Thanks, the first year was the worst, but after that I gradually just let go. It is my job to love my kids, but not to control them or let them ruin my life. My oldest is totally solid so I have one I can count on. He was unique from day 1. My youngest and his wife are stoners now and we don't see them much because we would not let them use in our house. I am mostly just done with their generation with a few exceptions. I was a tougher parent, but it was lose-lose because they outside world told them not being a pushover is the same as abusive. I am just living my best life.
I had an interesting situation last night, I am a service missionary in a Spanish Speaking congregation. One of the young women said a business was racist. I asked her how she knew and she said they had Trump signs up, I told her I voted for Trump and I could see her head almost explode. One of the other YW spoke up that her uncle voted for Trump. Turns out this YW is not here legally and was just about to get her papers when Trump was elected. She is a wonderful person, but has been going to the dark side politically. I wonder when she will figure out that her parents broke the law. In their situation I would have likely done the same. There are almost zero consequences for it so why not? I can always tell which people, and they are the majority, immigrated legally.
I never used that website for crime data. Police departments have crime maps. Very easy to look up and very helpful. The only safe Los Angeles neighborhoods have private policing. Ladera Heights is nearly all black professionals and no crime because they have a 24/7 private force just like most parts of Brentwood.
I have to wonder if I could have gotten sucked in if I had been in this generation. I always had both male and female interests, but a quick look at my genitals told me my gender and there was no confusion. I have been accused of acting like a man a number of times over the years, has never bothered me. I am ornery enough that I was never part of any kind of group think so I might have escaped it.
Some of us also had no idea. My daughter did not show signs of what had festered until she was in her 20's and out on her own, but was an early adopter back in her teens and hid it. I homeschooled, she was not neglected. There is a history of mental illness in my family and she was vulnerable. She doesn't talk to us now. To be honest is has been a relief once I got over the grief of losing her. The constant anger was just too much. She has cut everyone sane out of her life.
Ewww, for some reason frat boys were never attractive to me, too effeminate. I like men I would trust with a chainsaw. I did dumb stuff young, but I eventually figured it out and snared a very good man who other woman had ignored. Women really can be idiots. My husband was quiet, nerdy and didn't dress well. We met rock climbing so you can image how good he looked under the bad clothes. I just changed the clothes. He is still extremely fit and now as we age he looks better compared to his peers. He is kind, brilliant and hard working, but he was not shiny and got ignored. Also hilariously funny
That is a pet peeve of mine. Looking for someone who can support us during our childbearing is just logical. Also when we are home we should be cooking, cleaning, etc... not just watching kids, whining about how hard it is, and not getting anything done. Equal housework only makes sense when both are working. In a partnership you want to be pulling together and all jobs have tedious aspects. Delusional young women make me crazy
It worked for me. I married a man who is a better person than I so I take super good care of him so he won't notice. Everything cooked from scratch, clean socks and underwear, etc... 33 years later he still thinks he got a good deal and he treats me like a queen.
This has been going on since the 80's because of liability from the old dangerous Pertussis vaccine. There were huge scandals and the manufacturers would not make vaccine without liability protection. Covid is just bringing a long-term problem into public consciousness