High school teacher. TLDR a coworker recently lost her husband. He was in his early 50s and had an "extremely aggressive cancer". Months within diagnosis, he was dead.
Caught her completely off guard, etc etc etc, nothing to do, "ultra-fast spreading cancer," "he was in perfect health before," etc etc etc.
So anyway, funeral has just concluded last week-end, and she's telling her sob stories in the teacher lounge.
I turn around and ask:
"Did he get vaccinated against Covid?"
She replies right away: "Yes, he had all his doses, plus the boosters..."
Then... I smirk. Not smile, just a tiny, tiny smile on the bottom of my right lip. In my mind, I thought "mystery solved."
So anyway, she... I don't know, she completely flips out, starts screaming, "why are you asking me this, what is your problem" typical pre-menopause hysteria, etc.
Well apparently she filed a complaint with HR against me, and now I have to meet HR to discuss "something." Union rep will be with me LOL okay.
Did I really go too far? I mean, I just asked ONE question...
I disagree. She wasn't addressing the OP, she was talking to other people and OP overheard. Why did he feel like he had a right to say anything
Good men remaining silent is responsible for so many things wrong with this ClownWorld gynocracy.
I disagree that this is a "good men remaining silent" situation. There is nothing positive to be gained by smirking and implying that someone's death was their own fault because they took the vaccine, especially to their newly grieving widow.
OP's question and reaction could even be interpreted as OP suggesting the husband deserved to die for making the mistake of getting the shot. I don't think he should lose his job or anything, but I think those comments were unkind.
The problem with always hiding your powerlevel is that it's usually in your best interest to keep your ass out of trouble as an individual, but often self-censorship creates a tragedy of the commons as a whole.
Commies like this hysterical widow don't feel the need to censor themselves at all. They openly reee about Trump, Elon Musk, the evil local RW party, the evil Yanks, etc. She was likely monopolizing the conversation about her dead hubby in the staffroom to gain sympathy points.
And the first thing she did when someone asked a slightly heterodox question to interrupt her pity party was to run to HR to punish the wrongthinker. To mete out vengeance, to cost him his livelihood & exile him forever.
What OP did may not have been "kind". But being ruled by Karens & their longhoused rules about "kindness" & "human decency" play a huge part why the West is so feminized & cucked.
I iceberg it. I show enough to get my views across but there's still a massive amount under the surface
To me, the bigger concern is what can reasonably be construed as gloating over the death of a coworker's husband. Whether you're pro-vaccine BS or not, it's really not something that should happen in a workplace.
I'll address what I think is the separate issue that you're focusing on: I agree, leftists don't self-censor whereas non-leftists do (but shouldn't be pressured to). However fair or unfair you think that is, the consequences for these groups speaking their minds are completely different.
Has OP meaningfully changed anything by standing up for his beliefs in this manner? No, he may have thrown his career away. With some perseverance and cleverness, could he have affected school policy to be slightly less woke in some way? Probably. Wouldn't that have been better?
It's about picking your battles, not doing nothing.
Shut up faggot. Every Democrat celebrated if a non-vaxxed person died from covid
Your double standards are jewish.
"My" double standards aren't mine, and they have consequences whether you like it or not. Faggot. Go practice what you preach and do your vlad larping in public. Faggot.
Really stupid take given the context.
That is a fair point. It is similar to asking if someone with lung cancer smoked or if someone with skin cancer would go to tanning beds. It is a coping mechanism we use to try to assign blame or cause in a complex world.
It can be viewed as insensitive, but nothing this rises to the level of disciplinary actions.
I am only addressing the problem at hand. The HR talk.
OP can work on his autism by developing his ability to suppress the questions everyone else chooses to leave as a thought.
...if said person, and society at large, were in complete denial of the link between the two and actively hiding correlations.
Not at all. It is an attempt to wake people up to the fact that blindly trusting authorities with your health can lead directly to your unnecessary death. Same as DDT, thalidomide, and yes, smoking. We know powerful interests intentionally hid those links and caused many more deaths than would have occured otherwise. We know they're doing it now. This is as much for her good as for OPs in that it just might make her reconsider doing such a foolish thing in the future.
The coworker introduced a personal issue in a professional environment; totally unnecessary. OP responded with his personal beliefs. Was that unprofessional? Sure, but she opened that door when she decided to force her coworkers to listen to her personal problems (something therapists get paid good money for).
Then she went crying to HR.
If I were OP, I'd inform HR that the discussion of turbo cancer triggered my own trauma around Covid and suggest that such a sensitive conversation is not appropriate to have in the break room. If they press, I'd suggest that OP going to HR over this matter suggests that she may be lashing out as a result of trauma and needs to take more berevement leave so she can leave her personal issues at home.
Are you Japanese?
I am not
Why did you feel you had the right to comment?
Because the comment is directed outward to everyone, not a conversation between a private group I happened to overhear. It's not comparable.
People yapping in the breakroom isn't private
Well I won't mourn the next school shooting if the vaxxed widow is victimized by one of the kids she trannied.