The only value in monetizing necessary household tasks and chores is determining if it is more valuable to hire someone to do them for you and you continuing to work, usually a useful metric for people with decently paying jobs. Or maybe when determining a child's allowance.
If you need to audit your entire household budget and tasks constantly to figure out how to give "spending money" then you are living well below your means and should worry about that first rather than some convoluted system of chore value.
This sets expectations and prevents resentment and abuse from both sides.
This very article proves this wrong. This woman has massively overvalued herself and the value of the chore. If you and your wife are amicable and agreeable enough to set hardstone values on a task without major disagreement (compromise will lead to resentment), then you are a couple who doesn't need this entire nonsense.
If the dinner is shit do I dock her pay? If the baby is extra destructive today does she demand more for her cleaning? If I believe dusting isn't as important and she is abusing our finances by doing it daily, who is in the right?
Once money is involved, these little thoughts turn from minor disagreements with little value to incredibly important arguments about our finances. Now the couple has to squabble and argue constantly because every single aspect of their life is revolving around money and their time value, their home life is a second job.
You don't audit it constantly. You use it as a foundation to set up proper expectations and realistic understanding. "Why don't you ever help me with the dishes" turns into happy compliance when you show them how much the house costs to run and how EASY IT WOULD BE TO HIRE A PROFESSIONAL AND REPLACE HER ASS IF SHES NOT DOING IT
when you show them how much the house costs to run
An abstract number versus an annoying action she is doing right now. Yes I see, where the problem is. You live in the world where women, and humans even, are perfectly logical and rational beings that operate entirely on that.
how EASY IT WOULD BE TO HIRE A PROFESSIONAL AND REPLACE HER ASS IF SHES NOT DOING IT
This runs entirely contrary to your earlier sentence on "looking for a partner and wife instead of a mark to use for her labor."
Also HITTING CAPS LOCK JUST MAKES YOUR POINT LOOK MORE SILLY.
No it doesn't. Women are, first and foremost, self serving and self focused. They view the world from their needs and wants and desires only. They don't comprehend the work you do out of their view, only what they are doing. When you show them how much the bills cost and how much it costs to keep her satisfied vs hiring someone to do what she does, it opens her eyes to say "oh. I see how I could be affected if I don't perform well, and I also see how I am being valued through his labor and my cost as well." Its not hard, and it works. I'm married to a straight dime who actually loves me, and we both respect each other's efforts which makes for less resentment or entitlement and more joy. The people not grasping this are also the people without that
The only value in monetizing necessary household tasks and chores is determining if it is more valuable to hire someone to do them for you and you continuing to work, usually a useful metric for people with decently paying jobs. Or maybe when determining a child's allowance.
If you need to audit your entire household budget and tasks constantly to figure out how to give "spending money" then you are living well below your means and should worry about that first rather than some convoluted system of chore value.
This very article proves this wrong. This woman has massively overvalued herself and the value of the chore. If you and your wife are amicable and agreeable enough to set hardstone values on a task without major disagreement (compromise will lead to resentment), then you are a couple who doesn't need this entire nonsense.
If the dinner is shit do I dock her pay? If the baby is extra destructive today does she demand more for her cleaning? If I believe dusting isn't as important and she is abusing our finances by doing it daily, who is in the right?
Once money is involved, these little thoughts turn from minor disagreements with little value to incredibly important arguments about our finances. Now the couple has to squabble and argue constantly because every single aspect of their life is revolving around money and their time value, their home life is a second job.
You don't audit it constantly. You use it as a foundation to set up proper expectations and realistic understanding. "Why don't you ever help me with the dishes" turns into happy compliance when you show them how much the house costs to run and how EASY IT WOULD BE TO HIRE A PROFESSIONAL AND REPLACE HER ASS IF SHES NOT DOING IT
An abstract number versus an annoying action she is doing right now. Yes I see, where the problem is. You live in the world where women, and humans even, are perfectly logical and rational beings that operate entirely on that.
This runs entirely contrary to your earlier sentence on "looking for a partner and wife instead of a mark to use for her labor."
Also HITTING CAPS LOCK JUST MAKES YOUR POINT LOOK MORE SILLY.
No it doesn't. Women are, first and foremost, self serving and self focused. They view the world from their needs and wants and desires only. They don't comprehend the work you do out of their view, only what they are doing. When you show them how much the bills cost and how much it costs to keep her satisfied vs hiring someone to do what she does, it opens her eyes to say "oh. I see how I could be affected if I don't perform well, and I also see how I am being valued through his labor and my cost as well." Its not hard, and it works. I'm married to a straight dime who actually loves me, and we both respect each other's efforts which makes for less resentment or entitlement and more joy. The people not grasping this are also the people without that
Lol, lmao even. Between saying things like this and needing to brag about your "dime" that totes loves you, it really makes it hard to believe that.
I'm happily married too, its not some unique flex that makes you an expert on anything.