Mmm I guess that's why they are taking over every industry and institution by working with each other. Even my illegal immigrant neighbors have a thriving network of other Hispanics which help each other.
Let’s not forget, either, that this is a gender issue. Most often, the grandparent doing the childcare is the grandmother. Her own pregnancies and births may have brought their own health issues. Often, she will still be working. She may have other care responsibilities, either her own parents, a partner, or offspring. For women, retirement from paid work doesn’t mean the unpaid care work stops. I’m not surprised that Carmen Díez, one of the Spanish grandmothers interviewed, enjoys her peace, saying: “I love my empty nest.”
I don’t blame older women for fighting back, and in some cases saying that they deserve a salary. It doesn’t mean that they don’t love their grandchildren, and of course there are grandmothers – and grandfathers – who would be insulted by offers of payment. But even they would acknowledge that looking after small children can be physically and emotionally draining. My son now weighs more than 18kg, and I am lifting him daily. What grandparents are able to do does have limits.
Often, grandmothers are running themselves ragged to support their own daughters’ careers – it is the mother who so often pays the penalty, career-wise, still. Dr Terri Apter, the author of Grandparenting: On Love and Relationships Across Generations, has pointed out that it’s often the feminist grandmothers who help out the most, because they know what a struggle it is.
That capitalism thrives on the unpaid domestic labour of women isn’t exactly news, but the grandparental revolt is a new manifestation of it. Love shouldn’t come with a price, but the care work that comes with love: why shouldn’t it? Why should mostly older women be propping up insufficient childcare systems?
This is of course from the same writer who said her “PTSD” was beneficial to her sons upbringing and of course nary a mention of a dad anywhere.
where 35% of people over the age of 65 take care of their grandchildren several days a week
You are literally retired. What else are you doing with your time?
Worse, what fucking else in life matters to you even close to the level of spending time with your grandchildren, and helping your own children save money to provide a better life for them? If you even have an answer to that question, then you have failed as a person and your children should dump your ass in a retirement home.
Obviously exceptions to this will exist, but I doubt anyone complaining about the problem would fall into one of those justified positions to begin with.
It's interesting. I assumed my kids' grandmothers would be the most active of the grandparents. It ended up, far and away, being my father who does the most with my kids. I don't even ask him, he offers to take them to sports practices, watch them if we're tied up, works with them on homework, etc. This is a guy who I never would have described as being kid-centric.
My mother, on the other hand, makes a big deal out of being busy, "I'll have to see if I can get my errands done that day," etc.
Other grandparents live some distance away, but FIL is the one who always says "No problem" and MIL is the one who says "Well, we'll have to see if we can work it out, I've got quite a bit to get down around the house, and the cat blah blah blah." This from a woman who has been retired for 10 years and never worked more than part time her entire life.
It has struck me as unexpected and bizarre, but maybe it's part of a greater trend.
Once more a mainstream media outlet doing everything it can to convince western families to not have kids.
I swear a hundred years from now this era is going to be looked on as a dark age of some sort. An anti Renaissance where instead of hope and reason, they turn to deceit and hate, the atomization and dissolution of man.
Women whine about being expected to contribute to a household in any way, shape or form instead of being parasites. News at 11.
Islam gets one thing right at least.
Women are children no matter the age and must be treated as such.
Two working parents who can’t afford insane daycare prices?
Boomers, make yourselves useful.
How come its always the white people that think a breakdown of basic family and community is some sort of utopian idea?
The poor immigrant groups don't hate themselves and their kids and extended families like we do.
Non-White people let their toxic families drag them down and destroy their youthful ambitions. That’s why.
Mmm I guess that's why they are taking over every industry and institution by working with each other. Even my illegal immigrant neighbors have a thriving network of other Hispanics which help each other.
[WRONGTHINK DETECTED; COMMENT NOT ALLOWED] for being too retarded to comprehend what payment is.
Boomers are gonna make the next twenty years hell instead of fading with dignity.
What if we invent digital immortality just in time to preserve the worst generation ever, forever?
I will heist the nuclear football before that happens.
Every time someone tells that story, the digitized Boomer inevitably goes insane and tries to body surf to a new meat suit (usually a descendant).
Boomers are just Ra's Al Ghul looking for another Lazarus pit.
Great, now I'll have AI Boomers telling me to pull myself up by my bit-straps.
They have a lot of money to spend yet, and there are plenty of ways to have potential inheritances whittled away.
This is of course from the same writer who said her “PTSD” was beneficial to her sons upbringing and of course nary a mention of a dad anywhere.
Women's relationships are purely transactional, and this article is just more for the pile.
You are literally retired. What else are you doing with your time?
Worse, what fucking else in life matters to you even close to the level of spending time with your grandchildren, and helping your own children save money to provide a better life for them? If you even have an answer to that question, then you have failed as a person and your children should dump your ass in a retirement home.
Obviously exceptions to this will exist, but I doubt anyone complaining about the problem would fall into one of those justified positions to begin with.
I'm gonna copy and paste this comment into a letter for both sets of dead beat grandparents my kids have
It's interesting. I assumed my kids' grandmothers would be the most active of the grandparents. It ended up, far and away, being my father who does the most with my kids. I don't even ask him, he offers to take them to sports practices, watch them if we're tied up, works with them on homework, etc. This is a guy who I never would have described as being kid-centric.
My mother, on the other hand, makes a big deal out of being busy, "I'll have to see if I can get my errands done that day," etc.
Other grandparents live some distance away, but FIL is the one who always says "No problem" and MIL is the one who says "Well, we'll have to see if we can work it out, I've got quite a bit to get down around the house, and the cat blah blah blah." This from a woman who has been retired for 10 years and never worked more than part time her entire life.
It has struck me as unexpected and bizarre, but maybe it's part of a greater trend.
Men are problem solvers and generally have a psychological (if not biological) need to be useful.
Imprison women for their own good and sentence all boomers to the pillow
[He's out of line but he's right meme]
"Grandparents hate grand children. Don't have kids"
Once more a mainstream media outlet doing everything it can to convince western families to not have kids.
I swear a hundred years from now this era is going to be looked on as a dark age of some sort. An anti Renaissance where instead of hope and reason, they turn to deceit and hate, the atomization and dissolution of man.