This is my number one complaint about living with women. They seem totally blind to the amount of free time they have relative to you, and still act as though every waking moment is full of stuff they have to do.
God bless my wife, she does acknowledge it logically if I hold her to account on it, but it almost seems to be an unconscious compulsion. I saw it in my mother as well.
I think it comes down to them not being mentally able to acknowledge work that they don't physically watch you do. I think it's very easy for women to grow comfortable and take things for granted.
Thankfully we've overcome it, but for the first year or so of our marriage I did have to remind my wife that I'm not just having fun in my office for 8 hours a day. I can tell she still struggles to square that circle in her head. Her logical mind battles with her inner female emotions. For an otherwise intelligent and obedient woman, it leads me to believe it must be something innate.
I think it comes down to them not being mentally able to acknowledge work that they don't physically watch you do
Isn't that the craziest thing? Took me a couple of years to realize that if I want to be given any sort of credit for the hours of work I do at home, she has to be home when I do it or she dorsnt "see" it. I finally quit doing any housework when she's gone because she won't acknowledge that it was done. Fucking ridiculous but it's real.
I think abstraction is far more difficult for women than it is for men. It's why they're so difficult to keep satisfied, and why it always comes back around to 'what have you done for me lately?'
Oh, you know, just kept a roof over our heads and food in the fridge, and all the other bs I deal with so you don't have to...
I used to do all the cooking, all the groceries and a fair amount of the housework while paying all the rent and utilities. My cunty ex complained about having to do everything so I made sure she knew she had to take care of herself and I'll only do my share from then on. A week later she blows up and complains that she still does everything and it's not fair so I stopped doing everything but cooking for myself. She blows up again but at least I'm not sacrificing my day for nothing.
Morale of the story is: They will bitch no matter how much you do so just take care of yourself.
I remember my mother screaming at my older brother to get off his ass and get a job and thinking I'd never, ever seen my mother work ever.
Then she was forced to work after the divorce and quit after a few days because it was so hard. She might have maybe worked a year in her entire life and she always acted like her life was constant stress.
It's because women evolved to pick mates who acquire the most resources, but until very, very recently, "resources" meant "stuff". The caveman would bring home meat and pelts. The farmer would have acres of crops. The soldier would have medals. The carpenter would build tangible objects.
Being a modern man means that your primary - if not sole - acquisition is a number in a bank account. It's not something easily registered as a thing. Big number is good, yes, but it doesn't activate the same pathways as actually watching your man create something of value, because we didn't evolve to associate numbers with prosperity. That's something that needs to be learned. Until then, their subconscious tells them every day that you've come back empty-handed, which obviously means you weren't doing anything all day.
This is also why the trope of "wife spends all of husband's money on dumb shit" is so prevalent. Converting the Prosperity Number into objects fills that gap. It's no longer just a number, but a thing she owns.
If she's at least somewhat intelligent, she'll attribute her ownership of that thing to you. A lot of women miss this step and start believing that because they're the ones who bought it, they're the ones who earned it. This is why there are so many broke, useless women who are, regardless, massively entitled. They take money from their dad/boyfriend/beta orbiter/whatever, convert it into objects, then look at their collection of objects and think "look at all the stuff I have, I don't need no man".
seem totally blind to the amount of free time they have relative to men
"OH, you have a day off work, so we have to do this, and we have to go shopping for this and I need you to go out and buy me this and I need these things that I broke fixed and I need you to drive the kids here. . . ."
You're just an asset to them. If they talk that way they don't see you as an actual person that has their own needs. All your use revolves around them. That's a lack of empathy, something women love to talk about men not having.
This is my number one complaint about living with women. They seem totally blind to the amount of free time they have relative to you, and still act as though every waking moment is full of stuff they have to do.
God bless my wife, she does acknowledge it logically if I hold her to account on it, but it almost seems to be an unconscious compulsion. I saw it in my mother as well.
It's that old sitcom trope with the housewife complaining about the husband not helping when he gets home from work.
I think it comes down to them not being mentally able to acknowledge work that they don't physically watch you do. I think it's very easy for women to grow comfortable and take things for granted.
Thankfully we've overcome it, but for the first year or so of our marriage I did have to remind my wife that I'm not just having fun in my office for 8 hours a day. I can tell she still struggles to square that circle in her head. Her logical mind battles with her inner female emotions. For an otherwise intelligent and obedient woman, it leads me to believe it must be something innate.
Isn't that the craziest thing? Took me a couple of years to realize that if I want to be given any sort of credit for the hours of work I do at home, she has to be home when I do it or she dorsnt "see" it. I finally quit doing any housework when she's gone because she won't acknowledge that it was done. Fucking ridiculous but it's real.
I think abstraction is far more difficult for women than it is for men. It's why they're so difficult to keep satisfied, and why it always comes back around to 'what have you done for me lately?'
Oh, you know, just kept a roof over our heads and food in the fridge, and all the other bs I deal with so you don't have to...
I used to do all the cooking, all the groceries and a fair amount of the housework while paying all the rent and utilities. My cunty ex complained about having to do everything so I made sure she knew she had to take care of herself and I'll only do my share from then on. A week later she blows up and complains that she still does everything and it's not fair so I stopped doing everything but cooking for myself. She blows up again but at least I'm not sacrificing my day for nothing.
Morale of the story is: They will bitch no matter how much you do so just take care of yourself.
I remember my mother screaming at my older brother to get off his ass and get a job and thinking I'd never, ever seen my mother work ever.
Then she was forced to work after the divorce and quit after a few days because it was so hard. She might have maybe worked a year in her entire life and she always acted like her life was constant stress.
It's because women evolved to pick mates who acquire the most resources, but until very, very recently, "resources" meant "stuff". The caveman would bring home meat and pelts. The farmer would have acres of crops. The soldier would have medals. The carpenter would build tangible objects.
Being a modern man means that your primary - if not sole - acquisition is a number in a bank account. It's not something easily registered as a thing. Big number is good, yes, but it doesn't activate the same pathways as actually watching your man create something of value, because we didn't evolve to associate numbers with prosperity. That's something that needs to be learned. Until then, their subconscious tells them every day that you've come back empty-handed, which obviously means you weren't doing anything all day.
This is also why the trope of "wife spends all of husband's money on dumb shit" is so prevalent. Converting the Prosperity Number into objects fills that gap. It's no longer just a number, but a thing she owns.
If she's at least somewhat intelligent, she'll attribute her ownership of that thing to you. A lot of women miss this step and start believing that because they're the ones who bought it, they're the ones who earned it. This is why there are so many broke, useless women who are, regardless, massively entitled. They take money from their dad/boyfriend/beta orbiter/whatever, convert it into objects, then look at their collection of objects and think "look at all the stuff I have, I don't need no man".
"OH, you have a day off work, so we have to do this, and we have to go shopping for this and I need you to go out and buy me this and I need these things that I broke fixed and I need you to drive the kids here. . . ."
You're just an asset to them. If they talk that way they don't see you as an actual person that has their own needs. All your use revolves around them. That's a lack of empathy, something women love to talk about men not having.
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