Redditors/leftists: "she has a stable relationship and an emotional stability to have a large healthy family REEEEEEEEEEE!"
I got nothing against this especially when all these kids look this happy together, rather have 8 kids all born in on family (which both parents must be units to keep up with) than one guy pump and dumping lots of single women.
See, my only issue with someone choosing to have a large family is whether or not it's sustainable (emotionally, financially, etc etc). That's of course going to vary on a case by case scenario, and it's just a slight concern of mine, personally.
I'm generally not the kind of person who feels like it's my place to tell everyone how to live their lives though, and I'm generally not a fan of people who feel the need to pass judgement on anyone and claim some moral "superiority" (Like the nutjobs in that thread).
From a historical perspective, I 100% understand why larger families were often a positive or useful thing. I am far from unaware of that. I just have trouble seeing it as being consistently ideal in modern times, particularly for me personally.
For me it has nothing to do with selfishness or hedonism like it might be for some, so much as recognizing my limitations in how thinly I can spread myself, emotionally and mentally, across multiple things on a regular basis.
And I'd rather not muck things up for my kids simply because I and my partner decided to have more kids than we could manage.
Redditors/leftists: "she has a stable relationship and an emotional stability to have a large healthy family REEEEEEEEEEE!"
I got nothing against this especially when all these kids look this happy together, rather have 8 kids all born in on family (which both parents must be units to keep up with) than one guy pump and dumping lots of single women.
See, my only issue with someone choosing to have a large family is whether or not it's sustainable (emotionally, financially, etc etc). That's of course going to vary on a case by case scenario, and it's just a slight concern of mine, personally.
I'm generally not the kind of person who feels like it's my place to tell everyone how to live their lives though, and I'm generally not a fan of people who feel the need to pass judgement on anyone and claim some moral "superiority" (Like the nutjobs in that thread).
From a historical perspective, I 100% understand why larger families were often a positive or useful thing. I am far from unaware of that. I just have trouble seeing it as being consistently ideal in modern times, particularly for me personally.
For me it has nothing to do with selfishness or hedonism like it might be for some, so much as recognizing my limitations in how thinly I can spread myself, emotionally and mentally, across multiple things on a regular basis.
And I'd rather not muck things up for my kids simply because I and my partner decided to have more kids than we could manage.
You are describing hedonism. You just don’t want to admit it to yourself.