https://rumble.com/v4ng5sr-njf-on-marriage.html
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summary:
- you can't take risks
- you can't trade your comfort for resources toward a greater goal
- women have absolute legal power
- women have no obligations or duties in how they behave
- most of the masculinity exhibited by married men is performative and trivial
- every mechanism to control a wife's behavior is seen as "abuse"
Even knowing all of this, and generally agreeing with it, I still think the costs and sacrifices are worth it as long as you go in for the purposes of having children. Unless you are an incel genius like Isaac Newton or Nikolai Tesla then producing those children and doing your best to impart your values on to them, in spite of everything arrayed against you, is your "greater purpose".
Again, I agree. Some men will choose to take the risk, and an increasing number won't. The point I keep making is that lecturing those who choose not to about their responsibility to society is simply not going to suddenly convince them to change their minds, especially not when the lecture comes from the same generations of men whose own weakness and impotence played a significant role in creating this situation.
I don't think its any better to convince them to let themselves and society further rot by chasing impossible dreams of "fair contracts" when its a guaranteed impossibility.
Not that they have any responsibility to society, especially as rigged as it is against them. But you can't complain about the state of something and also be constantly contributing to its broken state by refusing to participate in any form of improvement.
Don't take the advice of those whose failure brought us to this state. But don't also take advice that just feeds into your own desire to be self-righteous, lazy, or hedonistic. Even if that advice comes from yourself.