Yeah, I don't think even ForeignInvader would recommend that you get girls like that to go to your place before having even their phone number. In a bar is different, because it is expected.
This is true. I evidently can’t even manage the “in bars” bit, myself (not sure why. Zero confidence? I don’t even get to the ask…), which is like… Well it sucks, let’s go with that.
So meeting women and actually getting anywhere really only happens when there is something mutually in common already, on most occasions.
Eurgh. It’s the worst thing.
Unfortunately I don’t seem to be getting better with this, either.
Yeah, I don't think even ForeignInvader would recommend that you get girls like that to go to your place before having even their phone number. In a bar is different, because it is expected.
This is true. I evidently can’t even manage the “in bars” bit, myself (not sure why. Zero confidence? I don’t even get to the ask…), which is like… Well it sucks, let’s go with that.
So meeting women and actually getting anywhere really only happens when there is something mutually in common already, on most occasions.
Eurgh. It’s the worst thing.
Unfortunately I don’t seem to be getting better with this, either.
Obviously, if you don't try. This may be something for you, from a rather interesting heterodox political science PhD: https://richardhanania.substack.com/p/how-i-overcame-anxiety