Yeah, I don't think even ForeignInvader would recommend that you get girls like that to go to your place before having even their phone number. In a bar is different, because it is expected.
This is true. I evidently can’t even manage the “in bars” bit, myself (not sure why. Zero confidence? I don’t even get to the ask…), which is like… Well it sucks, let’s go with that.
So meeting women and actually getting anywhere really only happens when there is something mutually in common already, on most occasions.
Eurgh. It’s the worst thing.
Unfortunately I don’t seem to be getting better with this, either.
In the other comment, you talk about bars. That makes more sense. I thought you were at a mall and pulling this sort of stunt.
Yeah, I don't think even ForeignInvader would recommend that you get girls like that to go to your place before having even their phone number. In a bar is different, because it is expected.
This is true. I evidently can’t even manage the “in bars” bit, myself (not sure why. Zero confidence? I don’t even get to the ask…), which is like… Well it sucks, let’s go with that.
So meeting women and actually getting anywhere really only happens when there is something mutually in common already, on most occasions.
Eurgh. It’s the worst thing.
Unfortunately I don’t seem to be getting better with this, either.
Obviously, if you don't try. This may be something for you, from a rather interesting heterodox political science PhD: https://richardhanania.substack.com/p/how-i-overcame-anxiety
I’ve never been particularly good at this. Particularly in that sort of environment…
What’s your icebreaker, lol?
Ha, fair enough.
I have this weird thing (it seems) where my brain freezes, and I somehow can’t spit out the words I want to say. Or they come out wrong.
And then later, when it’s all over, I involuntarily revisit the conversation, and think “Oh, THAT’S what I should have said”…
It really fucking sucks, lol.
Happened on NYE three times with different women…
So yeah. 💁🏻♂️
You’re doing better than me, lol.