I was visiting my cousin a few weeks ago and was talking to his teenage son and asked him about how is dating life is going. He was telling me about a girl he is interested in and that she told him that during the summer she wanted to focus on college applications and stuff and that now wasn’t a good time for her to date, but that he is a great guy (the usual compliment stew a woman gives).
I was naive about such things when I was his age and apparently so is he. I told him some advice I got in the Air Force “if she isn’t enthusiastically saying yes then consider it a no”. I told him to move on because only in movies do women realize that they guy they rejected is the best for them.
Obviously you shouldn’t lash out or be abusive towards women and should handle rejection maturely but I can definitely sympathize with teenage boys and hate the whole incel or “nice guy” attacks. Sure being nice doesn’t guarantee you a thing but I can see how a teenage boy would get frustrated because they get all this dating advice and then women go for the guys who do the exact opposite. Just glad I was able to open his eyes and I hope he doesn’t waste time chasing that girl.
I wish someone had told teenage me: Don't ask the fish for advice, ask the fisherman.
Yes! That too. I got that advice later in life. When I was in the Air Force a friend told me that my problem was that I was the type of guy parents want their daughters to date so that’s why you have trouble meeting women. That haunted me for years
I never got that advice either, would've helped me dodge a lot of hurt. If I ever have the chance I will also impart that wisdom to people.
lol that's such an awesome quote
Some other guy?
It's always some other guy. Just cut your losses and find someone worth your time...or don't, you don't need a relationship to be fulfilled, better than to have one and be unhappy.
I certainly wouldn't put myself out for an American woman. It would be like feeling out a mine field, but with my dick instead of a screwdriver.
American women and a lot of western women, too.
Seriously lol that's one of the more transparent, "I don't like you but I don't like confrontation" excuses I've ever heard.
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Exactly. As I got older I got the “I need to focus on my kids so I can’t date right now”. Of course they were dating someone in less than a week or two
And then you learned that single mothers are always single for a reason.
In my teen and college years, I was a bit of a player. Then I met Ms. Right; we worked great as friends, better as... more than friends, and we both could hear the wedding bells. But her mom and brother hated me. After the breakup, I spent four years single, even as some other women threw themselves at me (in one case literally).
What changed my attitude was a simple quote: "anyone who you want in your life who isn't in your life doesn't want to be in your life".
Great quote
YAS.
Corollary that applies to social media:
That's a basic rejection.
It's a common retard move for young guys to get crushes. Probably some genetic shit. I had crushes too & looking back, they were absolutely retarded.
Men, you don't get to pick women. They pick you. You cast your net out among the hoes & see what you can catch, which is always defined by who likes you.
It's retarded to even want a woman who isn't into you. I would take a 7/10 chick who was into me over a 9/10 who I had to chase, any day. Do you want to work for the woman, or do you want her to work for you? There is an objectively correct answer.
The key to this is to literally not care what hoes think. You have to de-simpify that lad. Women aren't special & their farts don't smell like cinnamon.
Never listen to what women say. They are born liars. They only speak to virtue signal. Always look at their actions. Their actions speak the truth.
Truth bombs all around.
Tell him to watch this channel: https://youtube.com/@arakotv
Edit: It's a channel that focuses mostly on this exact topic. The videos are short (8 minutes or so) and should be very helpful to someone like your cousin. I wish I had access to something like that when I was his age.
Good on you for telling him what's what, but it probably needs reinforcement to stick.
Thanks!
That was good advice I wish someone had said to me at 16.
I gotta agree with that. She's just being kind. He's gotta walk away.
I'm not saying you should take advice from me on dating, but I would think the best bet would be to consider it a permanent cut off for the relationship. If she wants to get together later, tell her that ship sailed already.
Excellent advice and wish I had this when I was a teenager. It was hard finding a “yes” in a sea of “no’s”