Then you're suggesting to most men that sex entirely is stupid but most men I know enjoy sex and sometimes you can be intimate with a woman without children. You shouldn't cut down your fellow men simply because they have a difference in taste then you in this regard. Having children is admirable but there simply aren't a lot of women worth having children with out there and western societies have made it legally a nightmare for men to have children. It makes sense for most men not to want children in modernity through no fault of their own yet still many of these men will want a sexual relationship with a woman still and there's nothing wrong with that. Ideally, it would be great if men could only have sex with a woman they want to marry and have children with but in practice that doesn't work.

The bible says men who can't control their sexual desires should get a wife but in modernity there are no wives to go around. Men can't just take a wife like they may have been able to in the passed. Men are forced to have to adapt to the system that exists today and yes this system is far from ideal but you can't blame men for having to navigate in the weeds. Hardly any man wants the options available to them. They simply have no choice and are forced to adapt to our sick sick society.