Since a top 20% man wouldn't need to attend an event like this to get his dick wet the guy would be in the bottom 80% in terms of SMV. So he would be rejected by all the women and the women would ask each other where all the good men are.
That's true if and only if the woman he did decide to talk to doesn't reject him. Preselection cuts both ways though. If he gets rejected by one that dooms his chances with the rest.
i went to a charity speed-date-auction event once with work people. never fucking again.
the women are all 35+ year old losers, thinking they're hot shit for scoring a diversity quota job. maxed out on hedonistic consumerism. literally every single one is obese. not a single one is even a 5, and they all act like they're entitled to 10s who are billionaire fitness models and doctors who volunteer at the animal shelter and compose symphonies in their spare time.
it's dating market economics... men are the hunters, the women the hunted. when a woman has to go that far out of her way to get the attention of a guy, it's because she's so ridiculously undesirable and low value that 50%+ of men are constantly, actively, avoiding and ignoring her.
Where are people getting such ideas? I see the most hideous and fat guys with normal-looking women. And yet online I see "top 20% of guys this, top 20% that".
It is a rare couple where the man is more attractive than the women, at least here, and I can speak with some authority on that.
I had a 6 year serious relationship with a woman outside my league. How I got the first date was confidence and persistence. I asked her out 3 times over 2 months. She never gave me a hard "no" or "not interested". She continued to approach me after each try and we enjoyed talking to each other.
Top 20% doesn't only mean looks. It's a success metric. Being attractive is by far the most important, but height, money, clothes (indicator for money), personality, the opinions of other women, etc. all factor into the weighting somewhat. And everybody settles eventually, changing that top 20 to 50 and up. Regarding your specific example I don't think we can compare random people walking down the street to women actively playing the dating game at a singles mixer. (especially upper-middle-class single Black women who hold notoriously high standards for men)
Clearly it is not! It's as if people assume that women are just like men. They really aren't.
And everybody settles eventually, changing that top 20 to 50 and up.
Then that 20% nonsense ends up meaning nothing at all. They try to get the best they can, when they invariably fail, they settle.
Regarding your specific example I don't think we can compare random people walking down the street to women actively playing the dating game at a singles mixer
Those are people who, perhaps for a reason, have not found a guy.
Since a top 20% man wouldn't need to attend an event like this to get his dick wet the guy would be in the bottom 80% in terms of SMV. So he would be rejected by all the women and the women would ask each other where all the good men are.
That's true if and only if the woman he did decide to talk to doesn't reject him. Preselection cuts both ways though. If he gets rejected by one that dooms his chances with the rest.
i went to a charity speed-date-auction event once with work people. never fucking again.
the women are all 35+ year old losers, thinking they're hot shit for scoring a diversity quota job. maxed out on hedonistic consumerism. literally every single one is obese. not a single one is even a 5, and they all act like they're entitled to 10s who are billionaire fitness models and doctors who volunteer at the animal shelter and compose symphonies in their spare time.
it's dating market economics... men are the hunters, the women the hunted. when a woman has to go that far out of her way to get the attention of a guy, it's because she's so ridiculously undesirable and low value that 50%+ of men are constantly, actively, avoiding and ignoring her.
Where are people getting such ideas? I see the most hideous and fat guys with normal-looking women. And yet online I see "top 20% of guys this, top 20% that".
It is a rare couple where the man is more attractive than the women, at least here, and I can speak with some authority on that.
All of those women are mid as fuck and disguise it with loads of makeup and art techniques. They're not hot. you're just easily deceived
I'm impressed with recent technology if make-up can make you not fat.
Are you sure they aren't just skinny-fat? Most girls don't work out at all, or just do some mild cardio at best.
That's not entirely true.
I had a 6 year serious relationship with a woman outside my league. How I got the first date was confidence and persistence. I asked her out 3 times over 2 months. She never gave me a hard "no" or "not interested". She continued to approach me after each try and we enjoyed talking to each other.
Top 20% doesn't only mean looks. It's a success metric. Being attractive is by far the most important, but height, money, clothes (indicator for money), personality, the opinions of other women, etc. all factor into the weighting somewhat. And everybody settles eventually, changing that top 20 to 50 and up. Regarding your specific example I don't think we can compare random people walking down the street to women actively playing the dating game at a singles mixer. (especially upper-middle-class single Black women who hold notoriously high standards for men)
lol, really?
Clearly it is not! It's as if people assume that women are just like men. They really aren't.
Then that 20% nonsense ends up meaning nothing at all. They try to get the best they can, when they invariably fail, they settle.
Those are people who, perhaps for a reason, have not found a guy.
I really doubt that.
Is it that different in the US, or do you simply not go outside?
No, most average guys do get women in North America too. Heck, the "top 20%" in North America is just gay anyway.
It's just that here, the people who rail on "women" aren't average. They're mostly bottom 5%.
They're paying for it.