it seems more like a societal issue than the institution of marriage itself
More precisely it's the fact that the culture and legal system encourages women to destroy the marriage and rewards them when they do. It's just not a smart risk to take with the system being the way it is right now. "Life-ruining coin flip" is an apt way of describing it.
The couples who believe in the traditional covenant of marriage, those who regularly go to church, believe in God, and or have a better balance on life/ ratio make a better go of it than many others I know.
If there were a reliable of finding a woman who a) has those beliefs) and b) won't change her mind the minute things get a little hard then marriage would make more sense. Of course fixing the systems that reward women's bad behavior would be even better. As it stands any man who gets married is gambling with his future and the odds are terrible.
While all couples can have conflicts, traditionally the try their all to work things out.
They don't do that anymore because the woman can just discard the man and steal his assets. The incentives for healthy relationships and marriage just aren't there. The system is pretty much designed to destroy families.
Those who cling to the dysgenic system will mostly die out over time. Reject the system and thrive. If it was that simple these problems would be solved in a couple of generations. But there are a few other pressures. There are solutions, but they will not be comfortable, but better in the long run.
Secede in place: separate your energy and support from the institutions.
Separate and build anew: Remove yourself physically and financially.
Revolt against the modern world: Consciously use your energy in opposition to the modern paradigm.
More precisely it's the fact that the culture and legal system encourages women to destroy the marriage and rewards them when they do. It's just not a smart risk to take with the system being the way it is right now. "Life-ruining coin flip" is an apt way of describing it.
If there were a reliable of finding a woman who a) has those beliefs) and b) won't change her mind the minute things get a little hard then marriage would make more sense. Of course fixing the systems that reward women's bad behavior would be even better. As it stands any man who gets married is gambling with his future and the odds are terrible.
They don't do that anymore because the woman can just discard the man and steal his assets. The incentives for healthy relationships and marriage just aren't there. The system is pretty much designed to destroy families.
Those who cling to the dysgenic system will mostly die out over time. Reject the system and thrive. If it was that simple these problems would be solved in a couple of generations. But there are a few other pressures. There are solutions, but they will not be comfortable, but better in the long run.