Some People are Large Language Models
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At the first bar I ran into someone I hadn't seen since my early childhood, introduced myself to his friends and spent a bit of time catching up with him before heading back to my parents group, At second one I just stuck to my group my family's group and hung out with them since I didn't see anyone to approach besides the two that left before I got the chance(I was waiting for the bands to switch so there would be a quieter time to speak).
I don't know the search terms to use and my parents wouldn't approve of me going to a bar alone.
You're telling me to "go to shops and talk to the owners about them" like it's some sort of 50s sitcom where brick and mortar stores still serve a purpose and are staffed by knowledgeable owners.
Okay, so you have never made an effort to have casual conversation with a stranger at a bar. You need to be able to admit this fact about yourself. You can't keep pretending this isn't true. The first time you only talked to your friend, the second time you only talked to family.
"Bar near me where mid 20s people hang out." "Brewery near me." "Dive bar near me."
Now you know them. Use them.
Yes. That's literally what I'm saying.
I walked into a plant shop months ago and chatted with him about plant care and how long he's owned the shop. I went to a wine bar about a year ago and chatted with the owner and the bartender about wine and what wines they like because I didn't know what to drink. They know me by name now. I patronize a sandwich shop across the street from me frequently and she gives me free soup and we chat about music and our lives.
It's how you learn to converse with people. I'm teaching you how to do that as a means to reach your goals. This is required of you to know how to do.
I have only had the opportunity to go to a bar twice in my life and I doubt my parents wanted me wandering off.
I see you conveniently ignore that my parents don't want me going out to bars especially alone.
And I'm saying that I don't encounter these opportunities. the only shops I go to are grocery chains, other than that there isn't anywhere I have a reason to go. unless you just expect me to start going out to eat regularly just to get out of the house. Even then when I was regularly trying that because it was the only actionable advice for getting out that I had received it still only ever lead to me sitting around alone waiting for time to pass. I'm not getting the sorts of opportunities you're describing.
What actually putting your advice into practice entails is just throwing away time and money, accomplishing nothing, and then getting blamed for not achieving success despite the opportunities not being present. Going to a sandwich shop alone on a regular basis is literally one of the few things I have been able to try and in the months I spent doing it the only thing that came of it was getting yelled at by my dad for being gone too long despite him knowing that it had an overheating problem and needed time to cool down. I was treated like a creepy retarded psychopath by him just for going out and getting practice driving because he didn't trust me to be able to wait in place without making an ass of myself.
Okay, so, therefore, you have never made an effort. It's not meant to be a put down, you genuinely have never made the effort to speak with and meet someone new. This is something that you need to learn how to do in order to meet your goal.
Yes. That's what normal people do. And then you make the effort to talk with people. This is what you have never tried.
How do you expect me to "make the effort" when I'm not allowed to? I'm doing everything I can and will even be dragging myself to church tomorrow because it's one of the only places I'm allowed to go even if I end up hating everyone there.