I'm over a decade younger than you are and I'm in a similar boat, only I wouldn't even entertain a relationshit for a family. The divorce laws give women way too much power over men for that to be a viable option for me.
I'd say for me there's a difference between entertaining and actively seeking such a relationship, and I'm certainly not doing the latter at this point. I did hit a point where in a way I look back and wonder if I should have had a family, and I think many do at a certain age. The shriveled up cat ladies even more so than men. I don't have any real time where I set aside a real solid option in the past that would cause regret, so it's not something that bothers me. I do think most men at some point in their life seek a connection to the future, and for me that's my nephews and a close cousin all of which are probably the most important family members to me.
Same here. I would love to have kids, and would be a great dad. However, I will never participate in a system that will gladly take my kids, my house, and half of my retirement savings just to give them to a cheating whore who decided she was bored in the relationship and decided she wants to use the power of the state to destroy me.
Make sure you know the Common Law marriage laws for your area before shacking up with someone. Even if you don’t say “I do,” Uncle Sam might say it for you.
Not when there are kids involved. The lack of parental rights by default is the problem, and there is no way to avoid it, outside of surrogacy or adoption.
There's a ton legal liabilities that come with cohabitation, even without kids. They just vary by state a lot more than the ones that come with marriage and kids. The biggest problem is that she can claim common law marriage to drag you into divorce court. If your plan relies on a divorce court judge ruling against a woman you need a different plan.
I'm over a decade younger than you are and I'm in a similar boat, only I wouldn't even entertain a relationshit for a family. The divorce laws give women way too much power over men for that to be a viable option for me.
I'd say for me there's a difference between entertaining and actively seeking such a relationship, and I'm certainly not doing the latter at this point. I did hit a point where in a way I look back and wonder if I should have had a family, and I think many do at a certain age. The shriveled up cat ladies even more so than men. I don't have any real time where I set aside a real solid option in the past that would cause regret, so it's not something that bothers me. I do think most men at some point in their life seek a connection to the future, and for me that's my nephews and a close cousin all of which are probably the most important family members to me.
Same here. I would love to have kids, and would be a great dad. However, I will never participate in a system that will gladly take my kids, my house, and half of my retirement savings just to give them to a cheating whore who decided she was bored in the relationship and decided she wants to use the power of the state to destroy me.
Just don't get married -- you can live together endlessly and not have any legal obligations when it's time to bounce
Make sure you know the Common Law marriage laws for your area before shacking up with someone. Even if you don’t say “I do,” Uncle Sam might say it for you.
Not when there are kids involved. The lack of parental rights by default is the problem, and there is no way to avoid it, outside of surrogacy or adoption.
There's a ton legal liabilities that come with cohabitation, even without kids. They just vary by state a lot more than the ones that come with marriage and kids. The biggest problem is that she can claim common law marriage to drag you into divorce court. If your plan relies on a divorce court judge ruling against a woman you need a different plan.