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Comedian Lila Hart made a great comment about this the other day: https://twitter.com/lovelilahart/status/1546013490695004160
I have been called attractive by a random woman exactly one time in my life, not counting things like obvious flattery. I was literally struck dumb by it. I had no idea what to do because I hadn't even considered the possibility it would ever happen. I'm more mentally prepared to encounter an alien species than be complimented. Women can't even begin to fathom what it's like to live that way.
And before an unfunny person accuses me of just being some hideous incel who cannot into woman, I'm married.
Even ugly chicks get complimented daily if they're on dating apps or spend any real time in public.
You married the girl that complimented you, didn't you?
Actually, the compliment came well after I got married. But had it not, I can assure you I would have taken her out to lunch before never hearing from her again.
So the one you married never called you attractive?
Yeah, women are routinely shocked when men actually express their normal conditions of:
When they are confronted by how men live their normal everyday lives, they are: shocked, hurt, and feel horribly alone. They literally have no idea what men go through on a normal basis when we are not even having a bad day.
Iirc Norah Vincent, a lesbian who spent some time dressing, looking, and acting as a man to see what it was like "on the other side" was really beaten down by the experience (probably an understatement, really). Wrote a book about it too, Self Made Man.
What's interesting to me is that book is 16 years old now so I'd love to see another woman do the same thing today. I'd imagine all the troubles Vincent ran into would be a lot more intense today.
In fairness, I don't think all of it was just about being a man. Part of it was that she had basically given herself an identity crisis, not too unlike gender dysphoria (without actually being dysphoria). The shock to your morale from a "loss of self" can be very brutal if you're not prepared for it, and there's no way that she was.