I just ran into someone who I went to school with (~3 years younger than me), whose family I used to know…
They’re very rich (definitely 1%ers), and extremely degenerate…
Her brother is now a tranny. Her father is an androgynous weirdo, and both of her parents are constantly high on designer drugs, every time I run into them (usually at concerts or music festivals, being obnoxious).
This girl… Tells me she has just bought a house. In one of the most expensive houses in my hometown. We’re talking $2M+, average…
So I ask her what she is doing.
“Oh, I’m a professional content creator now. I specialize in TikTok.”
This girl is ugly as fuck, overweight, and probably autistic (think Luna from Harry Potter, but uglier and less endearing). She’s also half-Asian.
I saw a program last night of another TikTok “content creator” in Ireland who was doing up a family mansion, for a few million…
How the fuck is this where we’re at, as a society?
Sure, “bank of Mum and Dad” and all that, but fuck…
Just makes me more depressed and frustrated, tbh…
What exactly makes you think she paid this with money she has earned?
Also: Don't go chasing the grass on the other side. It's most certainly not as green as you think and it prevents you from focusing on bettering yourself.
It’s not so much that I want what she has, but it makes it nearly impossible to even converse with these people, when by comparison, I not only have nothing, but I’ve achieved nothing…
I’ve just been on a plane flight where I happened to be sat next to the family of someone who I haven’t seen in years…
Turns out, she’s done comparatively very well for herself, despite essentially the same background as me. And then, oh, waddaya know, so have her friends… 🤷🏻♂️
Meanwhile, I’m just barely getting by. Barely scraping an existence.
It… It makes it very hard to “keep on”, when nearly every conversation IRL goes like this…
Maybe. I think that’s an easy perspective to have when you’re not scrounging, but when you are, without stable long-term employment (most of my work is contract based), or like, even knowing whether you’ll be able to afford rent in a month’s time, it just… That doesn’t quite hold true.
But hey, what do I know. Maybe I should just struggle harder..?
Look, I’m being facetious here. Of course mindset is important.
But you’re also underestimating quite what it’s like without even the basics, I think.
He's not saying, "She's rich, you're poor, why do you care so much?"
You know your situation. You don't know jack shit about hers. I've never met a wealthy individual who had a good relationship with themselves, their family, and God.
You're getting bent out of shape over the appearance of her life. If the tiktoks aren't real, what makes you think the tiktokker is?
A friend of my parents (60+) is always showing & claiming how awesome everything in her life is. Her kids are the best. The wife's of her kids are the best. Grandchilden? The best. Her vacations are the best. Her job is great. etc etc.
That there was a huge spergout due to one of the daughter-in-law not wanting to come to her (small family only) birthday due to one of the children being sick for a while. Big back and forth for days. "We won't come." "That sucks" "Okay we come". Until the day before - after arrangements for them staying were made "We will not come". Huge spergout, husband of the friend screaming etc. Close to cancelling everything.
Do you think any random person she "just meets" after years of not seeing them will be told this? Or will the "everything is awesome" narrative be told?
Nah, her grandma gave me an extremely detailed rundown of her entire life, for some reason… To the point of telling me dark family secrets that I did not want to know…
It was… Fucking full on. And I wish she hadn’t.
But as a result I got the full lowdown on pretty much all of this girl’s major successes and failures, and major life decisions, from before we met, through to now…
Because old lady frontal-lobeism (i.e. she couldn’t hold it in), maybe, lol…
I dunno. But it was far more than just bragging, I assure you.
It was more like “Ok, holy shit, I did not know that and I did not want to know.” But I do now. 🤷🏻♂️
Bam, the only fair comparison to make is to compare yourself today with yourself from yesterday.
You are the one walking your path.
I appreciate this, cheers. Actually reasonable, too, unlike perhaps some of the other response, so, thanks. 👍
Bam, if you want some practical advice I can help a bit.
But seriously, if you get your self-talk right everything improves a lot. It takes practice to become aware of the running commentary your brain is making. Recognizing how you talk to yourself and taking steps to make it more appropriate (kinder) is 3/4 of the battle.
For example, you want to change Wwow, I got nothing done today" into "So I have cleared some roadblocks. Tomorrow is a new day and I am going to hit my task list again."
You really have to watch comparing yourself to other people. Everyone is better at something than you, and they all lie about how well they are doing. No one is going to tell you that they have a tiny dick and their wife is leaving them, especially if it is true.
Best of luck Bam. I am quietly in your corner.
I get that. At least somewhat. Nevertheless the mindset is self-defeating, no?
You haven't achieved anything? So what. Start today. The only important judge of your achievements is yourself. And you can choose: Do you beat yourself down for not living up to your expectations, or do you lift yourself up and cheer to make it better the next time. And I do not mean that you shouldn't be critical of yourself, it's important to know what mistakes one made to do it better the next time.
The things you CAN and in my opinion should beat yourself up over are basically the seven deadly sins. And I say that as someone that isn't overly religious.
I had similar thoughts run through my mind as I was getting ready to graduate college and was having trouble finding my first "real" job. Meanwhile I'd read all these "programming horror story" blogs about utter abortions of systems designed by supposed "professionals" and wonder how they'd found work and I hadn't.
OK to vent; dwelling is probably counter-productive.
Also people lie about how well they're doing, possibly even to themselves. I saw a lot of "very well off" people get wiped out in 2008.