You're basically making the argument that residential streets are the most high risk ones because you usually have an accident near your home

Yes

being around any black male is far far far far more dangerous than being around a family member.

No, literally the opposite. Your family members are statistically more dangerous than strangers, let alone black people.

The stat you are butchering doesn't support your claim at all, even if it wasn't hugely dubious to begin with.

I'm not butchering the stat, I'm showing the misuse of it by making an identical argument. It's dubious, because the argument from the statistic is dubious in all of these cases.