I remember the “ask before kissing” training they tried in the military during the Obama years, it’s about social engineering and good boy points, not actually doing what your partner wants.
The only thing you need to know when it comes to dating is that if she finds you attractive you can do no wrong and if she doesn't you can do no right. The trick is figuring out if she's attracted to you.
Yea I didn’t learn that til later. I was dumb enough to believe “if it wasn’t for my classes I would date you” or “I’m not looking for anything serious”. An older cousin told me if she is into you then she will make time. I should’ve realized this at age 12.
But the "risk" used to be, "get turned down, possibly made fun of, have to get out of an uncomfortable social situation." Now it's that plus "go to jail, be made an example of, and have your entire ability to earn a living destroyed." And women have been taught to basically assume that every interaction with a man will be 100% predatory.
"Forced himself" on someone whose entire motivation is to get him to kiss her?
Yet another example of the pathologizing of any male sexuality: even if she wants him to do it, if he doesn't do it the "right" way, it's bad.
I remember the “ask before kissing” training they tried in the military during the Obama years, it’s about social engineering and good boy points, not actually doing what your partner wants.
The hilarious thing is that we all know that Big Mike doesn't follow those retarded rules when he wants to use Barry's asshole as a masturbatory aid.
Yea I’ve become super paranoid when it comes to dating.
The only thing you need to know when it comes to dating is that if she finds you attractive you can do no wrong and if she doesn't you can do no right. The trick is figuring out if she's attracted to you.
Yea I didn’t learn that til later. I was dumb enough to believe “if it wasn’t for my classes I would date you” or “I’m not looking for anything serious”. An older cousin told me if she is into you then she will make time. I should’ve realized this at age 12.
Also that you'll be penalized ex post facto if she decides later that she's not that into you.
Affirmative Consent.
Guys gotta assume all the risk.
Thing is, I'm ok with that.
But the "risk" used to be, "get turned down, possibly made fun of, have to get out of an uncomfortable social situation." Now it's that plus "go to jail, be made an example of, and have your entire ability to earn a living destroyed." And women have been taught to basically assume that every interaction with a man will be 100% predatory.
It's not a good risk-reward calculation any more.