Both of your concerns stem from a (quite reasonable) fear of marrying a woman who turns out to be crazy in some aspect. Make sure, first and foremost, that the woman you like, likes you more than you like her. This matters, because to use an analogy, the male nature is like a strong steady rock, and the female nature is like moss or tree-root that molds itself around the rock.

As sexist as it might sound, women's opinions and views tend to be most strongly influenced by the dominant male figure in their life. (As an aside, this is why women with no father or weak fathers often turn out badly) So assuming she isn't totally brainwashed, if she genuinely likes you then she will come around to your way of thinking, and not screw you over down the road. This will only happen however if you are firm in your views and she likes you enough to tolerate initial disagreements. If you try to shift position to appeal to her, the rock/tree root effect will not work and she will not change.

She doesn't have to be redpilled from the start, as long as she is a) not a flaming leftist/doesn't have some extremely strong pre existing conviction, and b) genuinely invested in you, then it will work out as she will gradually come around to your point of view. This will not happen instantly, it will take at minimun year or two, but it will happen.

With regard to the raising family part, if you're worried about schools having an indoctrination effect on children, homeschool or find a good non-cucked private school. Don't be overbearing or overly sheltering, it will cause your kids to rebel, but do try to push them in the right direction, i.e. screen out obviously biased children's media.

Alternately, just make sure that as teenagers they find /pol/, and let them redpill themselves.

Random thoughts:

1. I don't envy you.
2. Bringing kids into this sick world is a mistake, but it pisses off leftists, so worth it overall.
3. I got damn lucky, found a woman who doesn't always put herself first. But it's hard to know that, and they can hide it. Maybe a girl that doesn't always have her nose in her phone?
4. Women that are above average looking will often be use to having everything handed to them, and I mean everything.
5. It helps a lot if they didn't go to public school.
6. A body count above 1 or 2 is a red flag.
7. No career women.
8. Good luck

No, but you probably have to make an effort to surround yourself with people who have the mentality and values you'd want. Don't force it, but massage your situation into a better prospect.

If your life includes lots of healthy women in them, and you're demonstrably healthy and productive yourself, your chances of settling down with one of those women increases a lot in short time. Figure out how to put yourself in that scenario, and you're off to the races.

For example, think about how often you've heard of a doctor being married to another doctor. People tend to get involved with others who are inside the group of people they interact with often. Madonna married her fitness instructor, as another example. Repeated interaction makes for sparks. Just make sure you don't have losers in your life when they start flying.

Note: This carries over to your future kids as well. Want them to marry up? When the time is right, make sure they're frequenting places where they'll interact with others above their pay grade, so to speak. Nature takes care of the rest.

You want to start a normal, nuclear family in this current social climate where heterosexuality is not just abhorrent, but condemned by leftists are large? You're asking for a deathwish.

Trying to start a traditional family in 2021 is like playing Russian Roulette with every bullet loaded. It is only a question of when will you lose not if you will lose.

Society has incentivized women getting a divorce. They have more to gain by being married for a little while and then getting goodies for atleast 18 years via divorcing. Trying to keep a young family together in the west is a fool's errand these days.

Some people here will try to sell on churches as a good option but that is just not true. Christian girls these days are a meme. I went to a catholic college many years back and even then they were mainly degenerate sluts as far as the eye can see. Girls there counted themselves as virgins because they would only do anal... Converting to Christianity just to tradcuck is just not viable.

Importing a woman from Eastern Europe or Asia is not a viable solution either. As soon as you bring the woman to the west she will go turbo hypergamy after making friends here with leftist sluts and she will become immersed in the degenerate Hollywood culture.

Also why the fuck do you want to try to raise kids in the woke rainbow hellhole that is the West? Odds are likely by the time your potential kid turns 18 the state will have indocrinated them into being a marxist or a tranny. Home schooling can help for a while but it is a gamble if they can somehow resist the mainstream media bombardment that is only going to worsen from now on.

It is after considering all of these horrendous factors why I decided to be a MGTOW.

There are plenty and millions of just regular people around who think this wokeness is utter bullshit, both men and women.

Marriage and family are things plenty of people want, it just makes sense. I think one of the biggest problems is not wokeness, but a fear of commitment; seeing marriage as something that can be temporary and undone by a writ of court. If you go into a marriage without absolute belief that you can and will honor your promises forever, you shouldn't marry the person under consideration.

Stand by your word, honor your promises, don't marry anyone who isn't someone you want to go into a lifelong business partnership because a business it is.

I've been married for 35 years. Divorce was never an option because I gave my word when I got married and kept my promise. Ditto spouse. That's how it's done.

It’s pretty difficult to meet anyone when everywhere is closed or will freak out if you are not wearing a mask

Is the goal of starting a normal family impossible now?

Nah, it's just not worth the risk. There's no incentive for women to stay married, actually it's better for them to divorce. You may as well ask

Is the goal of winning russian roulette with only one empty chamber impossible now?

Same thing. Actually, the stakes here are better, because when the game is over it's over. With marriage you have to play every day forever.

It might seem slightly contradictory but here goes my two cents:

1. Don’t be an idiot about it and jump into something that neither of you can handle. If you feel you can’t be yourself around someone then that’s an obvious red flag,
2. Don’t overthink it. You’re not going to find someone you align with 100%. A lot of it is just gut feeling anyway.

Man I love my wife so damn much her existence gives me hope. The world isn't over yet, and there's still good women to be had. Just don't settle on whatever comes your way first.

2. Become a tradcuck, convert to christianity, move to the rural part of a red state.

Not sure which state you think this would work in when most single women live in the top ten metros.

Asian (Japan and South Korea can be iffy with the body count, thanks to degenerate modern western pop and rap, but generally safe) and Eastern European women are your best bet and do NOT bring them back to where ever you live, stay fucking there or they WILL eventually turn into whores or feminists through propaganda, making "friends" and media.

The good news is, if you go the church route, and pick a good conservative church, you're unlikely to find a girl who's going to divorce you. The divorce courts suck, but it's not every woman using them. It's the leftist and wino crowds.

Others have posted the good straight advice already. I'll add some subtextual advice.

Do not engage in "the dating scene". Doing so is the same as picking path #1. If you live in a secret righteous township with no poz anywhere, then maybe you'd have some success, but you'd also be shitting in the well by adding a "scene" where there was a more organic process.

This leads into the subtext for path #2: seek out connections through community engagement. Path #2 is advocating for a number of traditional communities. Consider instead, that you can find non-traditional communities. I don't care if you're dredging with degenerate furry scum, if the community is good enough for you (and you've fucked up if you're in one that isn't), then it'll be good enough for finding someone to connect with.

Further subtext of previous point. Being in a community carries some implications of involvement, interest, and engagement. If you're hunting communities for the express purpose of finding a mate, then just stop and go to tinder because you don't deserve path #2. Being engaged in non-mating/non-dating activities can demonstrate/exercise stability and discipline; chasing immediate rewards is foolish when selecting a mate because lifelong commitments are very not immediate rewards.

Item #1 is going to leave you miserable, and is no guarantee that she will stay with you anyway.

Item #2 is what you are going to have to do, but rural part of a red state is not an absolute requirement. Plenty of small towns dotted all across the midwest. My personal low limit is 10k population, as that is how small my college town was.

Does anyone else have issues reading this post? It cuts off half way through the lines.

Just don't marry crazy. And yes, convert to Christianity.

What about marrying your wife, having kids, moving somewhere far from the retarding influence of the city, working hard, living independently, spending time with your family and acting with integrity make you a "cuck"?

Coming from the other direction, it's hard finding a man worth having kids with. Most are lazy, unmotivated and think having a family is too much hard work or a waste of time.

They refuse to put their foot down and state what they want out of life because they just don't know. Most of them have Mommy issues nowadays as well, so they're looking for a mother figure rather than a wife. They'll sit in their room, masturbating all day and complaining about not having a tradional virgin girlfriend while making no effort to make themselves attracive to the type of woman they want. You'll know these types because they label themselves MGTOW.

If you don't consider yourself to be one of those people you probably won't have any issues attracting anyone. Your issue is going to be filtering out the batshit crazy ones.