A lot of guys in the "anti-hoe" sphere fell for the "men's peak is 35!" line and forget that by peak it means you are probably all downhill from there in a lot of ways.
Sure career might improve, money might be more flowing, and your ability to pull hoes with daddy issues might become simple, but you'll an aged father to any children and miss a large amount of their adulthood, and your grandchildren's childhoods.
Yeah, but when you have kids it’s not about you and your experiences. Your kids will turn into adults and just be happy you made them and we’re around for a little while.
40s isn't ideal, but it's not a terrible time to have kids either. Nobody should stop trying to have kids at 40.
If you're treating your body like garbage, stop doing that and you will have plenty of fun times with your kids.
I know people with significantly older fathers than that and while at all costs you should try to have kids earlier, I wouldn't go so far as discouraging anyone.
And if you are 40+ as a man, you are almost certainly going to not be able to give them as much of an experience as if you were 10+ years younger. Age limits us all, no matter how much you fight it it will still catch you. Sure you might have more money, but then you are at the gap between "attention versus stuff" on what makes a kid happier.
And its more than just your own kids. Grandparents are an integral part to not only helping newparents be successful through generational knowledge, but as part of a kid's happiness and development.
If you have your kids at 40+, then you will be pushing 60 by the time your kids have their own at the earliest possible chance. Reasonably you'll be closer to 70+, an age with very low capability to play with a child and a near certain death in their childhood that will devastate them.
As you say, its not about you and your experiences. Which also means giving your kids the best, longest and most capable years of your life possible instead of waiting for some "ideal" age just because you, as a man, can technically do so.
I’m proof that you can, because I make more money and have more time off to spend with my kids. During my younger days I had neither time nor money because I was always working.
You’ll still have kids at 40+, just fewer of them, and you have established a life you can provide well for them.
He's not too young. He's 40. His life is more than half over. The story and trajectory of his life are already written.
A lot of guys in the "anti-hoe" sphere fell for the "men's peak is 35!" line and forget that by peak it means you are probably all downhill from there in a lot of ways.
Sure career might improve, money might be more flowing, and your ability to pull hoes with daddy issues might become simple, but you'll an aged father to any children and miss a large amount of their adulthood, and your grandchildren's childhoods.
Yeah, but when you have kids it’s not about you and your experiences. Your kids will turn into adults and just be happy you made them and we’re around for a little while.
40s isn't ideal, but it's not a terrible time to have kids either. Nobody should stop trying to have kids at 40.
If you're treating your body like garbage, stop doing that and you will have plenty of fun times with your kids.
I know people with significantly older fathers than that and while at all costs you should try to have kids earlier, I wouldn't go so far as discouraging anyone.
And if you are 40+ as a man, you are almost certainly going to not be able to give them as much of an experience as if you were 10+ years younger. Age limits us all, no matter how much you fight it it will still catch you. Sure you might have more money, but then you are at the gap between "attention versus stuff" on what makes a kid happier.
And its more than just your own kids. Grandparents are an integral part to not only helping newparents be successful through generational knowledge, but as part of a kid's happiness and development.
If you have your kids at 40+, then you will be pushing 60 by the time your kids have their own at the earliest possible chance. Reasonably you'll be closer to 70+, an age with very low capability to play with a child and a near certain death in their childhood that will devastate them.
As you say, its not about you and your experiences. Which also means giving your kids the best, longest and most capable years of your life possible instead of waiting for some "ideal" age just because you, as a man, can technically do so.
I’m proof that you can, because I make more money and have more time off to spend with my kids. During my younger days I had neither time nor money because I was always working.
You’ll still have kids at 40+, just fewer of them, and you have established a life you can provide well for them.