One of my buddies in my early 20s was gay. Over drinks one night I said "come on, I gotta know -- how many guys have you been with?" He looked me in the eyes and said "I stopped counting at 100 when I was 16."
My other buddy when I lived in asia was a very shy, quiet, fat and nerdy dude. He used to go to a bathhouse in the Jong-no district of Seoul every weekend and get spitroasted by 6-10 different guys. During the week he would pick up 5-10 more through Grindr.
Just last week I met one of my wife's childhood friends... they come from a conservative country and upbringing (Philippines) -- these are very highly educated professionals at this point in their lives. He dipped on us several times in just a couple days to go suck a dick for 20 mins. Grindr again.
While I am sure there are many gay men who want a long term solid thing (and the data bears this out, believe it or not. Once gay men settle down into a LTR it tends to be the most rock-solid of any pairing, at least in terms of divorce) -- every gay dude I know well is a huge sexual deviant.
Once gay men settle down into a LTR it tends to be the most rock-solid of any pairing, at least in terms of divorce) --
I'm willing to bet this is just because men dislike change and are way less likely to initiate a divorce. I wouldn't give them this stat like it's a virtue or anything, lol.
it's been a long time since I read the study -- and you'll have to forgive me but I don't want to go chase my source for a random internet comment I made -- but if I recall correctly the answer is actually no.
Generally, once gay males decide to commit and be married, it's a solid, monogamous relationship.
I actually misspoke earlier -- there are a couple gay men I know who aren't sexual degenerates. They're so utterly normal I didn't even think about them. One couple has been married about 5 years, the other about 20.
I do believe that homosexuality tends to manifest from some sort of abuse as a child (which is sadly vastly underreported)... but it is an interesting question as to why there exists a minority who don't go on to full-blown sexual deviance.
Interesting. I mean, I have to wonder what monogamous means because technically it's not poly unless you bring someone into the relationship. Sanctioned cheating can technically take place in a monogamous relationship.
I believe truly monogamous gays are out there though. Glenn Greenwald probably left the roadie life once he settled down with his husband. Sad what happened.
Then there are the gays who marry so they can molest children.
While I am sure there are many gay men who want a long term solid thing (and the data bears this out, believe it or not. Once gay men settle down into a LTR it tends to be the most rock-solid of any pairing, at least in terms of divorce)
Casual observation also bears out the fact that gay men will fuck anyone willing until they get old and gross-looking to other gay men. Then they begin looking for LTRs. Much like hetero women, now that I think on it a might.
You may be on to something. The mold-breakers I know were typically very reserved about their sexuality, generally because of their parents (as it should be, really -- why is it ever a topic of conversation?)... but I wonder if there's an aspect of "never fell into that trap" to it, as well.
If there were to be data to back that up, it'd certainly be ironic that keeping your kids in the closet as long as possible will stop them from developing degenerate tendencies.
Averaged over 60 is low.
One of my buddies in my early 20s was gay. Over drinks one night I said "come on, I gotta know -- how many guys have you been with?" He looked me in the eyes and said "I stopped counting at 100 when I was 16."
My other buddy when I lived in asia was a very shy, quiet, fat and nerdy dude. He used to go to a bathhouse in the Jong-no district of Seoul every weekend and get spitroasted by 6-10 different guys. During the week he would pick up 5-10 more through Grindr.
Just last week I met one of my wife's childhood friends... they come from a conservative country and upbringing (Philippines) -- these are very highly educated professionals at this point in their lives. He dipped on us several times in just a couple days to go suck a dick for 20 mins. Grindr again.
While I am sure there are many gay men who want a long term solid thing (and the data bears this out, believe it or not. Once gay men settle down into a LTR it tends to be the most rock-solid of any pairing, at least in terms of divorce) -- every gay dude I know well is a huge sexual deviant.
The Jong-no Dong-yes bathhouse?
I'm willing to bet this is just because men dislike change and are way less likely to initiate a divorce. I wouldn't give them this stat like it's a virtue or anything, lol.
Just look at all the stories of women divorcing their partners when they "finally meet the one". Woman are all about "dating upwards".
Lol reading this makes me glad I never bothered and stayed a permavirgin.
Imagine the STD Russian-Roulette.
You're still generally pretty safe having sex as long as you don't involve buttholes.
Are these marriages as open as a block of Swiss cheese or what?
it's been a long time since I read the study -- and you'll have to forgive me but I don't want to go chase my source for a random internet comment I made -- but if I recall correctly the answer is actually no.
Generally, once gay males decide to commit and be married, it's a solid, monogamous relationship.
I actually misspoke earlier -- there are a couple gay men I know who aren't sexual degenerates. They're so utterly normal I didn't even think about them. One couple has been married about 5 years, the other about 20.
I do believe that homosexuality tends to manifest from some sort of abuse as a child (which is sadly vastly underreported)... but it is an interesting question as to why there exists a minority who don't go on to full-blown sexual deviance.
Interesting. I mean, I have to wonder what monogamous means because technically it's not poly unless you bring someone into the relationship. Sanctioned cheating can technically take place in a monogamous relationship.
I believe truly monogamous gays are out there though. Glenn Greenwald probably left the roadie life once he settled down with his husband. Sad what happened.
Then there are the gays who marry so they can molest children.
Casual observation also bears out the fact that gay men will fuck anyone willing until they get old and gross-looking to other gay men. Then they begin looking for LTRs. Much like hetero women, now that I think on it a might.
almonds activated
You may be on to something. The mold-breakers I know were typically very reserved about their sexuality, generally because of their parents (as it should be, really -- why is it ever a topic of conversation?)... but I wonder if there's an aspect of "never fell into that trap" to it, as well.
If there were to be data to back that up, it'd certainly be ironic that keeping your kids in the closet as long as possible will stop them from developing degenerate tendencies.