This is an important point. I don't think I've ever heard the term "incel" spoken aloud by a real person I know. Same goes for the myriad of other terminally online jargon.

I think most people are just trying to go about their day and ignore the media, even though that can contribute to the problem as well they aren't actively perpetuating it.

Women do though. They are the direct channels from the jewbox. Their lingo and world view is derived from it.