It's hard if you're in a relationship. Generally speaking, they want every second of your time that you're not working. Mowing the lawn and fixing the house are things your wife will let you get away with because they're effectively work.
Learning about how different grasses come in different shapes, colors, sizes, densities, and adapt to different soils is interesting. Women or no women.
Yup. A buddy of mine has a BA in psychology and he says the APA is ideologically compromised. They consider "toxic masculinity" a disorder now. Most therapists are feminists and frankly feminism is the root cause of a lot mental health problems men have.
Read the latest DSM from the APA. It says everything you need to know about the profession. Shrinks have always bent with the cultural winds, since what they do is not that much different from witch doctoring.
Because modern therapy is based off methods designed to treat women by talking about something face to face. Men don't do this.
Men share problems the same way they share burdens: shoulder to shoulder.
If you are a guy and one of your friends is going through shit the second best thing you can do is not ask about it. The best thing you can do is spend time with your friend doing stuff like hiking/exercising until he feels ready to bring up whatever is going on. But I bet you he won't be facing you when he starts talking about it and might never do.
Exactly. Talking is overrated. Much of it is pointless fluff. Taking your buddy out shooting, going to the gym or a sauna together is much more effective at reducing stress.
Because modern therapy is based off methods designed to treat women by talking about something face to face. Men don't do this.
If you are a guy and one of your friends is going through shit the second best thing you can do is not ask about it.
This is stereotyped nonsense. Masculinity isn't about being a macho caricature. Putting thought into words and untangling it through conversation is how I solve my issues and I'm not unmasculine.
If you are a guy and one of your friends is going through shit the second best thing you can do is not ask about it.
I think that might be a tad too far. Having a deep conversation with a friend, that helps them sort themselves out, and find a way of fixing what's wrong is very beneficial. Just talking for talking or de-stressing is a different issue. Your friend might actually want help, rather than just want you to listen to him bitch.
For a while in lockdown I started having constant anxiety. Getting nervous as fuck, feelings of impending doom, couldn't bring myself to get out of bed in the morning, couldn't sleep at night, sometimes worrying myself the point of shivering convulsions and heaving. At one point I could barely stand up because of the tremors.
Did I go to the doctor? Did I seek a shrink?
No. When one wave of anxiety passed, I got on my bike and rode it until I was exhausted. Physically beaten, I stayed home and I painted. And then I did it again a few days later when my body stopped aching. And I ached for less time each time I did it. I worried a little less each day.
My anxiety went from debilitating to non-existant in a month. No doctor, no shrink, no pills.
Which is… I think the whole point (your last sentence, that is)…
I wouldn’t go so far as to suggest such a situation is deliberately engineered, in “modern” society, but it’s… It’s not like we don’t KNOW that already. Yet we’re told to “sit down, shut up, take this pill and stop questioning things”…
Anyone can benefit from a sympathetic ear and honest self-reflection, and some men have problems that need a different approach than just throwing themselves at a healthy activity.
But are men going to derive any benefit from from modern (aka pozzed) psychiatry? Probably not. You're right that masculinity is the cure more often than not. Telling someone to stop overthinking and get outside/go lift some weights/eat healthier is probably going to solve 90% of their problems.
Our modern, forced-feminized society is simply toxic to men, and nobody cares. Except the people who want to poison us.
Men don't need therapy.
For a man, therapy is going into your garage and scratch building a bike rack out of scrap. Or walking up a mountain.
"Captain Kirk is climbing the mountain, why is he climbing the mountain?"
Because Shatner saw himself getting old as fuck and he needed to remind himself he was still alive and still able to do things.
"To challenge the rock. Challenge death."
No man needs to sit on a couch and have some Jewish woman tell him about his toxic masculinity.
Masculinity is the CURE, not the poison.
the gym, the mats, the ring, the woods, the shop but mostly consecutive hours (days, weeks) away from women
Yeah, those men that love mowing their lawns. It's not about the lawn. It's about being away from the god damned woman.
Getting away from women is hardly a problem for most men.
It's hard if you're in a relationship. Generally speaking, they want every second of your time that you're not working. Mowing the lawn and fixing the house are things your wife will let you get away with because they're effectively work.
Hey!
Learning about how different grasses come in different shapes, colors, sizes, densities, and adapt to different soils is interesting. Women or no women.
See also: boats, sheds, “holiday houses” (like any of us can afford that, lol), tinkering with cars, gardening (to a lesser extent), etc…
“Why aren’t you around more? Reeee!!” -her.
I had a den once, but my old lady at the time moved in her spawn from another marriage and they took it over as a bedroom.
It was the last straw.
I hope that taught you that single mothers are for recreation only.
Some people need therapy to be told that, though many therapists today might do more harm that good.
Yup. A buddy of mine has a BA in psychology and he says the APA is ideologically compromised. They consider "toxic masculinity" a disorder now. Most therapists are feminists and frankly feminism is the root cause of a lot mental health problems men have.
Read the latest DSM from the APA. It says everything you need to know about the profession. Shrinks have always bent with the cultural winds, since what they do is not that much different from witch doctoring.
Psychology was the first institution that was taken over, back when they caved to the gay lobby to consider homosexual behavior as perfectly healthy.
Because modern therapy is based off methods designed to treat women by talking about something face to face. Men don't do this.
If you are a guy and one of your friends is going through shit the second best thing you can do is not ask about it. The best thing you can do is spend time with your friend doing stuff like hiking/exercising until he feels ready to bring up whatever is going on. But I bet you he won't be facing you when he starts talking about it and might never do.
Exactly. Talking is overrated. Much of it is pointless fluff. Taking your buddy out shooting, going to the gym or a sauna together is much more effective at reducing stress.
This is stereotyped nonsense. Masculinity isn't about being a macho caricature. Putting thought into words and untangling it through conversation is how I solve my issues and I'm not unmasculine.
I think that might be a tad too far. Having a deep conversation with a friend, that helps them sort themselves out, and find a way of fixing what's wrong is very beneficial. Just talking for talking or de-stressing is a different issue. Your friend might actually want help, rather than just want you to listen to him bitch.
Yeah, this is the case for a bunch of men who are already below par and have no idea how to begin unfucking themselves.
If this was Reddit I would give you a badge for some such thing as Comment of the Day - but it's not so just know you're right - that's enough for men
For a while in lockdown I started having constant anxiety. Getting nervous as fuck, feelings of impending doom, couldn't bring myself to get out of bed in the morning, couldn't sleep at night, sometimes worrying myself the point of shivering convulsions and heaving. At one point I could barely stand up because of the tremors.
Did I go to the doctor? Did I seek a shrink?
No. When one wave of anxiety passed, I got on my bike and rode it until I was exhausted. Physically beaten, I stayed home and I painted. And then I did it again a few days later when my body stopped aching. And I ached for less time each time I did it. I worried a little less each day.
My anxiety went from debilitating to non-existant in a month. No doctor, no shrink, no pills.
Literally just go outside and exercise.
What did you paint?
3D prints of fat tittied goblins.
TITW
Which is… I think the whole point (your last sentence, that is)…
I wouldn’t go so far as to suggest such a situation is deliberately engineered, in “modern” society, but it’s… It’s not like we don’t KNOW that already. Yet we’re told to “sit down, shut up, take this pill and stop questioning things”…
Big sad
Anyone can benefit from a sympathetic ear and honest self-reflection, and some men have problems that need a different approach than just throwing themselves at a healthy activity.
But are men going to derive any benefit from from modern (aka pozzed) psychiatry? Probably not. You're right that masculinity is the cure more often than not. Telling someone to stop overthinking and get outside/go lift some weights/eat healthier is probably going to solve 90% of their problems.
Our modern, forced-feminized society is simply toxic to men, and nobody cares. Except the people who want to poison us.