https://rumble.com/v4ng5sr-njf-on-marriage.html
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summary:
- you can't take risks
- you can't trade your comfort for resources toward a greater goal
- women have absolute legal power
- women have no obligations or duties in how they behave
- most of the masculinity exhibited by married men is performative and trivial
- every mechanism to control a wife's behavior is seen as "abuse"
Even knowing all of this, and generally agreeing with it, I still think the costs and sacrifices are worth it as long as you go in for the purposes of having children. Unless you are an incel genius like Isaac Newton or Nikolai Tesla then producing those children and doing your best to impart your values on to them, in spite of everything arrayed against you, is your "greater purpose".
Yes, men have mostly always done what they've needed to in order to reproduce and provide for their families in spite of the fact that the contract has never been fair for them. But right now they're not.
The behavior that recent generations of men, or at least large numbers of them, are displaying in reaction to this evolutionary predisposition to disposability is unlike any we've seen before, except in societies on the brink of collapse. All of which did collapse, usually accompanied by extreme demographic decline or extinction.
The idea that young men are going to keep doing what they've always done because biology predisposes them to do it is not borne out by the reality we're seeing. What's happening instead is that, as female privilege grows more and more unassailable, men are simply choosing not to interact with women, or at least not to reproduce with them.
So is this occurring for purely biological reasons due to population pressures, resource availability or environmental factors? I see very little evidence of that. And if you ask that increasing number of young men what their reasons are, most of them will tell you that it's because they're afraid to interact with women, or they don't think it's worth the risk. I don't think it's illogical to at least examine the change in societal circumstances that has led to that change in behavior.
Its not. In fact, the reasons are pretty well obvious and documented. We should always be combating them as best we can. In fact, I've spent decades doing so as I was an Anti-Feminist before most people here were born and I'll speak your ears off about the sheer depths of how fucked society is in that regard.
The illogical part is thinking it will ever get "more fair," or even thinking anyone cares when the unfairness of it crushes you. The entire history of the MRA, and all its various iterations, has been infinite failure because it tried to convince people to care about men and the unfair system we have placed on them.
When the final truth is that your only options are to carve a hellish path through the world to pass on your genes to the future (and with it preserve your knowledge and gotten gains for your suffering) or let all that die with you waiting for the "perfect balanced chance" like a woman growing eggless and fat waiting for her Mr. Right.
Again, I agree. Some men will choose to take the risk, and an increasing number won't. The point I keep making is that lecturing those who choose not to about their responsibility to society is simply not going to suddenly convince them to change their minds, especially not when the lecture comes from the same generations of men whose own weakness and impotence played a significant role in creating this situation.
I don't think its any better to convince them to let themselves and society further rot by chasing impossible dreams of "fair contracts" when its a guaranteed impossibility.
Not that they have any responsibility to society, especially as rigged as it is against them. But you can't complain about the state of something and also be constantly contributing to its broken state by refusing to participate in any form of improvement.
Don't take the advice of those whose failure brought us to this state. But don't also take advice that just feeds into your own desire to be self-righteous, lazy, or hedonistic. Even if that advice comes from yourself.