You don't audit it constantly. You use it as a foundation to set up proper expectations and realistic understanding. "Why don't you ever help me with the dishes" turns into happy compliance when you show them how much the house costs to run and how EASY IT WOULD BE TO HIRE A PROFESSIONAL AND REPLACE HER ASS IF SHES NOT DOING IT
when you show them how much the house costs to run
An abstract number versus an annoying action she is doing right now. Yes I see, where the problem is. You live in the world where women, and humans even, are perfectly logical and rational beings that operate entirely on that.
how EASY IT WOULD BE TO HIRE A PROFESSIONAL AND REPLACE HER ASS IF SHES NOT DOING IT
This runs entirely contrary to your earlier sentence on "looking for a partner and wife instead of a mark to use for her labor."
Also HITTING CAPS LOCK JUST MAKES YOUR POINT LOOK MORE SILLY.
No it doesn't. Women are, first and foremost, self serving and self focused. They view the world from their needs and wants and desires only. They don't comprehend the work you do out of their view, only what they are doing. When you show them how much the bills cost and how much it costs to keep her satisfied vs hiring someone to do what she does, it opens her eyes to say "oh. I see how I could be affected if I don't perform well, and I also see how I am being valued through his labor and my cost as well." Its not hard, and it works. I'm married to a straight dime who actually loves me, and we both respect each other's efforts which makes for less resentment or entitlement and more joy. The people not grasping this are also the people without that
I will brag about my wife anywhere to anyone because I love her and she is amazing. Maybe you should brag a bit more about yours, mate. I'm proud of her and love talking about her. She is a wonderful person inside and out.
You don't audit it constantly. You use it as a foundation to set up proper expectations and realistic understanding. "Why don't you ever help me with the dishes" turns into happy compliance when you show them how much the house costs to run and how EASY IT WOULD BE TO HIRE A PROFESSIONAL AND REPLACE HER ASS IF SHES NOT DOING IT
An abstract number versus an annoying action she is doing right now. Yes I see, where the problem is. You live in the world where women, and humans even, are perfectly logical and rational beings that operate entirely on that.
This runs entirely contrary to your earlier sentence on "looking for a partner and wife instead of a mark to use for her labor."
Also HITTING CAPS LOCK JUST MAKES YOUR POINT LOOK MORE SILLY.
No it doesn't. Women are, first and foremost, self serving and self focused. They view the world from their needs and wants and desires only. They don't comprehend the work you do out of their view, only what they are doing. When you show them how much the bills cost and how much it costs to keep her satisfied vs hiring someone to do what she does, it opens her eyes to say "oh. I see how I could be affected if I don't perform well, and I also see how I am being valued through his labor and my cost as well." Its not hard, and it works. I'm married to a straight dime who actually loves me, and we both respect each other's efforts which makes for less resentment or entitlement and more joy. The people not grasping this are also the people without that
Lol, lmao even. Between saying things like this and needing to brag about your "dime" that totes loves you, it really makes it hard to believe that.
I'm happily married too, its not some unique flex that makes you an expert on anything.
I will brag about my wife anywhere to anyone because I love her and she is amazing. Maybe you should brag a bit more about yours, mate. I'm proud of her and love talking about her. She is a wonderful person inside and out.