Do you need good ‘detachment game’ to stop being friends? Meghan’s ex-BFF thinks so
‘Detachment game’ is the skill of knowing when and how to call time on a friendship – but few of us would call ourselves experts in it, writes Olivia Petter. But it might be just as important to think about as when you break up with a romantic partner
Omfg this hit me like a sack of bricks to the face, if women are starting to think that this is the way to handle social relationships or they always have and they're spreading it amongst themselves it makes so much sense now.
This is why it's so important to read these trashy articles sometimes. Women overshare on their social lives constantly but every now and then you come across internet gold and it suddenly explains why women have behaved the way they do in the past and I hate having my prejudices confirmed. What an absolute psycho, treating your social relationships as disposable like that.
I get the idea of not wasting your time on a friendship you know is breaking down that's completely normal and I've had to deal with that, I'm sure anyone has. However this article is really damn revealing about how women view social relationships. You don't treat people around you as objects of convenience holy shit.
They are so twisted that they used the word "noble" -- which is connoted with selflessness and good character -- to describe one of the bluntest admissions of selfishness I've ever read. It's incredible.
I mean I'm going to be generous to women here, because these are definitely some of the worse of the worse women it's possible to know and not somebody you'd run into every day either. However the mentality was definitely revealing to me and I wonder how many women look at relationships this way which explains some behaviour that I've witnessed and been on the receiving end of.
Being a guy I just find it shocking that women could view things this way so casually. It does go some way to explaining why men's relationships tend to be pretty drama free for the most part or if they do have a problem they 'settle it like men'. Women could learn a lot from men when it comes to how they deal with disputes and friendships, but of course they've bought into the 'women are more emotionally intelligent' narrative which is just unsubtle code for we're the superior gender.
Reminds me of when women started admitting that some of them would be absolute psychopaths and start trying to slide their way into a guy's relationship in order to turn him against his girlfriend. A lot of guys were posting about how all of a sudden women's behaviour to them made sense, it's so fucking manipulative lol. I'm sure if there are any women that happen to be lurking on this site as their sometimes are they would probably be able to pinpoint this exact behaviour themselves with somebody they knew.
Women are addicted to drama. It's like a drug to them. I've seen exceptions to most "rules" about women, but I haven't met a single one that isn't a drama junkie. It's tedious as fuck, but I did find out that my department is full of degenerates that way. I suspect a lot of the antisocial shit they do is about getting their drama fix rather than anything deeper.
One thing I've noticed is that women always assume the worst of each other socially. I've had women shit talk other women to me, and it's usually over something that probably has an innocent explanation but they jump to the worst possible interpretation of what happened. Men on the other hand are more direct. If we have a question we'll ask, and if we want something done differently next time we'll say so. Not even in a dickish way, just in a way that makes it clear what we expect. That clears up misunderstandings and allows adjustments to be made before things have a chance to fester and turn into resentments. That's why the catty rivalries that are so prevalent in women are basically nonexistent in men (except the homos who act like women). 99% of those rivalries started over something stupid and non-malicious.
You don't, but women do.
I’ve known guys like that, too.
Not all men, but all women :^)
This is why women's friends are so quick to tell her to dump her BF, husband, partner. They don't care and they don't want others to care. THey really are terrible when not controlled by the Patriarchy
Yes this is how women are
The more I learn about them, the deeper my disappointment.
This thing with a relationship "serving you" is funny, because these same leftoid hoes also say you can't break a relationship if the other woman is doing something you find fucked.
Like I can end a friendship if I don't profit from the other person, but I can't if the other person is on a borderline personality disorder rampage, doing drugs, starts "working" in prostitution (real porn and OF included), if it's a woman who has an abortion, trooning out etc.
I suspect because of the types of women these people are, even the profiting aspect is not supposed to apply the the other person. This is the power struggle aspect of women in relationships that I keep ranting about. Some women are infinitely worse than others but even the okay ones do it to a degree and it's clear when you make it into their in-group you're part of a hierarchy and if you can't 'behave yourself' they will start having a fight with you.
Their behaviour often backfires though and people get sick of it and I have to wonder if their 'moving on' tactic is just part of them coping that they can't maintain a new social relationship for longer than a year most likely. It sort of reminds me actually of OnlyFans models who keep their identities secret RL or women who lie about their body counts they're keeping this stuff hidden because they secretly know their behaviour causes rifts every time even though they'd never admit it publicly. A classic case of study what these types of women do not what they say.
I dealt with that when I was younger. Never again. It's particularly grating when they have shitty friends that hate you but you're expected to be the house nigger who never crosses them. My refusal to do that spelled the end of that "friendship". I know one woman who doesn't do the social hierarchy shit (at least with me), and I wouldn't put up with it if she did.
I learned this as a kid. I wouldn't kiss ass so they'd try to harass me. Eventually they got a guy to hit me and I beat his ass and physically fought them off when they kept trying to save the dude from his whipping.
"There's this absurd notion that things that are not me sometimes stop me from doing what I want" -- t. eat pray lovers
The blue line there needs less of a social circle, apparently.
Daily reminder that Progressivism is a social and psychological disease.
One does not befriend a shark, a scorpion or a social climber. You are a food source, a target or a stepping stone at best.
Also I still find it hilarious that Prince Harry watched Suits and was like I need to marry that actress lmao
The women in my life are constantly cutting off each other. They'll get in a fight about something that isn't even a big deal, but they just can't get past it, and they'll stop talking for a year or two before they finally reconnect.
This has never happened between any of the men I know.
I had a friend who was constantly late to things. I cut him off completely after he was 4 hours late to a day we'd organised with other friends. Completely ruined the plans - I said that's it fuck off and we've never spoken since and honestly I couldn't be happier. I've had one good friend for almost 40 years and it's because we share the same interests and he's considerate. My wife on the otherhand is no longer friends with any of her high school group and she basically only has 1 friend who she's lucky if she sees once a month. And when she does see her all they do is sit around gossip about the other local women they hate. Lesson: Women don't like women very much.
I've seen it happen over land issues. Still, when it's resolved, you can actually be sure that the hatchet is buried.
Oh, this is actually about BLM. If your friends don't follow the dogma better get rid of them, specially if they've been cancelled and their livehood has been destroyed
Feminist narcissism started with each other then leaked over into their relationships. The majority of woman have no friends, with some having one or two at best, because they all view each other as competition for attention.
This is the sort of thing that, yeah, it is actually important to know how to end relationships well if they're not a good match or they're unhealthy for you, but entering it into the Feminist Doctrine is going to make all the midwits and idiots (99.9% of feminists) treat it as gospel, and search for reasons to end their friendships.
Their lives and their interpersonal dealings revolve around buzzwords and half-formed progressive ideas, which is why so many families get torn apart - the ideology makes them seek out reasons to end them.
This is just another example of leftist sophistry - taking something that has a tiny nugget of clarity to it and surrounding it with delusional, destructive nonsense.
Also, I don't even need to read the article to know that the advice boils down to 'just ghost them'; that's their answer to everything and they twist themselves in knots to excuse, conveniently never addressing how cruel it is to do that to someone.
It's amazing how accurate this is.
It's depressingly easy to predict. If there's one thing that characterizes feminists, it's the ongoing attempt to avoid responsibility of any kind. Being quick to ghost people, and rationalizing why it's not only okay, but Good™, fits perfectly with that.