Their belief that they are good people are interwoven with their political beliefs, which is why they don't understand trade offs, ignore downstream effects, and never think about 3rd order effects. Good intentions are what drives them, and because they are largely of the professional class, with university credentials, they think they are smart enough to think of everything.
I usually just shut them up with: "In school, you were one of those not doing any work in group assignments, just waiting for the others to finish it for you, weren't you?"
It's female thinking. Do what's best to pacify everyone in the moment. It's a great instinct to have for caregiving but does not lend to long term planning
Their belief that they are good people are interwoven with their political beliefs, which is why they don't understand trade offs, ignore downstream effects, and never think about 3rd order effects. Good intentions are what drives them, and because they are largely of the professional class, with university credentials, they think they are smart enough to think of everything.
I usually just shut them up with: "In school, you were one of those not doing any work in group assignments, just waiting for the others to finish it for you, weren't you?"
It's female thinking. Do what's best to pacify everyone in the moment. It's a great instinct to have for caregiving but does not lend to long term planning