I used to enjoy being around the Juggalo crowd when I was younger and it was mostly about being a bunch of misfits finding camaraderie in enjoying really bad rap together. Nowadays it's just Burning Man with facepaint. I'm not surprised to hear it's degraded further like this.
I never even cared if my character was male. I played Samus, Chun Li, either "gender" of whatever-the-hell Lolo was, and the entire freaking family in Legacy of the Wizard; even the damned dog, all without batting an eye.
All I care about, even now, is not having to care about it. I shouldn't be targeted as a bigot simply for not wanting a 2-minute cut-scene literally punishing me for not using an NPC's pronouns or for playing an RPG that doesn't have character creation models involving surgical scars in place of breasts. I will quite literally play a game as a god-damned cat and enjoy it; stop making me care what "identities" are the most represented in your garbage game!
As an American in a typical American city, a crowd of blacks is bad, but not anywhere nearly as dangerous as a situation where there's 2-5 blacks, and no one else around. That's the clearest "get gas at the next station instead" signal you're going to get.
For me, the relief comes in non-internet activities. Disc golf, Magic: the Gathering, and, most recently for me, spending time on a range learning my first firearm. They recharge me, they often involve other people I've never met, and politics usually isn't even considered polite topics.
Today: "If you don't like it, don't buy our game."
Release day: "Why isn't our game selling??"
Critics, 1 week after release: "9.7/10, only bigots and racist chuds hate this game!!"
3 months later: "We're excited for the most diverse Netflix series yet!"
It was like watching a group of kobolds failing to take down a troll.