Yeah, I usually get horribly unsympathetic and indeed sometimes downright detrimental responses (as an example, from years ago, “Actually, I’ve been feeling a bit stressed” Them: “Well maybe Uni’s not for you. It’s not for everyone, you know!”), and/or they just ghost you/phase you out completely…
I’ve slowly learned that unless it’s someone you’re really close to (and even then, be careful), it’s really not worth sharing…
See also: long-term physical illnesses, injuries and ailments, too…
Okay, conversation completed. I have gained information about your current mental state which could be pertinent in near-future event planning, and no further action required on my part. I have been told that's unsympathetic, and on some levels it could be twisted to seem so, but I offered to create solutions, unlike all those useless "sympathetic" people.
Yeah. It was more just… How extreme the responses were…
Not “Ok, maybe I can help with x” or inquiring for further details, just either “Shut up, I don’t want to hear it”, or “Maybe you should drop out of your degree and move back to your hometown”, or similar, which was literally the worst advice they could have given, at the time…
I’ve also had the “go to therapy” comment, like so many others…
That was the end of that relationship, when she wouldn’t even talk, and just insisted on that. Terrible…
What you’re saying you do isn’t… Quite so cold, IMHO. That’s different.
But yeah, it was more just that there was no “Anything I can do to help”.
All I got was “That’s your problem, not mine. I don’t want to deal with it, and frankly, I think you should drop your whole life here because you’re clearly not up to it”.
I have a buddy I can share shit like that with, but we can't do much for each other besides offer sympathy. At the end of the day men's issues are caused by external problems that we need to either solve or get away from. It's good to have someone to bounce ideas off but the whole talk about your feelings shit is gay.
I have a copy of Meditations. Sometimes I will just flip through it, read a random page or so, and repeat. It almost always makes me feel better. It's not like I'm doing any great study, it just feels inspirational or aspirational.
I have not met many, or maybe any, women who enjoy reading Stoic philosophy. It doesn't seem to reasonate with them with the same way that it does reasonate with many men.
My grandmother was a badass. She lived through the Great Depression, raised her younger siblings after her mom died and her dad was an abusive alcoholic drunk. Never went to school past 4th grade. Then, she raised several of her grandkids too when the parents crapped out. When she fell and broke her arm in her 80s, the Dr asked how the pain was on a 1/10 scale (meaning nothing), and that she would just take care of it at home by herself. She was an amazing example of LIVING Stoicism, but she was also basically illiterate. She was tough as nails. I wonder what she would think of modern crap.
I have not sat down and read the whole thing through in order. There are parts that aren't really relevant. But, there's a lot of good wisdom and advice.
Therapy is globohomo's priestly confession and medication is their eucharist. It really is just a gay religion
For a group that whines how badly men take rejection holy shit. Hell hath no wrath like a woman scorned.
Yeah, I usually get horribly unsympathetic and indeed sometimes downright detrimental responses (as an example, from years ago, “Actually, I’ve been feeling a bit stressed” Them: “Well maybe Uni’s not for you. It’s not for everyone, you know!”), and/or they just ghost you/phase you out completely…
I’ve slowly learned that unless it’s someone you’re really close to (and even then, be careful), it’s really not worth sharing…
See also: long-term physical illnesses, injuries and ailments, too…
I'm a doer, not an idler.
"I've been stressed."
-> "Anything I can do to help?"
"No."
Okay, conversation completed. I have gained information about your current mental state which could be pertinent in near-future event planning, and no further action required on my part. I have been told that's unsympathetic, and on some levels it could be twisted to seem so, but I offered to create solutions, unlike all those useless "sympathetic" people.
Yeah. It was more just… How extreme the responses were…
Not “Ok, maybe I can help with x” or inquiring for further details, just either “Shut up, I don’t want to hear it”, or “Maybe you should drop out of your degree and move back to your hometown”, or similar, which was literally the worst advice they could have given, at the time…
I’ve also had the “go to therapy” comment, like so many others…
That was the end of that relationship, when she wouldn’t even talk, and just insisted on that. Terrible…
What you’re saying you do isn’t… Quite so cold, IMHO. That’s different.
But yeah, it was more just that there was no “Anything I can do to help”.
All I got was “That’s your problem, not mine. I don’t want to deal with it, and frankly, I think you should drop your whole life here because you’re clearly not up to it”.
That was… Well, let’s say, worse than cold, lol…
People suck, in general, heh.
I have a buddy I can share shit like that with, but we can't do much for each other besides offer sympathy. At the end of the day men's issues are caused by external problems that we need to either solve or get away from. It's good to have someone to bounce ideas off but the whole talk about your feelings shit is gay.
I’ve never really had that.
I imagine it must be good relief.
See, for me, any time I thought I had a mate like that, they would do something awful, like backstab me, ghost me, or indeed steal shit from me…
I haven’t exactly had a great run, with these supposed “friendships”, unfortunately…
Yup. Why would I want to announce to the world the best ways to hurt me?
Redditards have entered the chat and began sending you 'get help' messages.
This.
Boys need to stop whining so much, and read more from 'Meditations' if they want to become Men.
I have a copy of Meditations. Sometimes I will just flip through it, read a random page or so, and repeat. It almost always makes me feel better. It's not like I'm doing any great study, it just feels inspirational or aspirational.
I have not met many, or maybe any, women who enjoy reading Stoic philosophy. It doesn't seem to reasonate with them with the same way that it does reasonate with many men.
My grandmother was a badass. She lived through the Great Depression, raised her younger siblings after her mom died and her dad was an abusive alcoholic drunk. Never went to school past 4th grade. Then, she raised several of her grandkids too when the parents crapped out. When she fell and broke her arm in her 80s, the Dr asked how the pain was on a 1/10 scale (meaning nothing), and that she would just take care of it at home by herself. She was an amazing example of LIVING Stoicism, but she was also basically illiterate. She was tough as nails. I wonder what she would think of modern crap.
Really common book name. Who wrote Meditations?
Marcus Aurelius.
Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius. Here's the copy I have
https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-New-Translation-Marcus-Aurelius/dp/0812968255
I have not sat down and read the whole thing through in order. There are parts that aren't really relevant. But, there's a lot of good wisdom and advice.
They don't make 'em like they used to. Because life is soft, and there is nothing to aspire towards.
RIP Grandma!