im a rather convinced poliamorist. meaning conceptually i believe it to be the superior intimacy form. (one might add relationship anarchy as the ultimate standard - total flexibility)
i saw that kia2 was mostly opposing this? how come ?
my logic is simple. we want whats best for our partners > 0 restrictions
our needs and contexts vary wildly > maximum flexibility
the ultimate does not feel > is not controlled by jealousy and other possesive feels
fyi im asexual > graysexual .. rarely feel sexual attraction and i only have 1 partner. but have been studying this for a 7-10 years.
Polyamory is a load of shit.
Monogamy is more intimate as the couple shares stuff with each other that they share with no one else. They can dedicate their attention and affection entirely to one other person and that person reciprocates. In a good healthy relationship you are also best friends with your partner and enjoy spending time with them.
A polyamorous group cannot do this as they must share affection and attention amongst multiple people. Affection and attention are a limited resource and when they are split amongst multiple people it automatically decreases it.
It will always lead to someone in the group feeling neglected and starved and desperate for more as that is human nature.
But in saying that, that's just my personal views, if someone else wants to go off and do that, I'll judge you and look down on your relationship as being lesser but you do you, you shouldn't care what I think.