Yeah, I usually get horribly unsympathetic and indeed sometimes downright detrimental responses (as an example, from years ago, “Actually, I’ve been feeling a bit stressed” Them: “Well maybe Uni’s not for you. It’s not for everyone, you know!”), and/or they just ghost you/phase you out completely…
I’ve slowly learned that unless it’s someone you’re really close to (and even then, be careful), it’s really not worth sharing…
See also: long-term physical illnesses, injuries and ailments, too…
Okay, conversation completed. I have gained information about your current mental state which could be pertinent in near-future event planning, and no further action required on my part. I have been told that's unsympathetic, and on some levels it could be twisted to seem so, but I offered to create solutions, unlike all those useless "sympathetic" people.
Yeah. It was more just… How extreme the responses were…
Not “Ok, maybe I can help with x” or inquiring for further details, just either “Shut up, I don’t want to hear it”, or “Maybe you should drop out of your degree and move back to your hometown”, or similar, which was literally the worst advice they could have given, at the time…
I’ve also had the “go to therapy” comment, like so many others…
That was the end of that relationship, when she wouldn’t even talk, and just insisted on that. Terrible…
What you’re saying you do isn’t… Quite so cold, IMHO. That’s different.
But yeah, it was more just that there was no “Anything I can do to help”.
All I got was “That’s your problem, not mine. I don’t want to deal with it, and frankly, I think you should drop your whole life here because you’re clearly not up to it”.
I have a buddy I can share shit like that with, but we can't do much for each other besides offer sympathy. At the end of the day men's issues are caused by external problems that we need to either solve or get away from. It's good to have someone to bounce ideas off but the whole talk about your feelings shit is gay.
Yeah, I usually get horribly unsympathetic and indeed sometimes downright detrimental responses (as an example, from years ago, “Actually, I’ve been feeling a bit stressed” Them: “Well maybe Uni’s not for you. It’s not for everyone, you know!”), and/or they just ghost you/phase you out completely…
I’ve slowly learned that unless it’s someone you’re really close to (and even then, be careful), it’s really not worth sharing…
See also: long-term physical illnesses, injuries and ailments, too…
I'm a doer, not an idler.
"I've been stressed."
-> "Anything I can do to help?"
"No."
Okay, conversation completed. I have gained information about your current mental state which could be pertinent in near-future event planning, and no further action required on my part. I have been told that's unsympathetic, and on some levels it could be twisted to seem so, but I offered to create solutions, unlike all those useless "sympathetic" people.
Yeah. It was more just… How extreme the responses were…
Not “Ok, maybe I can help with x” or inquiring for further details, just either “Shut up, I don’t want to hear it”, or “Maybe you should drop out of your degree and move back to your hometown”, or similar, which was literally the worst advice they could have given, at the time…
I’ve also had the “go to therapy” comment, like so many others…
That was the end of that relationship, when she wouldn’t even talk, and just insisted on that. Terrible…
What you’re saying you do isn’t… Quite so cold, IMHO. That’s different.
But yeah, it was more just that there was no “Anything I can do to help”.
All I got was “That’s your problem, not mine. I don’t want to deal with it, and frankly, I think you should drop your whole life here because you’re clearly not up to it”.
That was… Well, let’s say, worse than cold, lol…
People suck, in general, heh.
I have a buddy I can share shit like that with, but we can't do much for each other besides offer sympathy. At the end of the day men's issues are caused by external problems that we need to either solve or get away from. It's good to have someone to bounce ideas off but the whole talk about your feelings shit is gay.
I’ve never really had that.
I imagine it must be good relief.
See, for me, any time I thought I had a mate like that, they would do something awful, like backstab me, ghost me, or indeed steal shit from me…
I haven’t exactly had a great run, with these supposed “friendships”, unfortunately…