The Women Who are involuntary Celibates
(www.theguardian.com)
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This is an interesting attestation that I'm not sure I've heard before.
Care to expand on why settling for a less attractive woman takes an emotional toll?
Is it personal shame and disappointment you feel personally for not achieving better? Social stigma for having someone less valued attached to yourself?
My limited personal experience with dating less attractive women is that they didn't act any more humble or appreciative (I wish I could come up with a better term) and had expectations and demands as though they were of higher status anyway.
It sounds like you're going more for sex than a relationship and have set your sights on low hanging fruit, not that I'm judging, just analyzing.
Of course. Physical attractiveness is important. It's one component for our instinct to determine fertility & fitness for reproduction which is of course the entire reason for our existence. We like young attractive fit women because instinctually that means they are fertile and will produce fit offspring.
Personality is important for long term relationships, not necessarily the ability to reproduce, but certainly it is important to establish stability and an environment for raising a family.
Thanks for the elaboration 👍