Why would you have three kids when you obviously hate them as much as anything else that isn't you? Oh, actually playing with your kids distracts you from your super important work of... writing yet more feminist books, huh? Understandable, have a great day.
They're accessory items. You're expected to have them in that social circle so they want to be current and relevant but don't want all the responsibilities.
My friend is a nanny and she worked for some families that literally had no interaction with their kids. There is a nanny around 24/7 and the parents don't do anything with the kids.
I read the article and it seems pretty reasonable. The kind of unstructured fantasy play that kids engage in isn't really suited for adults, mentally or physically. Parents shouldn't be afraid to let kids figure things out on their own with other children.
It's incredibly gynocentric and she's obviously projecting personal problems onto the entire concept of motherhood.
Who teaches kids how to play sports? Who teaches kids how to play a game with rules everyone can follow instead of making them up constantly and dominating others if they can get away with it? The kids? That's what Golding described in Lord of the Flies.
This is just another "working Mom", from a long line of them by the sound of it, who's looking to intellectually justify a) not engaging with her kids at their level (although I agree this can go to far) and b) not getting the kids to engage at her level.
She doesn't like playing "childish" games? Why doesn't she teach her kids adult games, with the hard rules she needs?
And, as I mentioned elsewhere, where's the father? He can't throw the ball around after work? Or does he have to cook and do dishes because she's too busy "writing"?
I predict that, when her kids grow up, they're going to move far away to pursue careers and she'll never hear from them again, which sounds like her optimal outcome.
This article is actually okay. Unsupervised play time is necessary for the proper development of children's psychology and Parents should attempt to be as hands off with their childrens pretend games as possible. Helicoptering and Hovering stifles independence and the development of the imagination.
That said, it's still important to do things like play tag and wrestle, so don't just neglect the kids. But most of the play should be negotiated with a sibling or independent.
I'm in favour of the two parent work split, where one brings in money and the other takes care of the house and kids. But asking a guy, even after a long day of work, to play catch with his kids is not an unreasonable ask.
My motto is “Moms don’t play.” (The other context also applies: I do not play.) Our third child joined the family with this system in place, and he is, as most third children are, remarkably independent.
Projecting her personal issues on to Moms in general rather than take responsibility and then blindly stumbling on the benefits of having multiple children without acknowledging why her system works.
Thanks contemporary schools system, very cool.
Try this with a single child and see what happens.
The actual clickbait comments are deep inside the article, not at the beginning. It's been annoying to watch, but blogs want longer views and clicks, so they hide what needs to be said near the bottom. This way, people read more and stay longer. It shows 'engagement'.
The Mom doesn't play nerf, or pretend, or really anything with her kids. She is fine letting them do it in their rooms on their own. Then she admits she doesn't have a nice temper. She tells her kids that Moms don't play.
So yeah, she is screwing up and even admitting to it. When the kids go through a hard time, they won't talk to her, and think she will punish them. This will show up when they're teens though, so it won't be a thing for several years.
There is a balance as a parent, especially when the office is part of the house. The parent has other work and the kid has things to play. The separation is fine, but pushing it too far is just as dumb as the helicopter parent. I think she's probably pushing it too far, especially with how she doesn't think her kids want her to play with them.
They'll show up for family reunions and not talk to her. She won't see the problem until they start admitting to stuff and she wasn't around to take care of it then.
Why would you have three kids when you obviously hate them as much as anything else that isn't you? Oh, actually playing with your kids distracts you from your super important work of... writing yet more feminist books, huh? Understandable, have a great day.
They're accessory items. You're expected to have them in that social circle so they want to be current and relevant but don't want all the responsibilities.
My friend is a nanny and she worked for some families that literally had no interaction with their kids. There is a nanny around 24/7 and the parents don't do anything with the kids.
This way she can start her articles with "as a mother of three", lol
Yes, let leftist entertainment raise your kids!
“Don’t play with your kids. Let us do it!”
How much you want to bet her “kids” were surrogate births?
I read the article and it seems pretty reasonable. The kind of unstructured fantasy play that kids engage in isn't really suited for adults, mentally or physically. Parents shouldn't be afraid to let kids figure things out on their own with other children.
What is your objection to this? The title?
Yeah, I was thinking the headline was a bit off-putting, but didn't exactly reflect what was detailed in the overall article.
I know sometimes headlines are changed or modified by editors for more "effect" (AKA, clickbait), so maybe that's what happened here?
It's incredibly gynocentric and she's obviously projecting personal problems onto the entire concept of motherhood.
Who teaches kids how to play sports? Who teaches kids how to play a game with rules everyone can follow instead of making them up constantly and dominating others if they can get away with it? The kids? That's what Golding described in Lord of the Flies.
This is just another "working Mom", from a long line of them by the sound of it, who's looking to intellectually justify a) not engaging with her kids at their level (although I agree this can go to far) and b) not getting the kids to engage at her level.
She doesn't like playing "childish" games? Why doesn't she teach her kids adult games, with the hard rules she needs?
And, as I mentioned elsewhere, where's the father? He can't throw the ball around after work? Or does he have to cook and do dishes because she's too busy "writing"?
I predict that, when her kids grow up, they're going to move far away to pursue careers and she'll never hear from them again, which sounds like her optimal outcome.
This article is actually okay. Unsupervised play time is necessary for the proper development of children's psychology and Parents should attempt to be as hands off with their childrens pretend games as possible. Helicoptering and Hovering stifles independence and the development of the imagination.
That said, it's still important to do things like play tag and wrestle, so don't just neglect the kids. But most of the play should be negotiated with a sibling or independent.
Or the father, where's he in this?
I'm in favour of the two parent work split, where one brings in money and the other takes care of the house and kids. But asking a guy, even after a long day of work, to play catch with his kids is not an unreasonable ask.
TLDR: terrible mother misses the plot. Mistakes overbearing helicopter parenting for “playing with her kids”.
Well, there’s your problem.
Ship them off to the Playboy mansion for re-education.
Projecting her personal issues on to Moms in general rather than take responsibility and then blindly stumbling on the benefits of having multiple children without acknowledging why her system works.
Thanks contemporary schools system, very cool.
Try this with a single child and see what happens.
The actual clickbait comments are deep inside the article, not at the beginning. It's been annoying to watch, but blogs want longer views and clicks, so they hide what needs to be said near the bottom. This way, people read more and stay longer. It shows 'engagement'.
The Mom doesn't play nerf, or pretend, or really anything with her kids. She is fine letting them do it in their rooms on their own. Then she admits she doesn't have a nice temper. She tells her kids that Moms don't play.
So yeah, she is screwing up and even admitting to it. When the kids go through a hard time, they won't talk to her, and think she will punish them. This will show up when they're teens though, so it won't be a thing for several years.
There is a balance as a parent, especially when the office is part of the house. The parent has other work and the kid has things to play. The separation is fine, but pushing it too far is just as dumb as the helicopter parent. I think she's probably pushing it too far, especially with how she doesn't think her kids want her to play with them.
Forget teenagehood, once they're grown, they will leave the house and never look back.
This is the woman who never hears from her kids and complains that no one cares about her.
They'll show up for family reunions and not talk to her. She won't see the problem until they start admitting to stuff and she wasn't around to take care of it then.