I just ran into someone who I went to school with (~3 years younger than me), whose family I used to know…
They’re very rich (definitely 1%ers), and extremely degenerate…
Her brother is now a tranny. Her father is an androgynous weirdo, and both of her parents are constantly high on designer drugs, every time I run into them (usually at concerts or music festivals, being obnoxious).
This girl… Tells me she has just bought a house. In one of the most expensive houses in my hometown. We’re talking $2M+, average…
So I ask her what she is doing.
“Oh, I’m a professional content creator now. I specialize in TikTok.”
This girl is ugly as fuck, overweight, and probably autistic (think Luna from Harry Potter, but uglier and less endearing). She’s also half-Asian.
I saw a program last night of another TikTok “content creator” in Ireland who was doing up a family mansion, for a few million…
How the fuck is this where we’re at, as a society?
Sure, “bank of Mum and Dad” and all that, but fuck…
Just makes me more depressed and frustrated, tbh…
What exactly makes you think she paid this with money she has earned?
Also: Don't go chasing the grass on the other side. It's most certainly not as green as you think and it prevents you from focusing on bettering yourself.
It’s not so much that I want what she has, but it makes it nearly impossible to even converse with these people, when by comparison, I not only have nothing, but I’ve achieved nothing…
I’ve just been on a plane flight where I happened to be sat next to the family of someone who I haven’t seen in years…
Turns out, she’s done comparatively very well for herself, despite essentially the same background as me. And then, oh, waddaya know, so have her friends… 🤷🏻♂️
Meanwhile, I’m just barely getting by. Barely scraping an existence.
It… It makes it very hard to “keep on”, when nearly every conversation IRL goes like this…
Maybe. I think that’s an easy perspective to have when you’re not scrounging, but when you are, without stable long-term employment (most of my work is contract based), or like, even knowing whether you’ll be able to afford rent in a month’s time, it just… That doesn’t quite hold true.
But hey, what do I know. Maybe I should just struggle harder..?
Look, I’m being facetious here. Of course mindset is important.
But you’re also underestimating quite what it’s like without even the basics, I think.
Hah, been there.
This.
If I don't get a raise within the first year working somewhere, I move on. If OP is contract, it sounds like he should be spreading a wider net and/or increasing his rates; it's easy to fall into the trap of undervalueing yourself, especially when self-employed.
OP, how crazy would it be if you should actually be doing well right now but aren't because you aren't charging what you're worth? Because you undervalue yourself (as reflected in your posts)? It could literally be that simple.
He's not saying, "She's rich, you're poor, why do you care so much?"
You know your situation. You don't know jack shit about hers. I've never met a wealthy individual who had a good relationship with themselves, their family, and God.
You're getting bent out of shape over the appearance of her life. If the tiktoks aren't real, what makes you think the tiktokker is?
A friend of my parents (60+) is always showing & claiming how awesome everything in her life is. Her kids are the best. The wife's of her kids are the best. Grandchilden? The best. Her vacations are the best. Her job is great. etc etc.
That there was a huge spergout due to one of the daughter-in-law not wanting to come to her (small family only) birthday due to one of the children being sick for a while. Big back and forth for days. "We won't come." "That sucks" "Okay we come". Until the day before - after arrangements for them staying were made "We will not come". Huge spergout, husband of the friend screaming etc. Close to cancelling everything.
Do you think any random person she "just meets" after years of not seeing them will be told this? Or will the "everything is awesome" narrative be told?
Nah, her grandma gave me an extremely detailed rundown of her entire life, for some reason… To the point of telling me dark family secrets that I did not want to know…
It was… Fucking full on. And I wish she hadn’t.
But as a result I got the full lowdown on pretty much all of this girl’s major successes and failures, and major life decisions, from before we met, through to now…
Because old lady frontal-lobeism (i.e. she couldn’t hold it in), maybe, lol…
I dunno. But it was far more than just bragging, I assure you.
It was more like “Ok, holy shit, I did not know that and I did not want to know.” But I do now. 🤷🏻♂️
Bam, the only fair comparison to make is to compare yourself today with yourself from yesterday.
You are the one walking your path.
I appreciate this, cheers. Actually reasonable, too, unlike perhaps some of the other response, so, thanks. 👍
Bam, if you want some practical advice I can help a bit.
But seriously, if you get your self-talk right everything improves a lot. It takes practice to become aware of the running commentary your brain is making. Recognizing how you talk to yourself and taking steps to make it more appropriate (kinder) is 3/4 of the battle.
For example, you want to change Wwow, I got nothing done today" into "So I have cleared some roadblocks. Tomorrow is a new day and I am going to hit my task list again."
You really have to watch comparing yourself to other people. Everyone is better at something than you, and they all lie about how well they are doing. No one is going to tell you that they have a tiny dick and their wife is leaving them, especially if it is true.
Best of luck Bam. I am quietly in your corner.
Yeah. Thanks mate. ‘Preciate it.
Currently just dealing with the fact that I made a couple of mistakes this week that may have doomed my studies (it is largely outside my control, but two seemingly minuscule, non-study-related mistakes, which have resulted in missed classes, may end up having immense consequences)…
It’s completely blown out my brain. Like, I was going ok, but now I can’t even concentrate lol.
Then again, I didn’t really sleep last night, either, as a result of these mistakes, so… Yeah.
Law of unintended consequences and all that.
But oh well. Have to live with it. 🤷🏻♂️ As best I can.
Tomorrow is a new day.
You get out your little dustpan and brush, you sweep up the pieces and you get on with your life. If things take another year, they take another year. If you have to blow a Marxist lecturer, just hold your nose.
You can do it. The future is still waiting for you.
Hang tough, Bam. You have fans.
Thanks man. <3
Yeah, I forced myself to go and deal with the Academic in person, even though I'm now going to have to drop her class, and won't get anything out of it (at least until next year)...
It was... Not fun (because she made no attempt at empathy, lol), but at least it is done. Honestly, I don't think I would have been able to bring myself to do that in the past, lol.
But yeah, unfortunately the problem is more that this fucks with my overall enrolment, so they might force me out of my degree, meaning I will have to reapply from scratch (if I chose to do that), with all that entails...
But I'm just not gonna think about that this week. That's future me's problem, I guess!
Anyway, thanks bud. I really do appreciate it. I'll just be glad when this whole saga re this subject is done, lol.
I think I'll just take at least half of tomorrow off, to recover!
I get that. At least somewhat. Nevertheless the mindset is self-defeating, no?
You haven't achieved anything? So what. Start today. The only important judge of your achievements is yourself. And you can choose: Do you beat yourself down for not living up to your expectations, or do you lift yourself up and cheer to make it better the next time. And I do not mean that you shouldn't be critical of yourself, it's important to know what mistakes one made to do it better the next time.
The things you CAN and in my opinion should beat yourself up over are basically the seven deadly sins. And I say that as someone that isn't overly religious.
I had similar thoughts run through my mind as I was getting ready to graduate college and was having trouble finding my first "real" job. Meanwhile I'd read all these "programming horror story" blogs about utter abortions of systems designed by supposed "professionals" and wonder how they'd found work and I hadn't.
OK to vent; dwelling is probably counter-productive.
Also people lie about how well they're doing, possibly even to themselves. I saw a lot of "very well off" people get wiped out in 2008.
So she got that house from her parents. It's easy to be an "influencer" when you're rich. You can pretend to be anything if you don't have to make a living off of it.
Plus, the masses have always adored vapid whores. Before social media it was TV, before that movies, before that theater, etc.
Life ain't fair. The vast majority of "successful" people are there purely because of luck, connections or politics, not because of ability.
Stay off of social media, especially trash like Facebook and Tik Tok. It's a showcase for narcissists. People are busy pretending to be someone they're not, showing off things that may or may not be real, and others who are envious of their fake personas.
These rat traps are proven to be bad for mental health.
Dingdingding
It's all psyop bullshit to keep people thinking they can "win big" doing nothing.
If her parents are rich, they probably bought it for her to live in while they'll profit when they sell at a higher price (it's easy to make money when you're rich).
As for the other one, of course they'll showcase the guy that got rich off Tiktok, rather than the tens of thousands who tried and failed.
Feels like it's a Ponzi scheme: tiktok, onlyfans, etc.
As an aside, I fucking hate the term "content creator" and how it has entered the normie lexicon. Even for people who are actually good and make worthwhile stuff, I just hate it. What a retarded term that communicates virtually nothing of substance.
Her parents are on controlled substances, think they're the latest sex pest, and she somehow bought a house? So their money isn't real, and someone else is controlling them. The money and all that is enough to convince them, and others that they are rich, while the business underneath is run by someone else who wields way more power than is let on. Think of the guy controlling Elvis, or any of the Mickey Mouse Club.
Your friend is a front, and doesn't even know it. That's got to be one of the most pathetic experiences. I've met people who lived in those situations, and it took a lot to get out of it. They end up finding a happier life afterwards, but without as much money.
Eh, her parents are “self funded retirees”. They retired early. Made all their money off “medical entrepreneurship”, let’s say.
So while that may still be true, they’re no longer even in the business of making the money. They just live off it, and I presume investments, at this point…
I could still be right, but I'll drop it.
I know a few big time creators, and one of them told me how they compliment each other.
"I hate you. I hate everything about you, and hope this endeavor fails, because I am that jealous."
Oh, I mean you definitely could still be right. I just know that they made all their money, mooched their way into “elite” circles, and now live a life of largesse based on that (regular trips to Antarctica, gorillas in Rwanda, a villa in the south of France - all of that)…
Which suggests you’re probably right. Just that they don’t make money from their official jobs anymore…
On the content creator thing - yeah, I can imagine, lol…
Vast majority of "content creators" make no money. Almost certainly that house is paid for by her parents.
I blame weak men and pajeets.
They enable women of no value to make money on these apps.
That said, the influencer bubble is getting ready to blow. At almost 0% interest, it made sense, but now that rates are up there, these places are showing strain and possible failure.
It is innate human nature to compare status, so at least observe everyone you know, everyone walking down the street, and consider those where you don't live. When comparing, don't fixate just on the obvious and superficial. Are people aware of their surroundings, do they form meaningful relationships, have they accomplished anything before a mid-life crisis, and so on?
Doing the above has made me realize that the societal structure is fairly immutable, but that there's a whole bunch of luck of who lands where. Now bust your ass for the next decade, and get the hell out of your hometown or country. You might not wind up in a great place, but barring freak circumstances you'll wind up in a better situation than this specific trust-fund dolt.
Post pic.
Hahaha maybe if I can find an “anonymous” one or something…
Or her TikTok.
Maybe one day!
I think some of it is probably under “Ella Wot” or something, but I’m not gonna look rn, lol.
Searching that name does reveal a tiktok person that eerily matches your description. They are in fact unattractive, and have 96 followers, so I don't think they're buying a house with tiktok money.
Ah, I looked. And found the one you mean. Sadly, I don’t think that’s her…
I think this passes the notoriety test - she has 2.8 million followers…
It’s Ella.Whatkins apparently…
2.8 million. Fuck.
So you’re right, and the point about TikTok money still stands, but that’s who you’re looking for. Eugh…
It's a massive bubble being blown up because money was 'cheap' as fuck for years and that's what allowed 'influencers' on social media that had no personality or talent, just endless 'check out this expensive thing that I just bought!'
Now that money is worth something now, it's harder to justify giving it away to people that only consume and don't produce so they'll have a harder fall from grace when it all drys up.
I’m pretty dark rn, I won’t lie…
I’m probably not far off just… Giving up. Shit like this encounter just adds to it.
I don’t “blame the player”, but it really is beginning to feel like I’ve lost “the Game of Life”, so…
I’m not sure how much I have left to give.
My unsolicited advice is to not get caught up in comparing yourself to others, and to give up on the idea that others will lead lives that are acceptable to you. That letting go of "ideological control" is quite liberating. I think you should also meter your input of aggravating news and focus on things that satisfy you and give you some sense of fulfilment. Things you can control. There will always be a fight, but that doesn't mean you can't withdraw, focus on yourself and all the good things, regroup, then make your way back.
Yeah, it’s not so much me thinking what she does is “immoral”. More just pain that she can get all these things, like a house, that I may never have, despite working my arse off…
That’s reality, of course. It’s just frustrating.
I’m constantly reminded of how fucked my life is, in comparison to… Everyone I went to school with. Including those younger than me. Which… Is what really sucks, I guess.
But, someone has to lose out, at life, and I guess, at the moment, that’s me. 🤷🏻♂️
If you had to do something immoral, that you knew to be wrong, in order to get a house, would you do it?
She would. Her parents would. That's where the West is today. It was built through the work ethic you aspire to but run by parasites.
So it's up to you: do you give in, suck up to this woman and her family to try to get a piece of their pie, or do you keep your integrity and try to wait out the tide?
Been there, done that, still trying to get out of it. It sucks, but the only way to solve the issue is to figure out what you want, break it down into small parts, and go for it.
Though I will point out -
Women live life on easy mode despite what a fair number of them screech. Comparing yourself to them isn't a level playing field.
I just remembered - pretty sure this girl who I ran into wrote a children’s book (or two), a few years back…
Kind of wish she stuck to that, instead of… Digital thottery. Or at least I could “respect the legitimacy” of it more. 🤷🏻♂️
But yeah, she obviously has some talent. I guess she just “dabbles”, let’s say.
She can afford to…