This is, obviously, exceedingly personal. You don’t have to read it if you don’t want to. And I apologize for it not being… “Newsworthy”.
I’m mainly just angry. And I think this shows, very clearly and close to home, just how shitty all of this has been.
Initially, I couldn’t visit because I was, and am, “inadequately vaxxed”. Then they made it boosters. Then the rules seemingly changed, but my family, my goddamn family, man, prevented me from going in there to see him, except for his birthday last year. Without outwardly saying it, they did it to punish me for my… “Non-compliance”. 😔
Then we all got Covid. But I couldn’t get an “exemption”, because life is shit.
And then, guess what? The whole ward of the nursing home got it anyway, despite none of us (me, or my father, who is “quadruple vaxxed”, or other non-blood relatives) visiting, and despite them being thrice or more “jabbed”…
So, being frail and sickly, the inevitable happened. Though it is important to note that he did not die of Covid, and was allegedly testing negative (having already had it), up to the last few days…
The nursing home wouldn’t let me see him because of the outbreak. My family (mother is his main “guardian”) also didn’t want me visiting (again), and because we don’t even share the same last name (obviously, maternal grandfather), and I can’t afford a lawyer, I hadn’t been able to secure a workaround…
It’s fucking awful. I didn’t get to say goodbye. I haven’t seen him in like, nine months or more. And my family blame me for that. Me.
The worst thing, though, was my Dad’s response: I asked him whether he had been in since I had, seeing as he is “quadruple vaxxed”, and super paranoid about Coof…
To which he said “No, and why would I? I saw him before that.”
As in, no, he didn’t want to, and even though he could, he couldn’t be bothered. This is the same man who attacked me for not visiting enough, for being unvaxxed, for not “supporting your mother enough, at this time”, and for not visiting his mother, who still lives at home, enough…
I just… Fuck these people, man. Fuck my entire family, at this point…
Tl;dr, my grandfather died, and the (supposedly coof-related) evils of the system, and of my family, prevented me from saying goodbye. For months… 😞
I’m so angry about this that it, unsurprisingly, changes my… “Attitude” towards my family.
No more Mr “Nice Guy”. It’s time to get real. They’re sick, and twisted, and they’re clearly never going to change. Unfortunately, I’m not sure I can forgive this one. Not for a long time, anyway…
Frankly, I’m just… Done.
Fuck them. Fuck them all. 😕
And fuck the society that thinks this sort of shit is “acceptable”.
I’m going to add a bit: this is not the first time.
A few years ago, before Covid, a family friend’s mother died. I was interstate. Rather than telling me, they waited until I arrived back, weeks after the funeral, to tell me that she died, and I missed it. But worse than that - they sent flowers on my behalf, without even telling me. The family friend (my age) was so upset when she learned I had no part in that, that she actively refuses to talk to me, now…
At the same time, my cat, my cat (not theirs) died, while I was away, after years of neglect and abuse by them, and when I came back and asked where he was, they just laughed. And abused me when I got, understandably, upset and angry about the whole thing. That was the same day I learned about the death of the family friend. They didn’t even bury him. They just… Chucked the body (as far as I’m aware). As you do…
And then they euthanized my dog, later that same year, without telling me, or allowing me to say goodbye. They denied it for years, though it was patently obvious. I only found out from the horse’s mouth, when they were, bizarrely, telling the then-owner of the dog they then decided to “adopt”… Who should, frankly, have run a mile, but didn’t…
That happened again (the family friend thing), during Covid, except that I was in the state, and even in the same city, but they didn’t think I was “close enough”, to my childhood best friend, anymore, to warrant being filled in…
Yeah, they’re monstrous. Let’s be clear about that…
I’m not exaggerating, and this isn’t new. 🤦🏻♂️
You wonder why I’m so fucking angry, so often?? Try growing up with that sort of parents, and extended family…
I actually think you're rather pleasant and friendly.
But holy hell, what a horror-show.
Ya seriously, I've read every word and all I can think is that this dude has been done real dirty.
Sorry to OP for having to have gone through that, but know that in the end I am sure we all learn the truth. The grandfather(RIP) knows who did, and felt, what. Peace be on all involved.
When I was just a young'n, I had a similar(although no where as severe) issue with my "family" and I couldn't handle it. I couldn't consolidate that my family whom I am supposed to trust with my life and who had always told me that they "love me" - act and behave in a 180 degree difference. That was until one day, in an arcade of all places.
It was the 90's and arcades were still a thing. I was playing something(wonderboy?) and this big rasta started playing alongside. We started chatting and for some reason I told him about shitty life. He told me, in such a calm and relaxed manner something I have always held close. Where-ever that Rasta is today - God love him !
He told me - "There are shitty people all the world over. You will find them in school, in work. In this area and that place over there. Sometimes you even find them in your family. Don't worry about them. Life is between you and Ja, the others are just testing your resolve. They are your allies, they just aren't aware of it yet so keep yourself calm and centred. Don't let those others interfere with expressing your love of life".
Prayers to you OP. I trust you will find your calm centre. Be at peace.
what the fuck man
why did you still give these people the time of day? something's obviously wrong with them.
This is so horrible and you have my deepest sympathies for what you have had to go through.
This kind of stuff is exactly what I fear from my family and why I have ensured that I am completely independent from them since I turned 18. The covid nonsense has just made everything even worse. My family used to be fairly logical and reasonable, but more and more has happened to seemingly indoctrinate them down this path that pushes them away from me.
I hope that you are able to find new people and pets to provide the support that you deserve in your life.
We can't chose our Family but we can chose to be part of the Family.
My Grandparents both died during the "Plandemic" Old age, I couldn't leave this fucking country. The fucking idiots in this country elected the fucking moron that destroyed our rights. Canada. Last time I was back visiting I didn't see them for 20+years and deep down I knew it would be the last time I would see them.
Fuck it man, I hate this stupid ass country and the people in it. I don't fly the Flag and I curse everyone in it. I hope this whole shit show collapses so I can take out my revenge on these people one day.
All I have to give is my updoots and a kind comment. Sounds like they were arseholes from the beginning and Covid gave them an excuse they wouldn't need anyway. Hope you can get past it and find happiness elsewhere, my dude.
I drew the line with my leftist whack job family many years back. Fuck them.