Men vs women chores... So sexist
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I'm a single Dad with full custody and I've split my time, over the last 10 years, either working full time or staying home and raising the kids.
The middle comment is basically spot on. Men's jobs (eg working in trades) is solving a specific problem and then stopping, while women's work (ie housekeeping, child raising) never stops.
What they miss is that men's jobs are both difficult and dangerous, and men put their full effort into accomplishing them because they know they can sit at the end, while women's jobs are EASY.
Seriously think about it. Yes, if you're taking care of the house, there's always another dish, another window, another something that you could do, but none of it is hard. Same with raising kids; you could always be spending time with them but, again, it's not hard and even enjoyable.
Therefore there are two different strategies to these two different responsibilities.
When I'm working, I go 100%. I'm not fucking around, I'm here to work, to finish the job, and to go home. I'm going to do a good job, but I'm not going to drag the day out with a million breaks; I'm going to find my groove and push until I'm done.
When I'm at home, there's no rush. I take naps. I'm on call, so anytime I'm not immediately needed I try to take for myself. There is no point in getting ahead of chores because they never end. Further, I'm 100% in charge of my schedule so I usually set a time to get regular chores done, and then do what I like.
Frankly, I prefer the men's work; maybe because I'm a man, or maybe because I don't get paid to take care of the house and I know it's only a matter of time until I have to go back to work again.
If I had a partner bringing in money while all I had to do was deal with kids and chores, I'd be laughing.
Not to mention, they have a variable time frame.
If you don't do the dishes you might have to quickly scrub off a plate before dinner. Annoying but brief and simple. If you don't dust or vacuum the house is slightly dirty another day. All of the stress and time crunch of it is internally born.
Whereas the men's chores often come down to "if you don't go outside right now, we won't have a car to go to work tomorrow."
While there are obvious exceptions like a spill that needs cleaning or most stuff directly involving children, all that women's work is closer to "busy" work they created their own mythology over (I lived alone for 7 years once and never dusted to no ill issues, despite being told I needed to do it weekly by multiple women) rather than some great task.
It always needs to be done, and doing it regularly and on schedule keeps it very simple and low stress, but nobody is going to suffer much ill effect if you just don't for a bit.
My mother constantly complained to me of my room being too dusty after not vacuuming it for months, yet the trucks I have to load have so much dust that there is a clear line after four hours on my arms where my gloves end and where the dust begins that looks like the worst sunburn you've ever seen. God forbid I don't clean the toilet within like three days. It's not like people literally shit in it.
Meanwhile this is a woman who took like 9 months to get a swing built on the porch for my father by some contractor.