interested in knowing any real detail. They just expect the reply to be good and to carry on
I used to watch "Billions" and one character wants to be referred to as they/them. When said person wasn't around and people used they/them, I honestly got lost a few times thinking they were referring to a group.
One of those two things is happening. Might as well decide now, before the choice is taken from you.
For my part, I'd rather go job hunting than associate with freaks.
It’s a good gig… I ain’t gonna let no mental case take it away from me. That’s giving power to these idiots.
I'm on the same boat as you. There is no non-woke option for me. All tech companies are insanely woke.
I'm not sure that's true. Maybe if you are looking at large corporations, famous companies, or specific sectors. There are tons of small companies that don't care about that shit and only care about performance. There are also tech jobs at non-tech companies. There is also freelance/contracting.
With tech startups, they may be owned by lefties but aren't established enough to care about acting woke yet. They're still trying to make money. So that may be another option.
I should have been more specific. Large corporations are very woke. I've never tried smaller companies before or freelance. The problem is that smaller companies don't pay as much as large companies except when they work for the large companies via specific contracts. To my shame, the things I'm looking in an employer is money and working with technologies that I like/ want.
You are mistaken to believe that there is a middle ground. The freaks crave nothing more than submission. Their very presence is a sickness.
You'll be confronted eventually, and either you will have to submit or you'll be hauled in front of HR and fired.
If that happens, it will be a dramatic negative towards your chances of another job.
I have a high paying cushy job… is the solution then to just allow all these gender freaks to take over all the good jobs and cower off into the sunset? I’d like to know what your long-term solution is to this madness.
Unless you're in a hiring position, you don't really have a say. You can vote with your feet, or not.
Long term? Kill them all and outlaw crossdressing.
You're literally a corporate employee... You're already gone, so just continue on your path towards perdition and do as your handlers tell you. If you ever feel hollow, if your thoughts ever stray to questions of what is good, or how one should live, just buy more goods and products.
Nope I don’t work for a corporation or any company
While I completely agree with the others' sentiments, I get not just being able to leave a job, that's a huge part of someone's life.
If you ARE in a position where you feel you are being forced out, do the bare minimum and make them fire you. Don't quit. That way you get unemployment.
It might be worthwhile to have a talk with HR and clearly explain that as a Christian (or whatever sincere religion) you are expected to tell the truth and be a good person. That means not lying about someone's sex/gender, even if they want you to.
Probably would be worth saying you’re a Jew or Muslim in this case, they’d be less likely to attribute the religion to being part of your “toxic white maleness”
The problem is that this gives that person power. YOU'RE the one who gets fired so why let them win? The biggest way to survive her is never use pronouns and always refer to this person by name. You can't be accused of misgendering them and they can't control your speech.
The system gives them power. The prog stack hierarchy, set up by cultural Marxists with the intent on destroying civilization. Your participation in it, gives it power.
Refusal is what they hate. Walking away enrages them.
Get your resume together.
They loyalty tests will continue to ratchet up. First its pronouns, then its black history posters, then its faggotry promotion everywhere.
Eventually either you will either be forced to submit to "get along" or you will defy and be targeted as an example.
There can be no peace as long as these anti-humans exist.
Get in the habit of only using their first name when referring to them to side step the whole "make them say my pronouns" fetish/power trip.
So instead of "He wants me to commit the code now" it would be "Shalandezar wants me to commit the code now".
Using titles or not even saying "who" but "what" needs to be done with direct eye contact.
You need to make sure to use their name even when they're not present. All sorts of woke snitches looking to earn good boi points for reporting you for double-plus-ungood pronoun usage.
Address them by their name. That’s it. Refuse to play the game at all. And minimize interaction with them and their friends.
Update your resume and start looking for openings.
Well, it's definitely not a man, but it might be male.
Not always, it’s like 80/20
Minimal interaction.
Avoid interacting. If you have to always just use their name to refer to them, thus avoiding prononun use indefinitely. I have been doing thst since before trannies became commonplace simply because i cant tell unisex names and I also don't give enough of a shit to learn who they are. So for me, that's second nature.
Friendly reminder that the female will ruin you either way, if she notices you ALWAYS use her name and never attempt a pronoun she'll figure you out, and if you just ignore her for the most part she'll figure out you're avoiding it's usage.
Don't speak to them unless for the most basic things necessary for work. Don't try to be friendly, don't try to relate, speak of work only as required and be quiet
Ignore them completely. Treat it like it doesn't exist. After all, this is what it wants.
Don't engage. If you must speak use first names. Don't use sentences where the subject isn't implied unless you have to. Basically minimize the newspeak you have to do and 200% don't correct anyone else's pronoun use
I'd ignore it, always remain calm, never be alone with her (if it's a woman) and (if it happens) keep a written log of every time it freaks out/snaps at you in case HR comes knocking and you need receipts to prove who's the unreasonable one.
I get by with "Huh? Sorry, my english isn't good. I don't get it."
Exit ASAP. They will not hesitate to throw you under the bus at the first opportunity.
Any time you enable mental illness you expose yourself to risk.
This is a quality of life issue. Can you stand to look at them for more than 5 seconds? You shouldn't underestimate the impact a 'gender bending' appearance has on other people. It's the equivalent to someone with horrendous acne or facial disfigurements, facial tattoos or some ridiculous haircut.
If it's only a pronoun issue, just use the name and avoid this borderliner like the plague. Mental instability is guaranteed.
"Gender is a made up social construct, and I don't subscribe to it. If you don't want to use the pronouns associated with your biological sex, you get 'it'."
Done
"Fuck off, retard."
Resign before you're forced to train your replacement.
I ignore they them existence