Some People are Large Language Models
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You don’t find peers because you dont try. You stay inside all day, and the rare times you do go out you keep your head down and leave as soon as you can.
When is the last time you went to a bar and hung out for more than an hour? When is the last time you talked to a shop owner about their store? Fucking NEVER.
Because you don’t try.
I've gone to a bar twice in my life, both times with my parents, first time was pretty good and it seemed promising though I spent most of the time catching up with people I hadn't seen in a while, but the bar in question was locating inside of a gated community which I'm not part of and don't have any real connections in. The last time I went to a bar I hung around for about 4 hours with my parents and their friends and I was actively looking around at the crowds. I saw a couple cute girls(which is to say two that were both part of the same group) that I planned on approaching but they left before I got the chance. The whole area it was located in seemed far more and lively active than anything that's around here even if the specific bar I was in was mostly people in their 40-60 demographic. Probably would have better luck if I could find some place like that though hopefully one with a younger crowd. I've just never had the guidance in life to be able to find things like that.
What are you even talking about? What shops would I even be going to?
And in this time at the bar, did you make any attempt to have casual conversation with a stranger, where you did all of the talking yourself? "Planning on it" doesn't count. Did you actually make an attempt to talk with anyone that wasn't related to you?
You know how to use a search engine.
This is what normal people do. This is how normal people have conversations, and become more familiar and ingrained with their community, building a social network. I'm once again giving you guidance and you're refusing to do it. We’ve already talked about places you could go to converse with people.
At the first bar I ran into someone I hadn't seen since my early childhood, introduced myself to his friends and spent a bit of time catching up with him before heading back to my parents group, At second one I just stuck to my group my family's group and hung out with them since I didn't see anyone to approach besides the two that left before I got the chance(I was waiting for the bands to switch so there would be a quieter time to speak).
I don't know the search terms to use and my parents wouldn't approve of me going to a bar alone.
You're telling me to "go to shops and talk to the owners about them" like it's some sort of 50s sitcom where brick and mortar stores still serve a purpose and are staffed by knowledgeable owners.
Okay, so you have never made an effort to have casual conversation with a stranger at a bar. You need to be able to admit this fact about yourself. You can't keep pretending this isn't true. The first time you only talked to your friend, the second time you only talked to family.
"Bar near me where mid 20s people hang out." "Brewery near me." "Dive bar near me."
Now you know them. Use them.
Yes. That's literally what I'm saying.
I walked into a plant shop months ago and chatted with him about plant care and how long he's owned the shop. I went to a wine bar about a year ago and chatted with the owner and the bartender about wine and what wines they like because I didn't know what to drink. They know me by name now. I patronize a sandwich shop across the street from me frequently and she gives me free soup and we chat about music and our lives.
It's how you learn to converse with people. I'm teaching you how to do that as a means to reach your goals. This is required of you to know how to do.