I am getting a new coworker that I will likely need to work closely with, and it’s a “they/them”. Haven’t seen this person or a picture yet, so not sure if it’s a female or male at this point.
What are some tips for dealing with this? Should I just completely ignore the issue and make on as if it isn’t “a thing”, just avoiding the use of pronouns? I want to keep my job, but I don’t want to betray reality and my principles.
This is a quality of life issue. Can you stand to look at them for more than 5 seconds? You shouldn't underestimate the impact a 'gender bending' appearance has on other people. It's the equivalent to someone with horrendous acne or facial disfigurements, facial tattoos or some ridiculous haircut.
If it's only a pronoun issue, just use the name and avoid this borderliner like the plague. Mental instability is guaranteed.