I've always thought that starting a family would be inevitable because that's what happened with my parents and their parents etc. But given current events (and honestly events that happened before my mom popped me out), trying to start a normal family free from the leftists' tentacles is near impossible. It seems that the only way to start (and maintain) a nuclear family right now in the US is to:
- Play along with leftist propaganda and play to the whims of your lefty wife else she takes more than the kids.
- Become a tradcuck, convert to christianity, move to the rural part of a red state. And both options still leave you vulnerable to the state courts if she wants to divorce for any reason.
Personally, I still want to entertain the idea of a wife and kids. Maybe it's just human nature that I am in denial and MGTOW is the way to go for generations to come. It also doesn't help that I'm currently stuck in Commiefornia where lockdowns are still a thing and everyone I know drank the Democratic kool-aid. So my irl options are limited. I also don't want to use online dating as pretty sure 99% that I am going to match someone who will be a lefty believer. I'm curious what this sub thinks on this topic as it seems that there is mix of MGTOWs and those who are married and have kids.
Both of your concerns stem from a (quite reasonable) fear of marrying a woman who turns out to be crazy in some aspect. Make sure, first and foremost, that the woman you like, likes you more than you like her. This matters, because to use an analogy, the male nature is like a strong steady rock, and the female nature is like moss or tree-root that molds itself around the rock.
As sexist as it might sound, women's opinions and views tend to be most strongly influenced by the dominant male figure in their life. (As an aside, this is why women with no father or weak fathers often turn out badly) So assuming she isn't totally brainwashed, if she genuinely likes you then she will come around to your way of thinking, and not screw you over down the road. This will only happen however if you are firm in your views and she likes you enough to tolerate initial disagreements. If you try to shift position to appeal to her, the rock/tree root effect will not work and she will not change.
She doesn't have to be redpilled from the start, as long as she is a) not a flaming leftist/doesn't have some extremely strong pre existing conviction, and b) genuinely invested in you, then it will work out as she will gradually come around to your point of view. This will not happen instantly, it will take at minimun year or two, but it will happen.
With regard to the raising family part, if you're worried about schools having an indoctrination effect on children, homeschool or find a good non-cucked private school. Don't be overbearing or overly sheltering, it will cause your kids to rebel, but do try to push them in the right direction, i.e. screen out obviously biased children's media.
Alternately, just make sure that as teenagers they find /pol/, and let them redpill themselves.
I saw this through a girl I dated a while back. Seemed normal at first and then she started revealing her feminist beliefs and that she hated all men (even though we matched on tinder lmao). When she said that her dad passed away during her childhood (my condolences to her), that's when everything clicked. Stereotypes always have a kernel of truth to them, as they say haha
I think this might be the most difficult part on finding someone who agrees with me on this, as naturally most people grow up through public school and those that have been homeschooled aren't going out there advertising themselves.
lmfao
My ex was flaming feminist/SJW/BLM/replace franchises with minorities in media but kept it hidden until the last part of our relationship but surprise surprise her relationship with her father was bad because he was weak & her mom was a narcissist
If you see these in her family you fucking run