I think it comes down to them not being mentally able to acknowledge work that they don't physically watch you do. I think it's very easy for women to grow comfortable and take things for granted.
Thankfully we've overcome it, but for the first year or so of our marriage I did have to remind my wife that I'm not just having fun in my office for 8 hours a day. I can tell she still struggles to square that circle in her head. Her logical mind battles with her inner female emotions. For an otherwise intelligent and obedient woman, it leads me to believe it must be something innate.
I think it comes down to them not being mentally able to acknowledge work that they don't physically watch you do
Isn't that the craziest thing? Took me a couple of years to realize that if I want to be given any sort of credit for the hours of work I do at home, she has to be home when I do it or she dorsnt "see" it. I finally quit doing any housework when she's gone because she won't acknowledge that it was done. Fucking ridiculous but it's real.
I think abstraction is far more difficult for women than it is for men. It's why they're so difficult to keep satisfied, and why it always comes back around to 'what have you done for me lately?'
Oh, you know, just kept a roof over our heads and food in the fridge, and all the other bs I deal with so you don't have to...
I used to do all the cooking, all the groceries and a fair amount of the housework while paying all the rent and utilities. My cunty ex complained about having to do everything so I made sure she knew she had to take care of herself and I'll only do my share from then on. A week later she blows up and complains that she still does everything and it's not fair so I stopped doing everything but cooking for myself. She blows up again but at least I'm not sacrificing my day for nothing.
Morale of the story is: They will bitch no matter how much you do so just take care of yourself.
I remember my mother screaming at my older brother to get off his ass and get a job and thinking I'd never, ever seen my mother work ever.
Then she was forced to work after the divorce and quit after a few days because it was so hard. She might have maybe worked a year in her entire life and she always acted like her life was constant stress.
I think it comes down to them not being mentally able to acknowledge work that they don't physically watch you do. I think it's very easy for women to grow comfortable and take things for granted.
Thankfully we've overcome it, but for the first year or so of our marriage I did have to remind my wife that I'm not just having fun in my office for 8 hours a day. I can tell she still struggles to square that circle in her head. Her logical mind battles with her inner female emotions. For an otherwise intelligent and obedient woman, it leads me to believe it must be something innate.
Isn't that the craziest thing? Took me a couple of years to realize that if I want to be given any sort of credit for the hours of work I do at home, she has to be home when I do it or she dorsnt "see" it. I finally quit doing any housework when she's gone because she won't acknowledge that it was done. Fucking ridiculous but it's real.
I think abstraction is far more difficult for women than it is for men. It's why they're so difficult to keep satisfied, and why it always comes back around to 'what have you done for me lately?'
Oh, you know, just kept a roof over our heads and food in the fridge, and all the other bs I deal with so you don't have to...
"You were never there for us!"
Yeah, I was working 60-80 hours a week to keep everyone housed and fed and keep the water running"
I used to do all the cooking, all the groceries and a fair amount of the housework while paying all the rent and utilities. My cunty ex complained about having to do everything so I made sure she knew she had to take care of herself and I'll only do my share from then on. A week later she blows up and complains that she still does everything and it's not fair so I stopped doing everything but cooking for myself. She blows up again but at least I'm not sacrificing my day for nothing.
Morale of the story is: They will bitch no matter how much you do so just take care of yourself.
I remember my mother screaming at my older brother to get off his ass and get a job and thinking I'd never, ever seen my mother work ever.
Then she was forced to work after the divorce and quit after a few days because it was so hard. She might have maybe worked a year in her entire life and she always acted like her life was constant stress.