How Heterosexual Couples Met (From /r/DataIsBeautiful)
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Key statistic left off, how MANY couples met during these years.
I'm willing to bet money online couples don't even make up 30% of what could've been made through work if HR wasn't a thing.
That is a major issue. We had training telling us to not make eye contact with a woman for more then 5 seconds continuously and not put our hand on a woman's shoulder - like you normally do with a guy when you come over and he shows you something he works on.
It also had a section of it does not matter if the accusations are true or false you are not allowed to be spiteful to the complainant and need to continue working with a smile on your face.
When stuff like that comes out of HR who is crazy enough to actually date someone at work,
A former manager of mine (really nice guy, helped me become more professional) met his wife through work when she was just in charge of delivering mail. He's been married for I think 40 years now and at the point of grand kids now.
That has all been denied thanks to HR, because it's too easy to sack men in the workplace just for doing something as simple as asking if they want a drink when you go get one yourself from the lunch room. Work Place relationships often work well because the process of working together usually revels quickly when someone is putting up a front as you as you can compare how they act to how much they actually get done.
Then he can put her and her friends in the ground if she starts making false accusations and life the rest of his life on the tax payers dime in prison.
Happiness Culture is the worst thing HR brought to the workplace. I've worked with male-majority environments, and occasionally guys would have to be separated, but crybullies had far less power because disputes could actually be settled, and they had no power to get you fired for not tolerating them enough.
But I thought it was sexist to tell (or expect) people to smile? That whole thing is just enraging. And who is crazy enough to want to date a coworker? It almost makes you not want to even talk to any women at work. But that, apparently, is problematic too.
I'm kind of skeptical. Not because of HR, but because every women I stumble across when working is either not single, engaged, or married.
Single women on the ground nowadays is very fucking sparse, and seemingly impossible to come across organically. For me, atleast.
...you know, thinking on the matter, this might be part of a cascade effect. More single men not getting married mean less opportunity for the still single men of their group to encounter single women.
The reason I say this is because the only time I have stumbled across single women, it was because of the wife of a good friend of mine. I've met more single women because of her than I ever have because of my friends group, and I've known them alot longer than I've known her.
Huh. I wonder if anyone else has experience similar.
That's actually sort of what you should expect. Not from that particular person, but you get to know more girls the more people you get to know in general. If your current social circle doesn't have a lot of single women in their orbit, don't necessarily replace them, but just expand your circle by going out of your way to make friends with new people. You never know what kind of connections will come together.
For example, I talked to this kid at the gym between sets instead of looking at my phone. Turns out he had a big sister and as a result, when she dropped by I was already partially "verified" in her network. I wasn't friendly with him because of that, I didn't even know he had siblings. You don't expect things to pan out most of the time, you just increase your chances with every next person that likes and recognizes you.
The rare man who's good at cold approach in this day and age seems to be more into one night stands than a real relationship. If it happens then great, but I don't think it's realistic.
Pretty much, yes, I agree. 'You have to know women to meet women' is, while frustrating, a sad fact of life when it comes to dating and social circles.
It's just, I've never made the connection of 'Hey, maybe men getting married has an add-on effect of organically introducing women into their social circles, and men not getting married has cascading effects larger than we realize'.
Sort of like a social entropic cascade kind of deal.
Well that's not totally what I said, meeting more dudes will eventually lead you to more women too unless you're exclusively making friends at Magic the Gathering tournaments. I agree that making friends with women is more efficient though. Lol
You're right, tbh. But that's because you're not looking in the right places. Especially if you are older.
It's crazy how Gen X will say shit like, they can meet people on the subway or in a grocery store.
Firstly, no one's going to speak with you, certainly not romantically, in those environments.
Secondly, the people you are actually going to encounter are all basically taken and in relationships if they are normal.
Third, the people who aren't already in a relationship, are kind of broken single women in their 30's, and you don't really feel interested in them anyway because they are repulsive people generally and would treat you like shit, at best.
Fourth, those same women in their thirties are still trying to get laid at bars, which proves you probably shouldn't start a relationship with them.
I'm not really sure what else to do except widen your social circle and hope someone introduces you to a friend of theirs. That seems to be the only legitimate way forward with the most reasonable risk.
The real secret to finding a decent woman in 2023: look for introverts with skinny moms. That’s the whole game at this point. You want someone with non-fat genetics who doesn’t thrive on social validation. And if you have to sacrifice the former for the latter, so be it.
The single women I know of are either voluntary celibate or waiting for perfection (or at least better than all the positive aspect of their exes - a.k.a. "alpha widow") and nothing less.
White women under 40 are very sparse.
"Church" isn't even listed on here, but it should be considering how far back it goes.
My issue is that I would certainly expect that as the percentage of online couples goes higher, we would also see a collapse in nominal relationships.
I don't understand why people list church. Going to church has never lead to romantic opportunities in my experience, not even fumbled ones.
I think it could, but there'd be a whole social environment around it. Less like hooking up at church, and more like hooking up at the Church's chilli cook-off event.
Totally agree.
It benefits churchgoing married men to keep single church ladies single to pick up side pieces.
Just go to bars/restaurants with nice waitresses?
Nah these women get hit on endlessly
And what, simp for them? They get hundreds of dollars a day from simps trying to "impress" them.