I just hung out with 3 women who all do onlyfans on the weekend. One of them makes her entire living from onlyfans. Another one, used to do only fans but now doesn't do onlyfans at all. The last one does onlyfans but it's her side gig and not her day job. One of the guys I was hanging out with, who connects everyone together, considers himself a bit of a minor porn producer. He's got a dungeon in his house where all 3 girls have shot porn from.
I have a direct lens into the psyche of these people and truthfully, the problems onlyfans girls face are not unlike the same problems ALL women face. IMO, the biggest problem for these onlyfans girls is that they tend to be incredibly "leftist" and therefore the values/beliefs they grow up valuing are in fact the very values/beliefs that end up destroying them but because all their peer groups are also leftists, they never learn the truth of the matter.
They like to use drugs because drugs are cool and marijuana is the main drug of choice. This is a leftist value not just a pornstar one. They are staunchly feminist and believe in "equality" to the max. They want to be strong and independent. Yet these women all have the same tropes as any other women. They like super hot men, refuse to look at men that don't meet their high physical standards yet the women aren't that good looking and are getting chunky as they age. They're chunky because they eat mostly vegetables and are against meat eating (more leftist values).
Now of these girls I hung out with in particular they all seemed to be at different stages. The youngest was excited about what she was doing because it made more money than her last job and she likes sex but you can tell the only reason she's even bothering with all of this is because she's "dating" the porn producer guy. The second their relationship ends, that's probably it for her onlyfans career. The next onlyfans girl also shoots with her bf and she's a nurse who with just her nursing alone makes more money than her blue-collar boy toy boyfriend. You can tell she drives the whole relationship and he's just along for the ride because everything out of this guy's mouth was something he was doing for this girl and he seemed tired. I don't expect this relationship to last very long either but not because of the porn. Simply because it's a female driven modern relationship which never lasts.
Lastly, the oldest and most experienced onlyfans girl who no longer does it had gained a little weight. She was still not fat but not skinny. The normal wall look white girls get in their 30s. She was the most depressed of all of them because she's desperate for a BF but can't get one but also can't admit how much she desires a man to herself because that would undermine her "strong and independent" feminist views. She's depressed and admits it and she's seeing a psychologist. Her psychologist (a woman) told this girl she should just find a man who will take care of her. The ex-pornstar girl of course laughs with all her pornstar friends about how misogynistic her psychologist was to suggest a man should take care of her but of course that is the correct advice but the girl can't accept that because it goes against her leftist values.
Anyway, the main point I want to make is after having had experience with these women I don't actually think it's the porn in itself that destroys these women but the culmination of all the leftist values these women acquire growing up and through their peer groups that would have led her to choose to be a pornstar in the first place. If a girl decides she wants to do porn then she was already doomed in the first place to the fate she ends up because only a girl whose values/beliefs in life are so twisted to begin with is ever going to agree to it. These women had no chance for any other fate in life before they even chose to do porn. Their fates were already sealed.
All the same problems that middle aged single depressed wine and cat ladies (who've never done porn) face are the exact same problems all the pornstar girls face except they are amplified for the pornstar girls because these women are the single depressed middle aged cat ladies taken to the max.
The root problem isn't porn. The root problem is feminism. If the women didn't do porn they'd still end up as single depressed cat ladies in their 30s contemplating suicide. Porn isn't good and I don't think any girl should be contemplating doing onlyfans but we need to tackle the fundamental values and beliefs of young women in society that makes them think doing onlyfans is even a good idea in the first place.
No, this isn't it.
Tons of men, especially young men, make the mistake of thinking you can navigate women by acting certain ways. "Just say no you aren't putting up with her stupid shit and she'll like you more..." This isn't how it work, at all.
What matters is how attractive you are as a man. The more attractive you are, the more you can say and do whatever you want and she'll put up with you. The less attractive you are as a man, the more you can't just say or do whatever you want. That's it. That's all there is to it.
Women don't like you any more or less because of what you say and do to them. They don't "respect you" because you're a real man who doesn't put up with her shit or whatever. Women don't think like this at all. This is just what men tell themselves to make themselves feel superior to other men based on some sort of superior behavior. In reality, the only reason some men are more successful than other men when it comes to women has nothing to do with the games the men play with the women and everything to do with how attractive the man is. If the man is attractive he can say and do anything. If the man is attractive, it doesn't matter if he says and does all the right things, it won't work.
Most relationships have a built in expiry date to them. It doesn't matter how attractive you are or what you say or do, eventually most women will stop being attracted to the man. This appears to be innate to her programming. There's psychological reasons for this and biological ones as well. That's why you hear of the 7 year Itch, etc... it's a real phenomenon. It doesn't matter how amazing you are as a man, eventually she won't like you anymore no matter what you say or do.
I guess we know where all of the El Salvadorian criminals went...
I like the idea. You've hit on all the important pieces more-or-less but some are questionable like the adoption piece or volunteer/charitable piece.
I've come up with suffrage restrictions before and this is what I determined to be best: In order to get 1 vote, you should meet the following criteria:
- 30yo+ age requirement
- Must be 95%+ Racially White
- Must be Male (XY Chromosomes)
- Must be a 3rd generation or older immigrant or native to the country
- Must have at minimum 4 years of non-conscripted military service
- Must be a net positive tax-payer (you pay more taxes than benefits/subsidies you receive from the government)
- Must not be currently incarcerated for being convicted of a crime
This right here would mostly solve the entire voting issue, IMO.
I've heard Russia has some of the worst child support laws in the world that unjustly favor the women. Why would men have children when women can just divorce them and then get child support payments?
All these conservative leaders are too tradcucked to seriously solve the demographics issue. Women's rights need to be removed.
If you want to discuss technicalities then you are correct so let me rephrase in a manner you'll understand.
You can't change your core personality over a few quick tricks of "games" a man plays. You can be aware of all these tricks/games and try to play them but this won't change your core personality no matter how good you get at faking it.
What I'm saying is when guys are talking on the internet and someone says "just don't text her good morning every morning and then she won't get like this" I can safety say that's not it. A man would need to change absolutely everything about his core personality not just a few tricks here or there like this...because that's what ultimately this is: a reflection of his personality.
Since your personality is already mostly set-in-stone, a much bigger factor is going to be looks holding all else constant.
If a good looking man doesn't text her good morning he has a much higher chance of success than a bad looking man who doesn't.
To summarize the point I'm making. Men playing games with women doesn't work. I've seen men do this all the time and it doesn't get men anywhere. 99% of the time the men play the games, the people see right through the games to the core of the man's personality. The woman has already decided if she finds the man attractive or not and what the man does at this stage has limited impact. That's why the advice of "just be yourself" isn't actually bad advice. Men don't like this advice because then men have to accept that they aren't truly in control of the women they can or cannot obtain but that's mostly true. Men have very limited impact on their ability to get women. A man's genetics are set when he's born and so is most of his life trajectory based on his parents and this will shape his overall attractiveness. You can't run away from who you are by playing some games with women on asserting texting dominance at the start of the relationship. You're either already attractive or you're not and these little games mean mostly nothing in the end.
A great example of this is PUA shit. These guys think all the stuff they say matters but it mostly doesn't. The woman has already decided if she is going to sleep with the guy or not no matter what he says. It's just a matter of don't say anything so bad she loses all interest despite already being interested. Like on tinder when guys with hot pics tell women they were in prison for pedophilia and the girls still want to meetup to fuck.
Yes, I agree you see bad looking men with good looking women so obviously certain things other than looks matter but really, it comes down to what the woman wants and each woman is slightly different. You can try to play games all you want but most men are simply getting lucky that they are what the woman wants rather than the man actively changing things to get what he wants. Most men have very limited influence on their ability to gain women or not. That's why you have men who literally have never thought to try to get women and they end up with any woman they want and you have high IQ smart men unable to get women no matter what they do. It's not that they lack the ability to problem solve the situation, it's that they lack the genetics and upbringing to get women which is ultimately the most important thing. What you say or don't say doesn't matter because if you had what it takes to get women through superior personality you'd already say what needs to be said without thinking about it. Guys trying to improve their chances by saying/doing the right thing aren't going to change who they really are so they aren't going to have any more or less success doing this stuff. If the guy ends up successful, he was already going to be successful regardless of what he thought he should say to certain things.
These "games" are worthless. Either you're attractive (both physically and personality) or you're not. The more attractive you are the more you can say whatever you want. The less attractive you are the more you have to say/do all the right things but if it doesn't come naturally, the more you're going to fuck up so trying to focus on one thing like just don't text her in the morning isn't going to be it because there's no at that was going to be the make or break. Either you were already so attractive to begin with that it doesn't matter or you were already so unattractive to begin with no matter what you did, it was going to end poorly for you anyhow.