How Heterosexual Couples Met (From /r/DataIsBeautiful)
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That's actually sort of what you should expect. Not from that particular person, but you get to know more girls the more people you get to know in general. If your current social circle doesn't have a lot of single women in their orbit, don't necessarily replace them, but just expand your circle by going out of your way to make friends with new people. You never know what kind of connections will come together.
For example, I talked to this kid at the gym between sets instead of looking at my phone. Turns out he had a big sister and as a result, when she dropped by I was already partially "verified" in her network. I wasn't friendly with him because of that, I didn't even know he had siblings. You don't expect things to pan out most of the time, you just increase your chances with every next person that likes and recognizes you.
The rare man who's good at cold approach in this day and age seems to be more into one night stands than a real relationship. If it happens then great, but I don't think it's realistic.
Pretty much, yes, I agree. 'You have to know women to meet women' is, while frustrating, a sad fact of life when it comes to dating and social circles.
It's just, I've never made the connection of 'Hey, maybe men getting married has an add-on effect of organically introducing women into their social circles, and men not getting married has cascading effects larger than we realize'.
Sort of like a social entropic cascade kind of deal.
Well that's not totally what I said, meeting more dudes will eventually lead you to more women too unless you're exclusively making friends at Magic the Gathering tournaments. I agree that making friends with women is more efficient though. Lol
Hah! I'm just biased from my experience - among all the friends I've had, the number of single women I've met through them is, well... zero. So it goes.
Well, even from what you said, you met women through the wife of one of your friends. That still counts, you wouldn't make those connections without being his friend. Other than that, expand your interests beyond Magic lol. I'm joking, but organized outdoor trips can be good for example.