I am getting a new coworker that I will likely need to work closely with, and it’s a “they/them”. Haven’t seen this person or a picture yet, so not sure if it’s a female or male at this point.
What are some tips for dealing with this? Should I just completely ignore the issue and make on as if it isn’t “a thing”, just avoiding the use of pronouns? I want to keep my job, but I don’t want to betray reality and my principles.
It might be worthwhile to have a talk with HR and clearly explain that as a Christian (or whatever sincere religion) you are expected to tell the truth and be a good person. That means not lying about someone's sex/gender, even if they want you to.
Probably would be worth saying you’re a Jew or Muslim in this case, they’d be less likely to attribute the religion to being part of your “toxic white maleness”