im a rather convinced poliamorist. meaning conceptually i believe it to be the superior intimacy form. (one might add relationship anarchy as the ultimate standard - total flexibility)
i saw that kia2 was mostly opposing this? how come ?
my logic is simple. we want whats best for our partners > 0 restrictions
our needs and contexts vary wildly > maximum flexibility
the ultimate does not feel > is not controlled by jealousy and other possesive feels
fyi im asexual > graysexual .. rarely feel sexual attraction and i only have 1 partner. but have been studying this for a 7-10 years.
You're cuckolds in denial.
Polyamory/open relationships only favor the woman unless the man is a high value male, in which case she'd never propose it anyway.
Accepting polyamory is admitting to your partner that you are a doormat and have no red lines.
You'd be better off asking TRP.red though, they're the sex guys.
i disagree with everything u stated
You're perfectly within your right to. Just don't try to force me to like it and don't try to convince people it's normal.
Unless you're extending an invitation to us internet strangers to fuck your girl, there's no reason to bring it up.
Tits or GTFO!
I wanted to make this longer but: Nobody cares about your sex life. Keep it private and we're good. Don't keep it private and you're bound to hear things you probably don't want to hear.
Jesus, this sub is about the culture war and ethics in journalism. Nobody asked who you fuck.
I think this is because of the whole anger from us over KiA's defence of it.
I know where it comes from. It wasn't even KIA, it was especially one mod.
I just don't get why one would want to bring it up. There's only two possible outcomes of bringing it up and either is completely meaningless to the sub and what it stands for.
The only time polyamory is relevant here is when some cucked dev who was in an open relationship with some journo-chick that fucked her editor on the side gets metooed or some other shit like that, and even then the polyamory isn't really the topic
I mean what shall we do with this?
Congratulate him for the courage to tell us something nobody wanted to know?
From what I've seen one or more of the parties are usually deeply unhappy with the arrangement.
We only care if a mod goes off the rails and hands out bans for not agreeing with you on polyamory.
Other than that we literally do not give a shit how you live your life so long as you extend us the same courtesy.
well not giving a shit sounds a bit exxagerated. what about pedophilia?
why not explore the conflict conceptually to understand exactly where the harm is . if any. i mean sure, its hardly the rosy context to discuss such things. im also promoting traditional values for the time being till the cultural value system gets a bit more fit for challenges
This is a case of not seeing the forest for the trees here.
We can discuss it, but ultimately the fact that you have that sexual arrangement is entirely meaningless to every last one of us so we don't really care.
We only have issues if you start to demand that we must like your choices and that they are immune from criticism.
Not a comparison you probably want to make?
Are you a guy?
You sound low-T as fuck.
Hit the gym, see a doctor about testosterone boosters, and in general stop being such a massive cuck faggot.
Sounds pretty fucking degenerate to me.
4 nerdy undesirable guys sharing one fat chick is what I think of
I mean yeah its probably the best they can do but jesus christ have some selfrespect. Even if you are a genetic dead end personally you can still contribute to humanity as a while.
And now I'm thinking of infant abuse.
This is some top tier bait or a literal sctizo
Either way 10/10 post op. I hope you get some good meds
fuck who you want but don't tell me about it, once you do you have made it my business
Polyamory is a load of shit.
Monogamy is more intimate as the couple shares stuff with each other that they share with no one else. They can dedicate their attention and affection entirely to one other person and that person reciprocates. In a good healthy relationship you are also best friends with your partner and enjoy spending time with them.
A polyamorous group cannot do this as they must share affection and attention amongst multiple people. Affection and attention are a limited resource and when they are split amongst multiple people it automatically decreases it.
It will always lead to someone in the group feeling neglected and starved and desperate for more as that is human nature.
But in saying that, that's just my personal views, if someone else wants to go off and do that, I'll judge you and look down on your relationship as being lesser but you do you, you shouldn't care what I think.
'Cuz fuck Shelbyville, that's why.
In all seriousness tho...poly is beneath even states that allow cousins.
Freedom of speech doesn't mean freedom of cuckenquences
Look, I don't have a problem with it when it's fun for both partners. As in, Partner 1 gets turned on that Partner 2 is having sex with someone else. That's just a couple engaging with other people in a sexual fantasy they both enjoy. I'll even admit I think 3 people being in a relationship with each other can work if all of them know how to handle that and love each other equally.
But when Partner 2 is having fun on their own while Partner 1 gets nothing out of it (except maybe the right to have fun on their own with other people as well) that's when problems tend to arise - Partner 1 is often not OK with it but feels they can't say no for a variety of reasons (most having to do with low self-esteem), or both of them are using polyamory as a futile attempt to fix other problems in a relationship that is doomed to fail.
And then you have those people for whom polyamory means having a sexual and emotional connection with multiple lovers at the same time. There is no way this can ever lead to the same kind of closeness you'll ever have in a monogamous relationship. Polyamory in this context is just a PC way of saying "Multiple friends with benefits".
You don't have to stay with a partner who wants something you aren't comfortable with. Leaving such a relationship to find someone compatible is always an option.
That's pretty much the same argument as above phrased differently.
It's not jealousy to want a partner who is solely dedicated to you when it comes to love and romance. If your partner is going around, spreading their time, feelings and focus between multiple romantic relationships, the two of you will never grow as close as you could in a monogamous relationship.
That's the thing, you won't understand the perspective of those who are strictly into monogamy if you don't experience sexual attraction and what it does to you. You can study it for a century, but like all things, you need to have some insight into it to really understand it. I'm not trying to bash you, you're just the way you are. I just want you to realize there's some understanding you're missing.
What consenting adults do in their private lives is no concern of mine. The pursuit of happiness is one of those universal things, after all.
But it wouldn't work for me, and I don't see it as a desirable arrangement more generally.
Private lives tend to become public lives, and public lives tend to become promoted lives. While I appreciate the liberty to pursue happiness, it has to be tempered with a socially accepted morality, or it becomes thinly veiled nihilism.
Is this bait?