High school teacher. TLDR a coworker recently lost her husband. He was in his early 50s and had an "extremely aggressive cancer". Months within diagnosis, he was dead.
Caught her completely off guard, etc etc etc, nothing to do, "ultra-fast spreading cancer," "he was in perfect health before," etc etc etc.
So anyway, funeral has just concluded last week-end, and she's telling her sob stories in the teacher lounge.
I turn around and ask:
"Did he get vaccinated against Covid?"
She replies right away: "Yes, he had all his doses, plus the boosters..."
Then... I smirk. Not smile, just a tiny, tiny smile on the bottom of my right lip. In my mind, I thought "mystery solved."
So anyway, she... I don't know, she completely flips out, starts screaming, "why are you asking me this, what is your problem" typical pre-menopause hysteria, etc.
Well apparently she filed a complaint with HR against me, and now I have to meet HR to discuss "something." Union rep will be with me LOL okay.
Did I really go too far? I mean, I just asked ONE question...
We should applaud OP for showing the slightest about of resistance and not demonize him for not remaining silent.
OP should stay cool, play dumb, and if backed into a corner remind HR that she was the one who brought up her personal medical troubles to the workplace. “I will refrain from discussing personal medical issues at work and I would expect my colleagues to do the same.” No further explanation and details about your personal opinion. They are irrelevant. “I am here only to talk about the performance of my assigned duties.”
/Be the change you want to see in the world.
That post is written like a typical karma farming reddit story. Only AITA is missing from it.
You sound like a faggot taking the side of the triple vaxxed bitch widow.
Are you going to try to help the guy or not?
Go back to ConPro where you belong.
Help with what? Upvote farming?
Yes. And please point me to the store where I can redeem those upvotes for anything of value, or even anything anyone would give a f about./s to be sure, you seem pretty daft
first of all how dare yo u
Might be a perfect time to play dumb & Reverse Uno this situation.
I assume OP is a Leaf, and even worse a French one in Quebec. Which is commie Zero COVID central.
Being found out as an anti-vaxer in these parts is akin to being discovered to be a neonazi. Good chance his own union will ghost him for wrongthink.
The Reverse Uno in this case would be to pretend to be a Zero COVidiot himself. Claim to have asked the question innocently about the vax status of the deceased over concern with their possible Long COVID status and the fact that COVID is always lurking around every corner. And obviously can cause every fatal consequence known to man.
There's zero social cost to remaining a masked COVidian in 2026. In fact, if OP could pull if off, it may act as camouflage to save his ass as they won't want to single out one of their gay race communism own.
I disagree. She wasn't addressing the OP, she was talking to other people and OP overheard. Why did he feel like he had a right to say anything
Good men remaining silent is responsible for so many things wrong with this ClownWorld gynocracy.
I disagree that this is a "good men remaining silent" situation. There is nothing positive to be gained by smirking and implying that someone's death was their own fault because they took the vaccine, especially to their newly grieving widow.
OP's question and reaction could even be interpreted as OP suggesting the husband deserved to die for making the mistake of getting the shot. I don't think he should lose his job or anything, but I think those comments were unkind.
The problem with always hiding your powerlevel is that it's usually in your best interest to keep your ass out of trouble as an individual, but often self-censorship creates a tragedy of the commons as a whole.
Commies like this hysterical widow don't feel the need to censor themselves at all. They openly reee about Trump, Elon Musk, the evil local RW party, the evil Yanks, etc. She was likely monopolizing the conversation about her dead hubby in the staffroom to gain sympathy points.
And the first thing she did when someone asked a slightly heterodox question to interrupt her pity party was to run to HR to punish the wrongthinker. To mete out vengeance, to cost him his livelihood & exile him forever.
What OP did may not have been "kind". But being ruled by Karens & their longhoused rules about "kindness" & "human decency" play a huge part why the West is so feminized & cucked.
Shut up faggot. Every Democrat celebrated if a non-vaxxed person died from covid
Your double standards are jewish.
Really stupid take given the context.
That is a fair point. It is similar to asking if someone with lung cancer smoked or if someone with skin cancer would go to tanning beds. It is a coping mechanism we use to try to assign blame or cause in a complex world.
It can be viewed as insensitive, but nothing this rises to the level of disciplinary actions.
I am only addressing the problem at hand. The HR talk.
OP can work on his autism by developing his ability to suppress the questions everyone else chooses to leave as a thought.
...if said person, and society at large, were in complete denial of the link between the two and actively hiding correlations.
Not at all. It is an attempt to wake people up to the fact that blindly trusting authorities with your health can lead directly to your unnecessary death. Same as DDT, thalidomide, and yes, smoking. We know powerful interests intentionally hid those links and caused many more deaths than would have occured otherwise. We know they're doing it now. This is as much for her good as for OPs in that it just might make her reconsider doing such a foolish thing in the future.
The coworker introduced a personal issue in a professional environment; totally unnecessary. OP responded with his personal beliefs. Was that unprofessional? Sure, but she opened that door when she decided to force her coworkers to listen to her personal problems (something therapists get paid good money for).
Then she went crying to HR.
If I were OP, I'd inform HR that the discussion of turbo cancer triggered my own trauma around Covid and suggest that such a sensitive conversation is not appropriate to have in the break room. If they press, I'd suggest that OP going to HR over this matter suggests that she may be lashing out as a result of trauma and needs to take more berevement leave so she can leave her personal issues at home.
Are you Japanese?
I am not
Why did you feel you had the right to comment?
Because the comment is directed outward to everyone, not a conversation between a private group I happened to overhear. It's not comparable.
People yapping in the breakroom isn't private
Well I won't mourn the next school shooting if the vaxxed widow is victimized by one of the kids she trannied.
It’s at a funeral of her husband you sociopathic fuck.
I’m hoping this is just a Reddit-style creative writing exercise..
It was after the funeral. He said she was talking about it in the teacher's lounge.
True, but it was pretty fresh though. With the funeral being "last week-end," the husband likely passed within the last two weeks. I don't think it's kind to ask questions like OP did given that context.
Correct. My bad. I was drunk.
Reading comprehension fail.
Good call out.